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Whats up Aero,
For starters, you have to stop taking everything with women so personal. There a million reasons why she could've disappeared after the first date. Thinking hard about it and analyzing it will only drive you nuts. You met the girl on tinder. You only saw her one time. Theres nothing here yet. And you seem to be making a big deal out if a situation that you're barely invested in. You have to learn to let go. Maybe she had a boyfriend that she was upset with and she wanted revenge. Maybe her and her ex got back together. Maybe she swiped right on a new guy and he turned out to live closer and she had a stronger chemistry with him. Maybe she was having a bad work week and dating lowered on her list of priorities. This can go on and on.. But the biggest problem here is you're treating her like she's more important than she should be in your life at this point with all the extra calls and text messages. She's beginning to see you as a guy that must not have options with women. Would a man with lots of options be over texting and chasing a tinder girl that he only met one time? A man without options is a man without value. And who wants to continue to date someone without value?
I understand that you got close to the finish line with the girl and wanted to close the deal, but these things happen. With online dating especially. You have to learn to take the bitter with the sweet. Some will be lays, some will be girlfriends, some will tell you they love you and then never talk to you again. The only thing you can control is you and how you respond. Right now you're trying to find a way to "control her" or "manipulate her" into doing what you want her to do so that you can benefit from this situation. You're trying to "take", you've ceased "giving/sharing" so what is in that deal for her? No one wants to be used..Thats the energy you're giving off.
Let her go. I wrote an article about having a move abundant mentality. The mentality of a hot girl.. You can find that here, go give that a read:
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God knows, I've made out with plenty of girls, told them I'd call them, and never bothered.
You can be having fun AT THE MOMENT but be uninterested in anything long term.
You had a level of interest, but not ENOUGH that she wanted to see you again.
Don't worry about it. This WILL happen with some girls. It is what it is.
Don't call, text, or message her at all. IF she does contact you, let her do the heavy lifting. Other than that, assume she simply wasn't interested enough an move on to other girls.