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I would like to start by letting you know that, I appreciate your constructive criticism here. Like I said, I am clueless about how others get gfs in colleges. I don't even know what I am doing wrong with my life. Why I never had a gf. Its true that I never told a girl taht she is cute, its becuase I knew girls would say LJBF. The bottom line is, no girls were attracted to me when I was in HS. Why? I had no social skills, I had no friends and I was always studying at home. BUT, starting this year, I went out on campus and started to meet random girls, shook their hands, and started to develop social skills. I am trying to know girls on my campus. So, in summary, I am 21 in college and still a virgin. I am saying I want a girlfriend, but what I really want is to kiss a girl and have sex with her, and the only way to fulfill that desire is by having a girlfriend.
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It's clear that you have no self-confidence and see yourself as a relatively low-value individual. Women will pick up on this too. Forget about PUA material for a minute and look at your mental attributes. The number one thing women look for (or at least are attracted to) in a man is confidence. Confidence in your self, confidence in different environments, confidence in ability to perform different tasks. If you are insecure instead it will have the opposite effect. You clearly see yourself as not good enough for women in a lot of ways which is why you are writing about your looks, negative outlook on finding a girlfriend and even your desperate need for one rather than just to go out, have fun with your friends and meet women along the way.
Why do I have no self-confidence? Its primarily due to my body image. It sounds so feminine, but its real. I am ok looking on my face, but I lack in height, a natural peacocking, something that every guy has in here. Its not like I am like Style, I am 5'3". See how its negatively affecting my inner game. I know that average looking girls won't even care about my height if I am very confident myself. I know that for fact. But I highly doubt that for the attractive ones. When I started to learn game, my mission was to get an avergage looking girlfriend, have sex, learn more, get more confidence, and then start doing more pickups. But, even the average looking ones are taken.
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If I were you I'd also get rid of the idea of having a serious girlfriend. I think you're quite needy due to low confidence which is why you just want someone to love you. If you want to find a high quality girlfriend however you will need to practice with others first. Picking up women is the same as playing sport for example. You can't go out and expect to play football like Ronaldo. In pickup you can't expect to go out as an AFC and find a 10 or even a 7. You need to practice your techniques on girls who are interested in you. You should then fuck these girls.
I totally agree with you. I don't feel substance within myself. In high school, I was the valedictorian, all A's. So my confidence was actually my arrogance in doing well in school. When I came to college, I lost all that. I need to be good at something. I dont have that much confidence. I know for sure, that if I am with an attractive girl, I will screw up on dates, and on sex. She will be expecting a lot more from me, which I dont have, and can't give her bc I have ZERO experience. You said I should practice my techniques on girls who are interested in me. I had no girls in my life interested in me, which made be to believe that whether a girl will ever be interested in me. I am telling you, if ONE average looking girl (given that she isn't overweight) is interested in me, I will have sex with her. I mean what am I doing wrong here? I see blue-collared workers having girlfriends (no offense to them). If they can have girlfriends, and sex, then why can't I? This is why I am so clueless. Can you help me out here?
I don't know what you really look like so can only guess based on what you wrote.....
All I can say is that even if you're 5"3 and have a face perfect for radio you can still get laid off of average looking girls. However because of your limiting beliefs and lack of experience you are going to have to make a tough decision. You can either remain in your present position of being asexual of you can start picking up below average girls.
I don't mean doing charity work on 1s and 2s. Maybe you can aim for 4s? The type of girls who have a couple of faults. Maybe she's pretty but is overweight? Maybe she could be attractive but doesn't make the effort to dress well and doesn't take care of her general appearance? Maybe she's boring and or uneducated? I'm sure you get what I mean....
Not saying to look for relationships with 4s or to promise them anything but you have to start somewhere. You seem like you need validation from women and by having sex with some below average quality girls you will at least have some good experiences. I'm sure you'll meet ones you have a strong physical connection with even if you don't find them hot. If you have good sex even with girls you aren't that attracted to you'll feel better about yourself. Gaming these girls who are obtainable to anyone would also allow you to practice PUA also.
Along with lowering your expectations initially I'd seriously invest in my appearance if I were you. The first thing you need to know about women is that they're more likely to sleep with a man who's well-dressed and well-groomed but not naturally attractive than they are with guys who are naturally better-looking but badly groomed. It would at least give you hope while increasing your chances of scoring.
Seriously though the key is to work on your skills you need to interact with other people. Women sleep with men who entertain them and who are fun to be around even if they don't think they look perfect.
I have a friend who's below average height and is overweight big time. He's around 5"7 250lbs and has stretch-marks all over his body where he used to be bigger and his skin has been pulled. Since I taught him PUA he has been sleeping with multiple women for two years and has even picked up 8s and 9s. Women tell me they find him completely unattractive physically yet they want to sleep with him for some reason they can't explain. If he can do it you can. He has developed a legendary level of confidence, something you need to work on clearly...
Also wealth doesn't matter. I don't have a job currently and still sleep with extremely hot women. Lots of them are wealthy and all are high-educated/intelligent as it's the type I go for. I tell them when we meet that I'm a bum who spends his days in the garden or betting on sports. I just make a joke of it and it becomes a non-issue. Women don't care because I can turn them on regardless. You have to realise that women are not making a logical choice when it comes to who they sleep with. It's purely emotional. They want/need to be seduced. If you can make them feel certain emotions then they will sleep with you too regardless of your job, wealth, natural looks etc...