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Author: | Brazen2 [ Tue Mar 07, 2017 5:21 pm ] |
Post subject: | Losing My Cool |
Hey all, there's something that happens to me each time in the end or when I'm around a girl a lot (like a classmate, or at camp, etc) I start losing my initial energy, start being less witty, less enthusiastic and less sharp. It's not like I physically or mentally get tired, just that my energy for it all dissapears. Then I start losing my value over time and this is noticed (subconsciously) by the girls I'm hitting on, making me fade away. It's like a flame sizzling away, you know? I don't know how to keep up my game and stay the rad awesome guy as I was at first. |
Author: | JackZero [ Tue Mar 07, 2017 6:13 pm ] |
Post subject: | Re: Losing My Cool |
Does this happen while running your game or just being your normal everyday self? |
Author: | Brazen2 [ Fri Mar 17, 2017 1:31 pm ] |
Post subject: | Re: Losing My Cool |
Quote: Does this happen while running your game or just being your normal everyday self?
Hey man sorry for a bit of a late reply but couldn't get on here.But anyway... A better way to state this is "losing my frame" than losing my cool since I'm not getting mad or something. I hope I made that part understandable This happens during game only really, since I need to be more sharp when I'm actively pursuing my interests during some situation. When I'm just by myself and friends, chilling or whatever, all is well and I don't really lose energy. |
Author: | JackZero [ Fri Mar 17, 2017 5:17 pm ] |
Post subject: | Re: Losing My Cool |
Quote: Quote: Does this happen while running your game or just being your normal everyday self?
Hey man sorry for a bit of a late reply but couldn't get on here.But anyway... A better way to state this is "losing my frame" than losing my cool since I'm not getting mad or something. I hope I made that part understandable This happens during game only really, since I need to be more sharp when I'm actively pursuing my interests during some situation. When I'm just by myself and friends, chilling or whatever, all is well and I don't really lose energy. If I'm right about what's happening with you, the best thing you can do is learn how to be socially aware/socially respectful and at the same time be unapologetically yourself. A better way to put it is be "charmingly yourself". It's genuine and real which is something that is a shock to most girl's system. |
Author: | Eddie Fews [ Fri Mar 17, 2017 6:03 pm ] |
Post subject: | Re: Losing My Cool |
The fact that you're aware of this is an issue when it comes to your game. Frame control is more important than your wit. I can show you some of the least funny, least intelligent, non witty guys, that still get laid. Is this happening after you're sleeping with the women or while you're pursuing? If its while you're pursuing its probably because you're investing in them, liking them more, and now becoming more conscious of everything you do and say because you don't want to mess things up. Which is exactly how you mess things up. The problem here is.. You give a fuck. When you get more girls and lose a few and get new ones you'll experience this less and less. Stay active. |
Author: | Brazen2 [ Sat Mar 18, 2017 7:28 pm ] |
Post subject: | Re: Losing My Cool |
Quote: Quote: Quote: Does this happen while running your game or just being your normal everyday self?
Hey man sorry for a bit of a late reply but couldn't get on here.But anyway... A better way to state this is "losing my frame" than losing my cool since I'm not getting mad or something. I hope I made that part understandable This happens during game only really, since I need to be more sharp when I'm actively pursuing my interests during some situation. When I'm just by myself and friends, chilling or whatever, all is well and I don't really lose energy. If I'm right about what's happening with you, the best thing you can do is learn how to be socially aware/socially respectful and at the same time be unapologetically yourself. A better way to put it is be "charmingly yourself". It's genuine and real which is something that is a shock to most girl's system. But it might be that I'm not entirely sure of who I am as a guy and what my role is. I suppose getting to know that is part of self development, and once I know that for sure, I'll drop any frame that doesn't fit. Quote: The fact that you're aware of this is an issue when it comes to your game. Frame control is more important than your wit. I can show you some of the least funny, least intelligent, non witty guys, that still get laid.
You are right about me investing more because I'm interested. I can specifically recall a moment during camping that I had this girl I met there, convinced she was mine, not wanting to fuck it up with her and thus giving too many fucks. It made everything feel like I was walking on eggshells and I'm pretty sure that affected my game. So it made her more distant and ultimately fucked with my success with other girls there. I shouldn't have been attached to her. I gave a fuck because I didn't see how, because of there being more girls, that she was disposable even in a bit smaller community like on camping.
Is this happening after you're sleeping with the women or while you're pursuing? If its while you're pursuing its probably because you're investing in them, liking them more, and now becoming more conscious of everything you do and say because you don't want to mess things up. Which is exactly how you mess things up. The problem here is.. You give a fuck. When you get more girls and lose a few and get new ones you'll experience this less and less. Stay active. |
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