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My aim is to get laid. Once I sleep with someone attractive I'm going to feel great. It feels like there's a lot at stake. I have been trying (not too hard mind, I know how it goes) but progress is slow.
I don't miss my girlfriend. I just want to feel like I've moved on in all aspects, I guess I want to feel like a REAL stud like I used to. So obviously it means a lot to me in terms of confidence, happiness, satisfaction, etc
And I think, that even if I don't consciously notice myself behaving differently because of it, that on some level I'm screwing up opportunities to get laid. Hence the slow progress..
To sum it up, apart from 'stop thinking about it too much', how do I stop the fact I'm dying for that BUZZ you get from sexual success, affecting my mindset?
Amen, exact same problem here. It looks like the more I try to advance, (more number closing, more cold approaches) The more I screw up oppurtunities. I'm thinking it's because the women sense I am eager but just not experienced enough to close. I guess I should either play 'hard to get' or 'confidence all the way' but not something in between. I'm getting great IOI's since I started learning about Gambler's DHV method. I'm getting better, but the progress is so slow. I think congruency is the problem here. Anyone has tips for that?
I used to be an asshole and be very popular. Had lots of confidence, now that I'm getting more mature it all seems much harder. I'm guessing cause I care too much about what people think of me.