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Met this chick at a local club (I'm not a club goer; 1st time in a thousand years) We talked a bit, danced and made out passionately for a while. Touched her pretty much everywhere.Tried to take her home, she couldn't go.
I said ok goodbye. She said I should have her number. I said no, that's ok. She insisted that I get her number. I still said no, and that I wanted to fuck her that very night, not later.
Good.
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but we did talk about the possibility of getting together and fucking multiple times on either Wednesday or Thursday. We discussed pretty much everything we were gonna do to each other in bed when we were texting.
Not so good.
This isn't necessarily a game breaker OP, but in general, don't talk about fucking unless you're already fucking. Don't talk about what you "would" do to each other, because you haven't done anything yet.
Sexual tension needs to be capitalized on in person. You can flirt, imply, use innuendo's, all that good stuff, but don't go all out over text.
Reason for that is once you do it, the cards are virtually on the table. There's less excitement, less uncertainty, and you can't create that "it just happened" and "in the moment" vibe. For most people that's half the fun.
Anyway, don't half ass your date invites. None of that "what are you doing later?". It looks like you're asking for permission, and if she's busy your conversation is dead.
If you want to see her, simply say "Hey, let's get together for X activity at Y time". Clear time, clear place, clear date-like activity. That means no coffee, no lunch, no safeplay. It means drinks, your house, drinks at your house, whatever you feel works. If she says yes, cool. If she says she can't, ask her to choose a day that works and see how that fits your schedule.
As far as how to initiate, instead of asking "How do I do it" why don't you say "So I'm think about initiating like this, what do you guys think?".
Point is, ask for feedback, not spoon feeding. You won't learn anything if we do it for you.
As a pointer though, it can be anything from a funny meme, an inside joke, or a highpoint from your previous conversation.