I met a girl on Tinder, we dated for 3 months. She is 25 and I am 35 so there's an age gap.
Things were going really well but then one day she just said that she needed to be single, that I was so much further along in my career and my life that it scared her, made her think about kids and marriage and she wasn't ready for that, even though I never pushed these topics. She said that she loved me and that I was the best guy she's ever dated and that maybe we could get back together in a while but she needed time, she even came over and spent the night the same night she dumped me. I discontinued contact, she started messaging me a week later and was just sending me nice messages, wishing me a good day, etc. I told her that I wasn't ready to be friends via text and froze her out for another week.
We started texting a few a weeks ago and building up rapport. About 8 days ago she was texting asking how I was doing so I said "why don't we meet up, and catch up in person" her response was "I don't think it's the best idea for me, I am trying to abstain from dating and kissing and boys". I said "Kissing? A lot of assumptions going on
I just thought it would be fun to catch up, lmk if you change your mind" She wrote back 3 days later saying "Maybe its presumptuous but I think if we hung out it would likely lead to kissing, I am in fact addicted to kissing" I wrote back with the OK hand emoji and nothing else, this was last Wednesday.
In the mean time I have been subtly doing things on FB, adding new friends mostly cute girls, checking into singles bars, restaurants, posting workouts from Strava. Last week she liked a post that my brother tagged me about a concert and then I posted an after-workout abs pic and she liked it within 30 seconds of me posting it. Mind you she has never liked a single thing I ever posted in the whole 5 months that we have known each other.
So yesterday she FB messages me to ask how work is going, I haven't replied. I haven't written her in about 8 days now and the last we spoke was her turning me down to hang out. she tends to message me when I post stuff or other girls like or comment on my posts.
My thought is is to wait 6 more days, so a full 14 days of no communication. Keep the FB campaign going, post a pic or something with another girl.
Text her this coming weekend and try to get her to hang out again. Any thoughts? Any ideas of what I should say when I break the silence? Should I even acknowledge the message asking about my job, or just pretend like I never saw it and start anew? I think I am close here, just need some help at nailing it.
Thanks!!