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This question is largely about your goals and where you are in your life.
There are some guys who are all about going out and doing tons of approaches. I don't really do that anymore. I did that once upon a time when I was new, but now I put myself first meaning I go out to have fun and do something I want to first, not looking to find anyone. If there is a woman I see I'm in the mood to approach, I'll go for it.
If I go out and approach, I think it's best to go where there will be a lot of people like a mall, an event or such. Alcohol makes women horny... If I was looking to just hook I'd go to a place where there is alcohol.
Tonight for example, I'm going to a Latin dance class and then to a Jazz festival. I met my last GF at one of the Jazz festivals here.
I like this, cause I personally just go where I feel comfortable and try to arrange situations to bring people I'm interested in to such a place e.g. I've been walking around by the river walk just because I like to do it, but I make sure I'm dressed nice when I do. While walking and playing poke'mon go I've met a few people who're pretty cool and I invited them to a party I'm throwing. I'm more comfortable at my house and at a party setting, so I am bringing the girls to me.
So guys hear me say I prefer not to be in a situation I'm not comfortable in and doing approaches and they say I'm making excuses. Well, no, I'm not having fun in that situation and it makes dating frustrating and feel like work vs being at a music festival I like, an anime con, a pool party I'm hosting, etc. where I'm more relaxed and in a more relaxed state I do better.
I never go out with the specific goal of doing approaches and I try to avoid cold approaches.