before I begin, a little disclaimer. I learned this from a regular joe name Pete. This has caused me more grief than you could possibly imagine. haha. Getting a crazy ex back isn't always a good idea. And this method is precisely what it's good for. Those types of girls that use you for what you are worth then leave you for your friend only to do the same all over again. Cheaters.. or girls who like to play games. It's better to move on and do away with the headaches. It may or may not work on regular girls idk. I expect a lot of negative feedback for this post. However I've had the best and worst times of my life with this method. I've had gf's BEG ME BACK... only to get heart broken all over again. I can't say this enough... USE AT YOUR OWN RISK!!!
STEP 1. Learn
learn the Pete Method BEFORE you are broken up with. It's best to see the break up coming and decide to commit to the method no matter what happens. Sticking it through till the end can prove difficult as those crazy ex's just love to push buttons.
STEP 2. The initial break up.
So she's broken up with you? Now first off. She won't say, "we are breaking up". She will say something like. "I need some time." You'll know because of how you will feel. The first thing to think of is....
"I know the Pete Method"
You basically have to act like you would imagine how Obama would handle a break up. Maintain good contemplative body posture. As though it's a complete shock but you are holding together and have a curiosity about what is playing out.
Don't be tempted to say "I was thinking the exact same thing". You might offend her and actually overdo the whole thing.
Have a normal peaceful communication conversation with her.
DON'T CRY! (try not to at least lol)
DON'T TELL HER YOU LOVE HER!
DON'T BEG FOR HER BACK!
KEEP YOUR COOL!
What you do is ask questions that will trigger her to justify herself to you.
"Is this really how you feel?"
"How long have you felt this way?"
"do you think the relationship is salvageable."
"Where do you want to go from here?"
I really must stress that you are curious. Not pissed and accusing. And not too many questions. Just enough that it's as though you are processing what has happened. Any questions that you ask that trigger a reaction in her other than justification, i.e she gets angry, you should immediately lift a hand and stop her from speaking. Say "I understand" then ask another question. You are trying to keep the frame that you are both adults and open communication is ok. You have to keep her calm by remaining calm yourself and leading the interaction. If she gets pissed and leaves. Either you did it wrong, asked the wrong question or you don't want her back anyway she's a head case, but it's fine anyway the method still may work.
Eventually what you want to do is after she has justified herself to you. Ask her a question such as...
"Are you happier this way?"
Hopefully she will answer with a simple yes.
This is where the method begins. You do a state change. As though you are done contemplating. You say "Ok" in agreeance with her "If you are happier this way then this is the right thing to do."
If she has mentioned another guy. Same deal. "If he makes you happy then I must be a gentleman and allow you to be happy."
If you love her and don't want to take my advice about not telling her how you feel. This is the only time it is acceptable to slip it into conversation.
"If you love something... set it free"
Get up and leave.
STEP 3. The freeze out
This is the hardest part. Do not call. Or text. Or email. Or hang out outside her house. NOTHING. If there is another guy involved in Pete's words "Get that shit out of your head. It doesn't even exist. You know her, you have the history with her, he's just some guy". What you are waiting for is a phone call. If she calls you the same day as the break up, that doesn't count. You reiterate your agreeance with her and let her go. I suggest you avoid email/text at all cost. If you have facebook. Put as your status, 'no access to facebook or email, call the cell' that way if she emails/texts you ect, you can simply ignore it and claim you never received it. Hopefully you have a cell phone because this method works best with a cell.
My question to Pete was "but what if she doesn't call?"
He said: "She will call, trust me!"
from experience SHE WILL CALL!!!
STEP 4. The first phone call.
Let it ring once or twice. so you're not seeming like you're hanging out by your phone. Miss the first phone call if you are daring but I've never tried that. Hopefully you are in a loud place, public noises, music, GIRLS ect. Act super happy, smile. Women can hear smiles through your voice, trust me on that one. Tell her the most amazing thing happened to you and that you are busy and that you will call her later. If she asks you what happened say "One thing after another, it's awesome, I'll tell you later." She will agree, trust me.
STEP 5. You call her.
Wait a while before calling her, how long is up to you but make her wait, a little. A few hours at least. Act super happy again. Ask her what she wanted when she called. Listen to her scramble for a reason because she was checking up on you to see how you felt. She will probably try to divert attention and will probably ask what you are so happy about. Now is your chance to tell her a DHV story
You are basically gaming her all over again. Try and friend zone her. don't say it, just imply it through your actions. That way you can establish another phone call, a meeting ect.
STEP 6. Game her all over again, make it fun.
Keep her guessing about your intentions. Try and re-spark the feelings that attracted her to you to begin with. Try to get her chasing you.
Don't ask her back out.
Don't mention the relationship.
If she starts to mention the relationship. Tell her you might consider it except the trust has been broken. Get her to qualify herself to you. Women get addicted to this feeling because it has the excitement and air of a new relationship, a challenge but also the emotional investment of long term relationship. She might go so far as to beg for you back. Make her work for it. Give her compliance tests.
STEP 7. Invite her over
Get her to come to your house. If she wants to talk about a relationship, get her to come over in person. If she wants to be friends. Invite her over. Pretend she is a new girl and you are gaming her all over again.
STEP 8. Seduce her and treat her like the hoe she is.
^ enough said.
STEP 9. Don't go back out with her. treat her like your sex slave and enjoy.