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Author:  pprince [ Fri Apr 21, 2017 5:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Took her number, asked her out...

I'm sitting in this cafe. She's at the next table with her friend.

There's a lot of me checking her out and her mirroring my movements.

So I get up suddenly and go out, she jumps out of the chair and follows me outside! I say hi and ask what her name is, shake her hand, she asks for my name and I say I think She's really pretty (She is fucking hot, easily a 9). She loves it and giggles.

I ask for her number and say I want to take her out. She giggles and says: "but I don't know you!" And I say that I want to change that! She giggles and gives me her number.

We go back inside and sit at our respective tables and I leave when I finish my coffee.

The next day around 9:00 (yesterday, Thursday) I go Corey Wayne's style and texted her: Hey, when are you free to get together next week?

Normally I would warm a new girl up a little but this time went straight to asking her out.

No response until this morning around 8 am saying: weekdays are kinda hard because she works until 6 and then goes home, blah blah blah..."

So I texted: When is good for you?

No response yet after 3 hours!

Any ideas, suggestions, or advice?

Thanks!

Author:  Arch Stanton [ Fri Apr 21, 2017 6:15 pm ]
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The next day around 9:00 (yesterday, Thursday) I go Corey Wayne's style and texted her: Hey, when are you free to get together next week?
9 am?

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Normally I would warm a new girl up a little but this time went straight to asking her out.
Good. There's no reason to "warm up".
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No response until this morning around 8 am saying: weekdays are kinda hard because she works until 6 and then goes home, blah blah blah..."

So I texted: When is good for you?
Corey Wayne is really knowledgeable, IMHO, but I don't agree with the "when is good for you?" route. I prefer, "Let's do drinks at Bar X, 9pm, Saturday.

She said weekdays were tough, so just lead and offer a firm time and place on the weekend.

all you can do now is wait to hear back, or you'll look desperate.

Author:  pprince [ Fri Apr 21, 2017 8:01 pm ]
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9 pm

Oh and as was typing this just now, she texted me: weekends are best.

Now, she took over 4 hours to respond. Do I say something like 1:"cool, bar x at 9 tomorrow nigh" or
2:"great I'll pick you up at 9 tomorrow night, what's your address?"

Also, should I wait a little before texting either one since she took over 4 hours?

And either case, in general, with this girl or others, what's the best response when and if she says she's busy this Saturday or whatever? (And she doesn't offer an alternate date)

Author:  Arch Stanton [ Fri Apr 21, 2017 9:08 pm ]
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Now, she took over 4 hours to respond. Do I say something like 1:"cool, bar x at 9 tomorrow nigh"
Picking her up on a first date is awkward, IMHO. Do the "Bar X" line.

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Also, should I wait a little before texting either one since she took over 4 hours?
Nah. Text now.
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And either case, in general, with this girl or others, what's the best response when and if she says she's busy this Saturday or whatever? (And she doesn't offer an alternate date)
you respond to a non-reschedule like this:

"Cool, have fun. I'll hit you up later."

Indifference is so important. She may catch a buzz with her friends, and then text you for a meet that night. A lot of guys would say "Why won't you reschedule?" or continue to blow up her phone which shows emotional instability.

Author:  pprince [ Fri Apr 21, 2017 10:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Took her number, asked her out...

Thanks Arch,

The thing, though is I don't know where she lives. She could live far from me. I texted her: "9 o'clock tomorrow night. Where should I pick you up?" No response yet after 45 mins, and I'm not surprised!

Another question since It's happened to me a lot is, how do you handle the "maybe dates" or "I'll let you know"

I know what Corey Wayne teaches on that, but it has never worked for me. When I do the take away in those situations girls seem to always call my bluff!

What are you thoughts?

Author:  Arch Stanton [ Fri Apr 21, 2017 10:28 pm ]
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The thing, though is I don't know where she lives. She could live far from me.
Why does this matter? Either she's willing to meet you or not.

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I texted her: "9 o'clock tomorrow night. Where should I pick you up?" No response yet after 45 mins, and I'm not surprised!

It's only been 45 minutes, man. Chill out.

Girls will do this to test you (I think it's more of a subconscious rather than intentional thing to weed out the stalkers/cavemen, lol). If you don't text back after a question, you win the game. But then again, I never ask questions over text within the contexts of meets. There's a reason I use this line:

"Let's grab a drink at Bar X, 9pm".

It's direct, firm, offers a time and place and leaves nothing up to interpretation.


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Another question since It's happened to me a lot is, how do you handle the "maybe dates" or "I'll let you know"
"Cool, I'm good either way."

If she has a boyfriend:

"I don't do maybe dates, so have a great one."

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I know what Corey Wayne teaches on that, but it has never worked for me. When I do the take away in those situations girls seem to always call my bluff!

What are you thoughts?
Corey knows his shit, but IMHO his wording is too passive when it comes to this.

Author:  pprince [ Sat Apr 22, 2017 1:29 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Took her number, asked her out...

Alright, 4 hours, no response.

At this point I don't know if she's testing to see if I'm a potential stalker or she's simply not interested.

Should I forget about her and delete her number if she doesn't respond, or hit her up a week or so later? If yes, how?

What if she responds tomorrow?

Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Apr 22, 2017 1:45 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Took her number, asked her out...

I just want to make sure you're aware of what you did.

You asked a strange woman to give you her address.

First dates are where you meet a woman and get to know her.

For now, you do nothing. Wait for her to reply.

When you unnecessarily tack on logistics to a meet-up, you increase the chances of flakes. Keep it simple.

Author:  oceanx [ Sat Apr 22, 2017 7:48 am ]
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"9 o'clock tomorrow night. Where should I pick you up?"
Too harsh.

'how about 9pm tomorrow at bar x'

or Arch's
'Let's grab a drink at Bar X, 9pm'

Author:  pprince [ Sat Apr 22, 2017 10:52 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Took her number, asked her out...

She responded 9 hours later (around midnight) with this:

"Haha I can't tomorrow I'm visiting my grandma... blah blah blah..."

1. What does that "haha" mean?

2. Do I respond to this text?

3. Do I delete her number and move on or do I contact her in a week or two? How?

Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Apr 22, 2017 10:58 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Took her number, asked her out...

When a girl texts you at midnight, you invite her over right there.

The "haha" is nervousness.

Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Apr 22, 2017 10:58 am ]
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When a girl texts you at midnight, you invite her over right there.

The "haha" is nervousness.

Author:  pprince [ Sat Apr 22, 2017 12:02 pm ]
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When a girl texts you at midnight, you invite her over right there.

The "haha" is nervousness.
Well, I didn't because I was clueless! How could I have done that? What should I have said? (To use in the future)

What should I do now? (As far as questions 2 and 3 go)

Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Apr 22, 2017 10:08 pm ]
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Well, I didn't because I was clueless! How could I have done that? What should I have said? (To use in the future)
When a girl reaches out to you at midnight (and you actually like her, lol) say this:

"Hey, good to hear from you. I'm watching this fun series on Netflix. You're welcome to swing by."

Or, if you've already fucked the girl, these work fine:

"Let's get into trouble."

"Let's fuck."

"Let's get naked."



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What should I do now? (As far as questions 2 and 3 go)

She said she couldn't do saturday, so send her this:

"Cool, always good to keep in touch with grandparents. Let's do Sunday, 9pm at Bar X".

Author:  pprince [ Sun Apr 23, 2017 2:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Took her number, asked her out...

Sent her that right away. That was over 4 hours ago. No response.

She seemed really interested at the cafe. She even followed me outside to make it easy for me to pick her up!

I don't understand. What's going on?

Should I just delete her number at this point and forget about her, or try hitting her up again sometime in the future? If, yes, when and how?

Thanks

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