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There's some element of saying the right thing in the right way at the right time, strong social skills, but yes also body language.
"Saying the right thing at the right time", is what I call "shocking, playful honesty".
Therefore, you never have to worry about "saying the right thing", because you're just speaking your mind.
and when you say what you're thinking, it's always congruent. You're never the nice guy hiding his intentions with butler behavior or long-winded conversations.
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Like Arch is saying, I think one of the ways to develop inner game is to talk to women and people more, to the point where you get very good at it. You can learn how to be captivating and fun, which I think are couple key elements of charisma.
I'm a big believer in a balanced approach, like a great football team, strong in all areas and unbeatable. That approach consists of gym ethic, decent clothes (doesn't have to be GQ), confidence, and playfulness.
Since you are confident and saying what you think, you're never thinking "what should I say or do to impress this woman?" That thought never pops up. however, what you should be thinking is, "does this woman impress me? Is she good enough?".