I take them ice skating, bowling, trail bike riding (depending on season) because they usually have an outdoorsy personality (they like camping/hiking etc.). If we just go for coffee, watch a movie, hang out in the house watching Netflix etc. I think they would get bored since they like to be active. Girls always say they like adventure.
I have an outdoorsy personality, and I live in an outdoor paradise in the Rocky Mountains. I have NEVER taken a girl out on these kinds of dates the first night. We meet at a bar for a drink, and that's it.
Girls do say they like adventure. But do you know what kind? They won't tell you, but they want to do shots, snort a line, then have insane orgasms until they lay crumpled on the bed. After a few weeks of that, they'll want to snuggle after and have you tell them your secrets. This is the adventure they want early on: A dominant male who is emotionally centered, and who makes them orgasm, hard. They want passion, not bike dates.
Your big dates are too much, too soon. It makes you look like you're aiming for marriage, and that you're not very good with women.
Wow, I feel like I've been blind all my life. What I thought was making me appear as a genuine guy who's not just interested in her for sex has portrayed me as not being good with women.
I am not touching any of these women, which is what brought me here to this forum. I've been spending more time sending engaging text messages than meeting in person.
In texts we share details/information about our week (eg. how was her week? what did you do that was exciting? and then they ask me the same question back and I describe an event i attended or activity I did).
Wow that's boring as hell.
Women like a man who is ambitious, has goals and does things etc. so I'm always doing something notable/different every week outside of school.
Women like a man who takes charge, who escalates on the first date, who tosses them around in bed. This is the FIRST step in a relationship. If you aren't doing this, you have no chance with attractive women.
All my life I've never been a very touchy-person and this has made escalating on dates very difficult. I don't know when it's appropriate to touch someone because I'm afraid they might call me out on it.
From this forum, I'm starting to learn about using touch when telling stories during an emotional part of the story. I hope to implement this on the next date I go to.
Is the consensus here that I should share these stories in person in a simple environment e.g. bars, cafes, in the house etc. rather than text or going on complicated dates?
Do you want to be friends with these women, or have sex with them?
My goal is to have sex with them. I haven't been able to get to that point yet. My last relationship lasted 1 year. It was a platonic relationship with only kissing. She initiated the first kiss on the 2nd day we hung out. I tried to have sex but she said "no" very subtly. Now I'm thinking that was just a shy "no"