I mentioned in another thread I was going to create this one. Let's get a discussion going.
It's very important to number close when doing online dating for a few reasons.
First of all, a lot of women tend to delete their profiles after a few days (or even a few hours) on the site. They get overwhelmed by too many messages, someone says something nasty to them, or they just decide online dating isn't for them. And once their profile disappears, so does your chance of meeting and banging them. Unless, that is, you beat out the other AFCs and got her phone number already.
I feel like transitioning to texting also makes the communication seem more natural since this is the way the girl typically communicates with her friends.
You also gain the option for a phone call, or to send funny / sexy pictures. Either way, getting the number is totally essential. I have arranged a few dates before number closing, but that literally almost never happens.
Also, protip: If you type a phone number with the area code into the facebook search bar, there's a good chance it will bring up the girl's facebook profile since most people link their phone number to it. This gives you a chance to screen for extra pictures and other useful info before knowing the girl's last name and before she's willing to FB friend you.
So... the question is, how soon to go for the number? It seems like according to the pickup gurus that the earlier, the better. But you can't just open with "Hey what's up? Number?" and expect a ton of success (unless you have godly profile pictures) so there should be a balance. Usually I try to get a little banter going while keeping the conversation very light hearted. After an hour or so of sporadic back and forth i throw in "let's just text it's easier. I won't remember to keep checking this thing" or something to that effect.
I've had girls block me before right after I asked for the number, presumably because I did so too soon and creeped them out. This especially seems to happen on Tinder which is kind of mind boggling because they preselected my profile anyways.. so why the bitch resistence? But I digress. I still think it's better to ask too soon than to chit chat for too long and let the opportunity pass by.
Now... the #1 line girls love to throw out: "I don't feel comfortable giving out my number just yet". Which is obviously a load of bull. They don't actually fear for their safety, they're just lukewarm about their attraction for you or may just be in the online game for the rush of attention and validation with no intention of ever meeting up.
When girls sling that line at me, I almost never recover. I have tried playing it off like a joke, directly asking them why, or ignoring it and changing the subject. It doesn't seem to matter. Even if they eventually do give me their number, they continue the flakiness when texting and we never end up meeting. On that note though, it's valuable insight so you know when not to waste too much time. If the girl hits you with that, prepare to have to really jump through some hoops to get in her pants.
Thoughts?
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