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I generally don't delete many numbers... simply cause I want to know who's texting or calling if I ever get drunk dialed at 2 am, months after a flake or something.
I never actually pursue anyone who's flaked on me, though. Screw that.
RC's 2 flake guideline is a decent one IMO, if you're looking to set some standards, OP.
There is wisdom in that. I would say most guys give up after 2-3 texts. Well I have gotten instant replies and kept it going but usually in most cases I have gotten girls in very weird situations ie (after 14 texts in one night, after a bunch of ignored stuff 5-7 IG posts, 7 texts in a row, etc) I get the feeling it is really NOT about quantity but quality. Granted there is a line and I am going to fvckin draw it but I am going to stop being a weak little b!tch and deleting numbers after a "failed attempt" sh!t happens when you break through the barrier.
For instance my last GF she insta replied to my text and then I put her on hold for a month and texted her about 3 times all of which got ignored but she preemptively hit me up and then to only tell me she was dating someone. NUMEROUS red flags, sh!t tests, etc like you are going down dude but I was so cool about it like "yeah no worries, I date other people too, no pressure." This drove her strait into my arms well not exactly. She flaked on our first date so I offered her something easier logistically and met that night and then went home with her, 3 months later I broke up with her. So to recap she ignored 3 texts, didn't talk to me for a month, told me she was dating someone, then flaked on our first date and by being fvcking cool and just keeping her talking I got her into comfort and to the next level. You just gotta push it.
Granted I will delete fake or B.S. numbers right away like if she is telling me she has a BF, is married, wrong number, etc then I will definitely delete since ain't nobody got time for that.
But I dunno it took a month and half to get my last GF and that was from a warm approach (she was eyeing me hard), a K-close and N-close at the Club. She showed huge interest but still even in spite of all this good mojo it took a month and a half to go anywhere. I decided to not text her everyday like every other girl and man that worked wonders.
Anyway there is power in the wait. I will be using the hold (similar to freeze but longer) and waiting longer (provided it is not a B.S. situation).
Some things I will not tolerate
**Being insulted-Insult me once and I may forgive her but insult me twice and she is goners
**Says directly she has a BF (dating is different as I may tolerate that to an extent)
**Being bullsh!tshited as in reponses to my texts as in "you have the wrong number, I am not so in so, I am married, I have a boyfriend, I am not interested, fvck off (one insult I will not tolerate), no thanks, etc. I will tolerate her being busy or needing time sh!t even I need time to figure stuff out too.
So with that said I am saving my numbers for longer and totally stealing the Christmas thing as that is hilarious. That was a great joke why put such a good use of character to waste and not own up to your personality!? Sounds like money to me.
ANYWAY I stop dating around Winter so New Year's sounds like a good time to go through numbers and delete the ones I guess who knows but I am going to leave more things to chance. I will be getting tons of numbers and saving them I have noticed creates abundance. If I deleted a girl's number every time I got pissed I would be only stuck dealing with 1-2 girls every week! But I saved the girl's number that kinda pissed me off and called her on a back to back (called 2 HB's in a row) and surprisingly she was more open than the first girl and we even rekindled which was weird since I thought she blew me out then she was saying she would reach out. Weird man. Guess you gotta decide what to do to create abundance.
For instance....
My 2 HB10's are not responsive right now but...
I made up with my Ex so I really essentially got 3 legit numbers. Granted the two HB10's from the Bar are ignoring my texts they are taking my calls (keeping me alive barely) I will save their numbers through the Summer. I think by Summer's end if I got 30 legit numbers lying around and I start being cool again you never know what can happen! I have rekindled 7 months after the fact. So it really creates this mysterious sense of self when you got more than one girl in the picture. I may never call my ex but I got her on back burner in case I get in a pickle. The problem is she is saying she loves me again!
Not at the Bar due to poor weather but maybe next weekend! On a roll.