MAKE FEAR YOUR BITCH
So the next part of getting good with women is eliminating the #1 thing
that will stop you dead on in your journey of getting good with women.
It's called FEAR.
Fear is the thing that will kill any chances of ever getting good with women.
Here's the simple truth: most guys live in their COMFORT ZONE.
- > Their comfort zone rules their life.
> They like their comfy warm bed in the morning.
> They like their comfy job that gives them security.
> They like their comfy idea of who they are so they don't risk rejection.
So when they think about walking up to a girl and starting a conversation,
they feel STUCK.
They get this sinking feeling in their stomach, they can't think, breathe or
do anything.
They feel PARALYSED.
Here's the thing: Our mind is millions of years old, and it's not
designed to make us happy or successful - it is designed to make us SURVIVE.
So it's in our nature is to always seek comfort and security.
The smarter the guy is, the more his mind will have control over him - and the
more it will keep him in the comfort zone.
I have an expression
"The dumber the guy, the hotter the girl"
If a guy isn't very intellectually developed, he is more prone to be using his instincts - and
less prone to be trapped by his mind.
But smart guys have it much worse. Their strongly developed mind is smart in pointing out the
DANGERS of the world.
"Well now, don't go and talk to her, because if you do, she may reject you - and then your entire
social circle will reject you and you'll die"
"Don't go and talk to her, because you're supposed to be somebody - you're smart - you can't
get rejected - that will crush the illusionary idea of who you are - and we can't have that"
So what to do about it?
How can you overcome the fear?
DEVELOP A PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH FEAR
The first shift in your thinking has to come
from seeing fear as something you run away from, to something
you
challenge and attack.
A man has to have a very personal relationship with fear. Because fear is with you since the day
you were born, and if you don't get familiar with your fear,
it will literally RUN your life.
The relationship you have with your fear is going to determine how you live your life.
If your relationship with your fear is such where you don't even know it exists, it will control
you when you want to do something that's "risky".
It's going to come out in the form of a self-talk with things like,
"She'll reject you" and "Everybody will
laugh at you..."
The relationship I suggest you develop with your fear is that of LISTENING to what it's saying, and then
RIPPING FEAR A NEW A-HOLE.
That’s right.
When you hear your fear telling you about what "might" happen if you do X, play the REBEL.
Remember when your parents told you "You can't go out and play" or "I forbid you from doing that"
... you went and did it JUST BECAUSE they said you can't.
It's almost you were spiteful.
This is exactly the same process you want to use with your fear.
Instead of allowing fear to intimidate you, like some boggie man - you CHALLENGE it and say,
"O yeah? They're going to laugh at me? Well if that's the case, let's go there and make them laugh
at me with double the intensity. I'm actually going to go there and INTENTIONALLY try to make
them laugh at me. What now? What are you going to say now, bitch?"
When you act this boldly in the face of your fear, here's what will happen:
The fear will blink.
The fear is really the biggest bluffer there is. And you want to call it's bluff.
When you develop this spiteful, challenging, rebellious attitude towards fear, 2 things will happen:
1) Your CONFIDENCE will increase instantly. You'll go from scared, shaking, trembling AFC, to a confident
challenging "spark in the eye" SOB.
2) Because of your confident challenging attitude, you're going to DECREASE the possibility that the thing
you're scared of happening will even happen.
Because if you approach a girl in the attitude - I dare you, reject me - she'll have a different response to you
just because you're confident.
Make sense?
So let's say you want to start a conversation with a girl, and you're afraid she'll reject you.
You say to your fear:
"O yeah? You're scaring me with that? Let me go there and make her reject me.
What now, bitch? Have anything else on me?"
Remember in 8 mile, the movie - when Eminem looked Papa Doc in the eyes and said EVERYTHING papa doc
could use against him - IN ADVANCE?
"Yea Wink did fuck my girl, but I'm still standing here screaming fuck the free world!"
When you act with whatever fear has in store for you, you take away it's weapon to intimidate you.
So shift your brain right now that
when you see that girl you want to approach next time, you'll fucking
attack and try to invoke the thing that your fear is telling you might happen.
Deal?
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