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I invite her out for coffee the following week, I find out that she likes to talk alot (which is really good for me as I'm not very talkative!)
I suggest she come out with me and my friends the following friday to the student union bar, and that she can drive down and stay over. She did! By the end of the evening we'd done almost everything but sex, as she tells me she doesn't want it to be a one night stand and doesn't want to do it that night.
I was also given ample opertunities to initiate kino but I didn't and upon parting ways I kissed her on the cheek instead of her lips, which I feel may have been the wrong choice!
The problem is that I'm thinking the more she gets to know me, the more she's seeing a fairly geeky (game artist), boring guy...I'm not very impulsive or forward, and the fact that we made out before talking was probably down to the alcohol more than anything!
Never take a girl on a coffee date, it is too CHUD or AFC, everyone does it.
Small steps in kino. Start with just simple hand holding, don't go too big.
About the not having sex, it mean's she is experience LMR (Last minute Resistance) Every interaction you've had with her involved a make-out session, she may think that it's the only thing on your mind. If you ask and she says "No" you just tell her "I understand". That's it.
In the comfort building phase, you have to be consistent with the character you presented in Attraction phase. You are a Alpha male, etc...If you are in comfort and you are suddenly sees' Beta male, she will notice. So just stay the way you were. Look at most relationships, girls have their diamonds, guys have their games. She will view you playing video games and your think as something "you enjoy" and you view her "hobbies and other activities" as something "she enjoys".
You won't lose attraction, she went to your campus so she is interested in you. Just have a session with her and don't make out just build comfort. Then she will realize that you aren't with her just to have a kissing toy and she will appreciate that, and maybe after all these sessions without you making out with her she will put the moves on you and want sex.
I made the mistake of getting girls in comfort to make out and get sex. Never got a call back. I had 2 makeout session / 6 and she was wondering why we weren't kissing as much, I simply said "I want to get to know you much better, I don't always want to be making out, then I will only remember you as the girl I made out with..." later on she put the moves on me then I got sex out of it. Boy she was a devil in bed lol.
Hope this helps you out dude