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cheers for the advice.
nope, didn't meet her online, I'm not interested in that. In fact I kissed her the first time I met her although that was 5 months ago. I moved away the next day because of a job I had for a long period of time, not really much I could do about that but I think the fact that she was still interested after all that time said a lot.
Yes to better dates, although I try to keep things simple. There is another element here which might help explain things, I am moving away again in about a month for another three months, I know it, she knows it, it isn't going to work out in the long run. Where as I am happy to have fun for a month, and don't get me wrong, I like this girl is it possible that she is protecting herself from being hurt?
Looks like a complex situation with you moving and so on. If a girl cancels a date the first time (and a lots of them will do), try to make the second one more casual. I would bring up something you would like to go do with her (not a movie or a dinner) but like bowling or something you both might enjoy and make it look casual. Try to get her to imagine how you too will be having some fun together (i usually take them to shisha bars as i actually enjoy chilling out at such places) and then escalate there !
Yeah, it's even more complicated than I've described here although I won't bore you with detail. I like your advice, first time round I said we should catch up properly sometime soon during a FB conversation... she said Friday and that was that, casual. 2nd time round I told her when I was free, asked her if she wanted to do something then I suggested "milkshakes and/or beach", two things I enjoy and assume most others will too. I'm thinking it came across as too much of a date and maybe my intentions were too obvious. That's probably the biggest lesson I've learnt from this situation, just because you've kissed once doesn't mean you're in there no matter what, still got to pay by the rules.
Do you normally slide in ideas for a potential second date whilst on the first one then? I'm guessing that makes things a lot easier when wanting to arrange meeting up again