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Author:  Soniq2 [ Sun Oct 08, 2017 11:26 am ]
Post subject:  Drinking: the right balance

So lately I've been experimenting with alcohol and gaming, what's the right balance (for me specifically but I figured this could apply to others.) What I've been finding is that the utmost important thing is DHV through actions as well as words. This absolutely relates back to alcohol, you have to be able to demonstrate both leadership and a willingness to participate. While I fully get some guys can't drink for several reasons, however; in such an event I recommend ordering a nonalcoholic beer. While standing out is an important trait, it makes more sense to stand out in terms of style, actions and words rather than by being the only one not drinking. The conclusion that I have come to is, attending a party, visiting a bar and or making an appearance at a club, you never want to be drunk. Being drunk not only demonstrates poor leadership, little to no self control and even a lack of personality but it is also super unsexy. The bottom line is women want a leader, they want someone who can look out for them and defend them, you cannot meet any of these marks while you're in the bathroom puking up your 15th gin and tonic. However; at the same time you don't want to be that one guy who doesn't participate, you come off as: untrustworthy, uninvolved and ultimately boring. What I have found works for me is 4 beers, while that doesn't sound like much on a night out, I've found that's the equilibrium between boring and challenging the bar security to an arm wrestle. This will be totally different for everyone and I totally get that but I recommend finding that point where you're loosened up and ready to chat and chill with anybody but not to the point where you're coming off as creepy, drunk and disorderly. Most importantly, you have to have fun while you're out gaming. There is no point doing this if it's not fun, if it isn't fun you're doing something wrong.

Author:  Blacksky [ Sun Oct 08, 2017 10:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Drinking: the right balance

Yes very good observation and very valid opinions there. I used to have a friend that knew exactly how much he had to drink and would not go over that amount - he would pick a point in his vodka bottle where the limit was and didn't exceed it. He did this meticulously and then when he went out he knew how much to drink and wouldn't go overboard. This guy was very good with women a natural who never picked up any dating manual - he did have huge advantage - born with great genetics but did everything well, would rarely drink too much, confident, calm, well groomed and on shape etc etc.

Anyway you are very correct if you drink too much then your chances of meeting quality women are reduced greatly - they don't like drunks, they don't like the smell of alcohol on somebodies breath, they don't like the slurring etc etc. Ad to that if you are a smoker that makes it even harder for you to find females as they are also put off by the smell and not many females smoke these days.

If people can find their limit and stick to it like my friend did then all the power to them, its a hard thing to do as alcohol is enjoyable and people tend to go overboard but if you can stick to your limit then fantastic. I know in alot of western cultures and in Australia (where i live) it is common place to binge drink and even sometimes expected. In some european contries binge drinking is seen as foolish and people will think your a idiot if you partake in it.

Some people buy those self breathelisers to monitor their drinking - I would say once you get around the .1 its time to slow down before you make a fool of yourself and also save abit of your health.

Author:  R.C [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 11:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Drinking: the right balance

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nonalcoholic beer.
Non alcoholic beer is like missionary sex. A very bad joke.

Anyway, yeah, women want a leader, to feel safe and all that bs but realistically speaking you getting drunk on a night out, in and of itself, doesn't matter.
If you're a reliable guy in your daily life she's not suddenly gonna go 180 on you because you got drunk that one time.

I've been drunk countless times on my nights out and I've almost carried by women back to my/their place just as often. The only real issue with going overboard on drinks is getting whiskey dick.
But that's me. I don't get violent I just get happy. And less dexterous. And overall less functional.

I feel like what you're explaining here is common sense. Ofcourse if you go to a mildly buzzed girl, while you yourself are completely faceplanted, it won't go well. But that's a matter of you being in a different reality, and not a matter of "DHV". Which is my point.
Go out, have fun, drink whatever you consider will keep you within functional bounds. But don't do it to "DHV" or because women like this or that.

Author:  DJ_Z [ Sat Oct 14, 2017 10:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Drinking: the right balance

HAHAHAHAHAHA nonalcoholic beer, what a pussy.

Pickup has this weird subculture of guys who think booze is the root of all evil, maybe some overlap with the anti porn group. Here's how to game with booze:

1. Figure out your limits
2. Don't be a shithead
3. No means no...like the actual "no go away" moments
4. Learn how to make a cocktail at your place

Tada.

Author:  ChocolatePUA [ Sun Oct 15, 2017 3:17 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Drinking: the right balance

Dj_Z is actually pretty spot on.

If you feel like you HAVE to drink beer to fit in, that is in and of itself a problem.

You're just fine drinking soda, or even water.

Personally I love the buzz, so I'll usually get 4-5 beers throughout the night without worry about getting drunk while also having a good time.

Author:  DJ_Z [ Mon Oct 16, 2017 2:58 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Drinking: the right balance

Quote:
Dj_Z is actually pretty spot on.

If you feel like you HAVE to drink beer to fit in, that is in and of itself a problem.

You're just fine drinking soda, or even water.

Personally I love the buzz, so I'll usually get 4-5 beers throughout the night without worry about getting drunk while also having a good time.
Yup. And by the way, I've gone out without drinking where I have work early the next morning or am the DD, and nobody gives me shit for it.

I wanna do a post on setting up a home bar soon though.

Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Tue Oct 24, 2017 12:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Drinking: the right balance

^ do it. You might


As for alcohol...eh, I am more prone to drinking since my dad is an alcoholic. I do like the feeling and the taste. I don't view it as a tool to help to talk to women but feel loose. Lately, I have been doing better and not getting too drunk. A nice buzz is all you need and a shit load of confidence to get you through the motions faster and quicker.

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