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Girls see relationships very differently to guys, a lot of girls feel they want to know someone a lot better before fucking them. From what i can see here it seems like you didn't care about trying to
1. make yourself as desirable as possible, by teasing and suchforth.
2. Make her feel happy while shes with you.
If she barely knows you then you need to at least make her feel like she does and that all about making her comfortable. Its difficult to rush women, you need to make them want to do everything, and then it will be easy.
I'm very new to this and so do not know if that is correct game, but it seems it would work. Please correct me if mistaken.
This guy has the jest of it. You're okay at progressing but it doesn't sound like you know how to handle things properly and smoothly.
And from your response of "its not the case at all," you clearly are not great at reading the situation.
First of all, why would you say you were bored on a date. What girl (or person) wants to hear that the person they're spending time with is bored. You're supposed to be building attraction.
If you were building that attraction properly on the beach, you wouldn't have needed to change venues. You did so because things were getting stale because of your lack of skill so introducing a new place might have "changed things up a bit."
She did seem generally interested in you, thats why you got at least something from this chick. But you were too pushy without building enough attraction and thats why you faced LMR. You could have overcame it if you knew how to handle the situation, but you didn't. Read around, in this situation, you needed to take the responsibility on to yourself, a.k.a. diffuse the "anti-slut defense."
i.e. While you're making out, GO SLOW and say something like "Its going to be alright, I'm not going to do anything you're not comfortable with, and if you are uncomfortable, you let me know." And you foreplay that shit slowly and most times girls will just go with it. Not all girls are going to give it up easily.
So whats there to do from here? If you want this girl, you need to recover, play it cool, build attraction again, and LEARN to take responsibility when the occasion arises.
I would wait a couple more days before texting her with something along the lines of.
"Hey, Hows it going? I know I may have been a little pushy last time, but its rare I feel something like that night and I just had to act on it. Next time, I'll make sure to advance when we're both comfortable. Hear from you soon."
thanks, I guess I didn't explain myself right becuase again it's not the situation at all, maybe it's what you get from as I wrote it.
When we kissed I actually didn't tell her I am bored I just stopped and told her I want a ciggarete so my bad, I didn't explain myself right.
About the change venues thing, I clearly didn't change venue because there wasn't enough attraction, We been on the beach for like 2 hours and as I said it went great, non silent moments, non boring convos, alot of funny stories and stuff.
The reason why I wanted to change venue is:
A. it's always a good thing to do.
B. that pub is very close to my place. (we ended up fooling in my car but the original plan was to take her to my place and it would be much easier thing to do from the pub).
The reason I told the other guy that it's not the case is because she did had a good time while we been toghter, I was never pushy as you said, and about teasing her and stuff it's part of me anyways and I always do that.
I was not getting LMR because she wasn't attracted enough to me, I was getting it because she dosen't want to have sex on the first date, I didn't mention that both of us are 18, and girls at that age has a different mentality about having sex right away.
About what you said on handling that LMR, This is somthing I will sure try, thanks.