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Example: you approach a girl in a bar. She ignores you and doesn't say a word. That's Strike 1. Approach her again later, same reaction. Strike 2. Now most guys will give up after the Strike 1 and especially after Strike 2. But what if that girl is testing you?
Testing what, exactly? Do you believe women think to themselves "Hmm. Cute guy. Let me test him first"?
What could this girl possibly be testing? And why?
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What if she's playing hard to get or is just in "club mode" so she's not as receptive as she would normally be? Approach again, this time she replies back but the interactions goes nowhere or she leaves. Strike 3. TRY ONCE MORE BEFORE GIVING UP. After 4 strikes you know that she is not playing hard to get and is legitimately not interested. But there are no "what if?" moments, you know for sure.
If she's playing hard to get then she can go fuck herself. And I mean that in quite a literal way.
Here's the thing. I'm not saying that this type of persistence doesn't work. It can. However, aside from the fact that it will work less often than it will not, the problem is in the mindset you teach to these guys. Try 4 times? How can you justify that? Ignoring the fact that she's completely unresponsive towards you, twice, how is she going to be worth two more tries?
This is the type of approach that, at it's core, is founded on the idea that women have to be won over. It's salesman mentality. If you can't sell a product, it's either low quality, or you're pitching it to the wrong demographic. Either way, becoming the guy people can't get rid off won't produce any real results.
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3 times, yeah OK a lot of guys might try with a girl 3 times. But just giving is that one extra try, will show a girl that you are very persistent and you will also increase your chances of getting success. Again, do not underestimate the power of persistence.
Yeah, it will show a girl you're very persistent. That's usually how restraining orders happen. Obviously that's an exaggeration, but it's purpose is to put things into context. Persistence is desirable under some circumstances, not all circumstances.
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So let's say you hook a target, spend sometime with her, have fun and you want to go for a kiss. You look into her eyes and confidently lean in to kiss her lips, but at the last second she turns away. DON'T PANIC. That is just Strike 1. Smile and laugh it off. You are both playing a game. If she is spending time with you and you are touching each other, holding hands, eye contact, then she wants to be kissed but many girls do not want to give it up easily, and again, it comes back to persistence. They want a guy to work a little bit for it, and they enjoy the 'chase'. Try to kiss her 3 more times that night. Chances are you'll get it!
And there's the context. If she's spending time with you, touching you, being
obviously into you, evidently you don't panic and run on a first try. That's entirely different then the girl ignoring you entirely.
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Next up, it's getting towards the end of the night and you've screened for logistics. You invite her back to your place, she politely declines. That's Strike 1. You remember that she has good logistics so you suggest going back to hers. She makes up some excuse as to why she can't. That's Strike 2. Suggest it 2 more times, ideally find out what her reservations are (she might have a genuine reason why she can't). But keep pushing anyway.
Let's say she still makes excuses as to why she can't, but now the club has closed and you are both walking outside. You either walk her to her car, or you take her to yours, or you take her to get a taxi. This is when you can get a little bit more physical and use your Leading skills. Try to pull her home. 4 times. You will be surprised how after a bit of confident persistence she will go with you! Remember your persistence comes from a place of desire, not neediness.
If she says no after 4 tries, get her phone # and tell her you're going to call/text her. I prefer calling first but let's say you text her first and she doesn't respond. That's Strike 1. Now with texting you obviously do not want to send 4 rapid-fire texts in a row. Space them out. Send one a few days later, or even a few weeks later or a month. You never know someone's current situation and how she is feeling at the time.
In my opinion what will get the girl is charming confidence, not persistence in this case. It's simply a matter of knowing whether she's not interested, or is, but looking for a proper excuse. Give her the excuse she's looking for and you won't need the persist.
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This is an especially good rule for n00bs/intermediates, and these guys more often than not eject prematurely and give up before they should. The 4-strike rule will teach you persistence, determination and you will maximize your success by hanging in there just a little bit longer than normal. Good luck (you won't need it when implementing the 4-strike rule)
This shouldn't be a rule. It's situational. I agree people starting off tend to give up too soon/too easily, but I don't think that this is the mentality they need to adopt.