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So I met this girl who's a bit of a tomboy, extremly chatty, and super duper friendly. She'd talk to anyone who talks to her, and always have something to say about everything.
I asked her out to a movie tomorrow and she accepted. Today I went to her workplace and while she was arranging some stuff on a shelf I went up behind her and put my hands on her waist. She turned around surprised but made that 'on it's you' face when she saw me, and didn't pull away. Normally I'd take that as a good IOI but with her I just can't be sure, because she's just so friendly to everyone.
What can I do tomorrow to get some firm idea if she's really interested, of just being friendly?
If she doesn't look at least a LITTLE nervous talking to you then she isn't attracted.
I've had the same thing happen to me with friendly girls. They will go on dates and chat endlessly smiling and laughing. She doesn't feel like you are a sexual threat to her. Like if you were alone in a room together that she would get fucked.
When she feels that from you she will naturally become a little self-conscious. If she doesn't then showing your sexual side could be something to work on. Things like maintaining eye contact, standing very close, touching her hands (as you pointed out). If she reacts negatively to this then you can assume she is just a friendly girl that isn't into you. It's happened to me.
Also movies are a really bad way to start dating someone. I really hate movie dates.
You want somewhere where there's a low amount of stimulation and interruptions. Like a park or going for a walk, or at a quiet bar during the weekdays. You don't want to compete with all that stuff for her attention, I mean you have her in isolation with you already. The more relaxed and safe she feels the more attraction is built because she can just let go.