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Let's say that a guy is extremely chill/fun, great shape, masculine and they had a great first date. The next date they talk about their careers and she finds out that he's in a career that makes only 40k per year. After she finds out that information, she goes cold and doesn't contact him again.
IMHO, that's a woman you don't want in your life. The worst kind of person, and such a bad way to start a relationship.
I don't make a ton of money. And I have found that if I'm hitting the other values in my list, that is never a problem.
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He fits 3 of your 4 values but he still got nexted. What did he do wrong?
My thought is that he isn't hitting multiple values in my list.
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I ask this because I know a girl that dumped a guy for this exact reason. Her reasoning is that he can't afford the lifestyle that she's looking for although she was attracted to him.
IMHO, then she wasn't really that attracted to him.
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I'm not saying that a woman that has different values is going to reject you because of that. I'm not saying that a woman won't give you a chance if your values are different. I'm saying that if you have at least one of the four values that it doesn't make a woman stay with you just because of it.
that's true. I'm not disagreeing with that.
What I am saying is that when you excel at all those values, you
decrease the chances of a woman nexting you for whatever reason.
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They'll move on from guys who cheat.
True. I don't cheat, so not a problem for me. I get around that (lol) by only dating sexually open women who like threesomes. And that is indeed part of my "shocking honesty" and congruency advice.
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They'll move on from guys if they lose their jobs.
IMHO, the woman was never really attracted to that guy in that case.
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They'll move on from guys when they find a guy even more attractive.
It's possible. but remember, as long as you are hitting multiple values on that list CONSISTENTLY, and you are also IMPROVING, women are, for the most part, not going to want to leave you. They will be obsessed with you. But you MUST keep improving on those values and evolving ,and not making her a priority.
Most guys, as time goes on, get dumped for letting themselves go physically and emotionally in relationships. They watch too much TV, get fat, get possessive, get too emotional, and tend to "reveal their true selves" once they feel they "have" a woman.
This is a fatal mistake! They fail to keep improving themselves, and thus addressing those all too important values.
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Men and women are different because men do the majority of approaching. Women do the majority of accepting the approach. Men approach normally on one thing and one thing alone and that is if the girl is attractive. Even if the girl has a foul attitude, most guys will give her a pass because of it.
True, because the guy has a scarcity mentality. This mentality is also why they get dumped.
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Women judge men on a lot more different levels. His ability to provide, his attractiveness, his education, and if we go woman to woman they'll all have a list of various requirements that can be absolute deal breakers and he won't usually get a pass and if he does then it has an expiration date.
That's true, women are more picky then men, because in general, they have higher abundance.
However, this is REVERSED when you excel at the four values. and YOU become the one who is picky, and who does the choosing. when a man achieves this level. women don't elave him. They see him the way a scarce male sees a beautiful woman -as a God, or something to be obsessed over.
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As far as a woman living with me, you can't say that I haven't found one that I was that attracted to yet. I've lived with a total of four women. One for 1.5 years, one for two years, and two for less than a year. The one that I lived with for two years has been my weakness and is still somewhat, so quit doing that thing where you are telling me what I'm thinking.
Sounds a lot like my situations.
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What I've learned is that as a man, you end up losing more than you gain. If bills need to get paid, it'll ultimately fall on you if things get tough.
No, I don't do that. I set the tone immediately with women. Any woman who moves in with me splits the mortgage, and half the utilities, and stocks the fridge. They never complain, because they know I'm an advocate for women's rights, and equality. I'm no ones fucking sugar daddy. I expect my women to be independent.
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You lose free time. Your sex drive starts to diminish and so does hers (before you tell me I'm wrong, it's been scientifically proven).
Yes, I agree with you on the science.But I have found ways to fix this. First, it's important for BOTH people to go to the fucking gym. I will straight up tell my gf if she's getting fat. This again is part of my "shocking honesty" and congruency that I preach here. Honesty is HOT! Withering away in quiet desperation is NOT. She will also tell me if my gut is getting big. works both ways.
Second, my gf gives me green lights to go on dates with other women, and I give her green lights to fuck other girls. It never gets boring, lol. And because we are brutally honest with each other, we are brutally honest tour fantasies, and try to bring them to life. If she thinks a guy or girl is hot, she'll tell me, and I her. We don't act like it's some taboo, horrible thing that will ruin the relationship.
Freedom is really, really hot, and keeps things burning intensely for a long, long time. Especially when both people are really fit, and work hard.
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When they move out or the two of you split up more of your stuff disappears along with them even if you bought it. There is less incentive for them to keep themselves up because they are harder to get rid of.
Again, Jack, this goes back to my four values. If you are always working at those values, and improving, women will keep their ass in shape for you. Your brutal honesty will keep them working hard for you, because it's dominant behavior.
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Right now I'm seeing two girls and both of them know that their place in my life can end if I'm not happy with them and visa versa. I have no doubt that I can easily make a phone call and have sex with one of them within the hour and I can send them home afterwards if I feel like it or me go back home. It's a happier way to live for me and I know that because of experience.
Nothing wrong with that!
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I just watched a friend go through a divorce and his ex is taking half of his 401k and she put absolutely nothing into it. He had to sell his house and split the profits 50/50 with her even though she paid none of the mortgage. He has to pay off her car while she gets herself established. Why did they get a divorce? Because he told her that she was spending too much and that she'd have to get a job. The 4 rules didn't apply to him either.
He did a bad job of screening that woman before letting her that far into his life. All of this is within the control of you and I.
I have a vetting process that weeds out women like this, and I kick them to the curb.
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Let's be honest Arch. If the 4 values are real then you're saying that you can get any woman you want without a problem. They wouldn't be able to resist you just because of rule #1. That's something that's easily demonstrated. Are you saying that you are irresistible because you are saying that you at least have 3 of the 4 going at all times? You only need 1.
I'm not saying I'm irresistible. What I am saying is following the four values, and ALWAYS improving lets you do most of the choosing of who, and who isn't in your life. But you can't just stop improving. Be careful of slipping, watching too much TV/couching lifestyle, etc.