We've all been there, we've all had the same challenge where we are pushed a little harder than most HB's push us.
That's right, the "too confident",HB.
She takes your negs like compliments, and your compliments like negs. Nothing blows her frame, she has the permanent stand off-ish personality.
But there is one similarity about every over confident person out there, 9 out of 10 overly confident people hold the same familiar frame, and when its pointed out to them, it's mind blowing because it's so true.
This is a good cold reading routine for a confident person/HB. It applies generally to a lot of people which most cold reads are but most HB's and people don't know it. To them it's like you just opened up their most vulnerable emotions. In which case,if addressed in a very nonchalant but inspiring way, it goes a long way.
So when faced with an over confident HB when you are able to start C1(connection making) this is a great routine to run to gain rapport and spark a curiosity in the HB.
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I noticed this, you're a very confident person,
and you know you are too, it's a good mind frame to have.
It's hard to always hold that frame,
It will break sometimes
and since it was up for so long
and since it was so tough to hold that.
it comes down hard.
Real hard.
I'm the same way
You and I are very alike in that way
So I know how it is when you try so hard.
But cant hold that frame
and since you cant hold it, it makes it that much worse.
So it comes down even more, way harder.
Then you get put down, and all upset.
and it takes some time to get your mind frame back up to where it was,
But it always gets back.
I can tell your the type
To invest a lot into people
Way more than most other people you associate with.
You're smart about it though
You dont fully invest to everyone
You're very particular
In who exactly you choose to fully invest to.
and when you do.
You invest so much.
The only ones who can break you
Are the ones you've invested yourself into
fully invested.
Being so confident is good, and then it's bad, but I like that.
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It's a good cold read, then you can routine out of it, start building rapport in another way. and I guarantee while you do, she'll be thinking about what you just said, and if it hits home enough, she'll be thinking about it all week.
Tell me what you guys think?
-Shawoo
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