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I like to think of attraction as something that is just there for everyone, but to a varying degree. There isn't really a fool proof method to get everyone to like you but there are some simple things you can do socially to help improve your chances of having someone find you more likeable rather then less likable if you have a lot of trouble in social situations.
The first thing to consider is your first impression, due to the halo effect the better a first impression you make on someone, the more likely they will be biased towards you being good in general. Since this is the first thing that will have an impact on your interaction this is fairly important to take care of and improve upon.
-Physical Fitness
-Grooming (hair style can impact how your face looks in relation, making you look more or less handsome, so a nice haircut can work in your favor, where as a bad haircut can work against you)
-Hygiene (most people like being around people that smell nice, seem clean and have nice teeth)
-Posture and Body Language (good posture is a turn on for most, and a person with good body language can make something relatively boring seem interesting just by how they are animated when they speak)
-Fashion (style is fairly subjective but if you appeal to a persons sense of style it can be a huge turn on, think about the type of girls you have a thing for style wise and see what you can do about appealing to that niche from a style point of view)
-Speaking Clearly and Confidently
To find women who are already fairly attracted to you to begin with just based on appearance can help make things go much more smoothly. Search for posts on the forum about approach invitations (AI), learn what they are, learn how to spot them and start acting on them in your day to day life when you notice them. You will get more approach invitations the more you improve upon the above check list.
After that is handled some other things that can help you are things like:
-Testing and Building compliance (this gives you a general idea for how far a girl will go for you, and eventually gets you far by actually ''making moves'', it helps you gauge how difficult it will be to move things along, also see foot in the door theory and the ben franklin effect, they apply here)
-Establishing Commonalities (having things in common with people, makes them feel connected to you, there is more propinquity between two people who establish that through rapport)
-Breaking Rapport when things are getting stale (doing things that go against the rapport can help liven up a conversation that is getting dull, break rapport too much and people either won't take you seriously or they will find you annoying, don't do it enough and they might find you boring, you shouldn't worry about it too much though, focus more on the person in front of you, it is something you have to feel out because everyone is different and there is no magic amount of rapport breaking to do that works for everyone, some people like to joke around and will respect you for that, some people are just deadpan serious and won't respect you if you joke around too much, just feel them out)
-Trying to make girls feel safe and secure around you, allowing them to open up without judging them, lowering their guards so they don't feel too easy etc.
-Going first in nearly everything, reducing social risk for the other person, assuming the responsibility of that risk for yourself
-Frame Control (keeping the meaning of the interaction and the mood conducive to your goals)
Basically just think of it as, scouting out a girl who thinks you are physically passable. Once you have, then get to know her and just be your regular self, put in an effort to keep you and her in a good mood. See what she is like and if she is the sort of girl you wouldn't mind hanging out with. Shamelessly flirt while going further and further until you see how far things turn out. The more physically attractive she finds you, the less it matters if she likes you, and the more she likes you, the less it matters how physically attractive she finds you. Compliance will basically tell you everything you need to know and building it is an easy way to get somewhere, if a girl doesn't want to do anything sexual with you, she will let you know via non-compliance and then you can just move on to find a girl who actually finds you attractive. You want to maximize the benefits for her, and minimize the risks of starting a relationship with you. Always respect yourself too think WIN/WIN situation rather then WIN/LOSE.
Stay confident in yourself and your decisions and just assume you are likable to begin with, be respectful and welcoming of others until they give you a reason not to be and you may find others mirror you and treat you the same and feel the same.
GOOD LUCK
Thank you for this. I'll study all this stuff