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In my late 30's .. should be married by now with 2.4 children and a wife that can cook and give at least one decent blow job a week, but instead Im on apps, swiping away and finding things tough.
According to who? Yourself or social programming?
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I do get chatting, I do get some dates, but I just feel we live in such a different world than we did 20 years ago.
The world is indeed a pretty dynamic place. Its easy to get left behind if you don't find away to adapt to it changing.
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I feel girls are so quick to walk away from a chat when you type one little thing that doesnt get the desired emotional reaction from them and I am finding that getting second dates are so difficult even when I managed to get them into bed on date one.
Because its so unpersonal. There is little investment and it literally costs nothing to walk away from a chat convo in contrast to possible public humiliation if she'd walk away from lets say....a date?
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You could always find criticism in what I/others do.. i.e. maybe we didnt speak about them enough/connect, maybe the sex wasnt as plain as it should be on a first date, maybe I didnt take them to a fancy restaurant or whatever some people may think, maybe its becaue i'm 5 foot 7 and not 6 ft.. but as a successful guy in my late 30's who can hold a decent conversation and could offer alot, I am so surprised at the way so many girls just seem to not want to stick around and see me again.
There is a reason for everything, especially if you are seeing repeating patterns in the way girls behave towards you. Have you bothered to ask any of them why they lose interest?
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I am left wandering whether it is me (I am sure it is to some degree) or whether so many woman now are becoming so addicted to swiping and meeting random guys (giving that sense of adventure, freedom & a better guy might be just around the corner) that pinning girls down is just becoming harder and harder. Yes I should go outside and 'sarge' and things might be easier although I am not great at approaching.
Yes you should. Finding high quality women on the internet is possible but not common (in my personal experience). None of the women i've found to be worthy of keeping around have i met on the internet and those that i did meet online were cool easy lays but not much more than that. The way you are writing this post, i'd say that your situation has more to do with yourself then anyone around you. You seem to find comfort in being able to easily score dates online without having to put in any "real" effort into it and are surprised when things dont work out long-term. Remember, easy come, easy go?
If you score regularly on the internet, you are good to go in real life as well. Get out of the comfort zone, stop blaming the world and take responsibility for the situation you are in compared to where you'd like to be in life.
All the best!
SGC_Dame