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I see OP more at fault here....these are just my thoughts. 4 years, 27 year old chick, and a child. Now I dont think she's looking for financial support from you due to the child, if that was the case, she wont have ended it. She couldve fucked new guy miles away, come back and taken your money. I would imagine, from her point of view, she's been with you 4 years and you are not leading it anywhere. Wtf is "open" to having children...at 36? Thats fine if you're 36 and single, not 36 and 4 years deep with a chick at 27. Espec, with a child already there. "Plans of moving in", "open to kids"....thats not security for a chick at her age, with a child and 4 years in. Her best years are gone, going and she prob doesnt want to be a single mother/gf at 30. Now, that doesnt mean she's using you...its a security thing. And 4 years already gone. You could move in or not. You could want kids or decide not to. You could want marriage or decide to continue dating. So I could see how a chick can just leave that situation when you're not leading the relationship anywhere. Yeah, she fucked a guy, prob planned to fuck this guy, I could kinda get it if youve given her 4 years of "dating" with no serious idea where things are going. I read it as, she prob doesnt want to fuck because she'll get drawn back into a relationship that's not going anywhere where you 2 dont sound like you're on the same page. She prob fucked this guy, he didnt take her seriously and she realized you were the option remaining. You 2 should prob not be together, but you didnt give this girl much security when it comes to where things are heading to. She may not want your financial support, but you gave her 4 years and no security.
Here's why I wouldn't count out financial. She's finishing school and the timing on a breakup is odd. She's 27 years old with a kid and moving up in her tax bracket soon. 27 is relatively young and makes her a prime target for educated men in the OP's age group but the kid takes away from that. Her walking out is more likely a "what else is out there" type of thing and any guy she looks at now has to be able to provide what she will be able to provide.