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Theres this girl and shes pretty cool and i think she's DTF. I think if i gave it a little time she'd come around but right now i think she's kinda feeling me out.
So i introduced myself and got her facebook.
She would message me right back on facebook after about 10-15 minutes and rarely after and hour or 2 (she messaged me at 2 am one day) and i would usually send her a message back in like 30 minutes since i didnt sit around on facebook waiting for her. Then i got her number and acted like i didnt know who it was and she sent me a picture of her face. We talked and long story short we ended up hanging out. the day after we hung out i was with a friend in her vicinty about to get food and i wanted to see her again (i leave in 5 days) so i texted her and it went like this
Me: Got plans?
Her: (2 hours later) Kinda. Why?
Me: Ah i was gonna see if you wanted to chill
Her: Ahh i cant tonight sorry
Me: All good next time
Idk if its a bad sign that she didnt say when she would be able to chill or if im overthinking it. I dont really have time to wait her out so waht are some things i can do to know whether or not she's interested NOW
in general i hate inviting girls on dates over a text message from 3 reasons :
1. you cannot feel here vibe , if there is attraction missing or comfort or whatever ,its just words so its really hard to know where you are at .
2. it may convey that you are "scared" of calling her . calling is harder than texting and they know that.
3. it may feel a bit cheep to the girl - and she wants to be asked out properly .
in addition :-
you said that you guys hung out , how was it ? how did you feel with her ? was there a kiss ? any escalation ? no info on that .
- you said that you want to "chill " which basically means that you wanted to hang out with here specifically , so i would try saying that i am already doing something anyway and she could join .. like smoking a cigar at a coffee shop ,going out for a walk or whatever ... somthing that will happen with her or without allegidly .
- next time she replays after 2 hours you an also try somthing like : "hi , i wanted to invite you to the coolest place ever , but anyway i am already here talk to you later..."
that why she will learn to answer faster , and after that no matter what she writes you don't replay . and you call the next day to set a date , without ever telling her where you were the day before.
what to do now ?
call her and set a date