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PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2017 11:04 pm 
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Since the lounge is for regurgitated new thoughts on old rules I'm placing this here even though it'll help a lot of folks within the Approach Anxiety aspect.

So been a minute since I've been on here and donated any knowledge to guys around here but I wanted to return and talk about this book I been listening to (Audible - book on phone), it's called "The 5 Second Rule. Transform your work, life and confidence with Everyday Courage".

It's a great book, Mel Robbins is a hard nosed female New Yorker who curse and basically says it how it is. She was also an attorney and had a few other paths in her life. I won't go into it but she's got some Ted Talks that are pretty awesome.

Basically anytime you want to do something, whether it's approach a girl, get up in the morning, go to the gym, go interview for a job, whatever it is... you have 5 Seconds to act on it. It's very simple.

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So rather than you saying ok I'll do it when this happens or, when I'm done here I'll go do that, or "If this..., then that..." it's basically very simple. You see a girl across the room, you want to approach her.. but what will you say? Who gives a fuck to be honest? Instead of you being concerned what will I say? How should I start? What if...?

You go...

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Then you walk towards that girl, you eliminate thinking from your process, rather than you thinking, you simply.

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That's it! All this process does is gets you out of your own way. Instead of focusing on everything that can go wrong or what you should do, it makes you act on things.

Does this mean you're going to get good at pick up right away? FUCK NO! However it's going to get you talking to more women quicker allowing you to progress quicker, the fact is you have to make mistakes to get better. You have to screw up, you have to have your miserable moments, this simply gets you through those miserable moments where you don't want to go on by turning off your pessimism and focusing on action that creates results.

So next time you see that fly girl across the room and you want to walk up to her, do not ask yourself questions do not think simply say to yourself....

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Awesome.

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will get that book, in other words take action...

also i reco. mark manson new book, pretty good...


If you have any other reco. let me know...I have Been reading a lot lately...

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skills360 wrote:
will get that book, in other words take action...

also i reco. mark manson new book, pretty good...


If you have any other reco. let me know...I have Been reading a lot lately...

miss you dude! no homo!



Well yes and no, Take action is kinda different... it's more stop thinking. Don't allow your mind to make a coward of you by over thinking.

BTW I miss you too, took your advice on No more Mr. Nice Guy, wish I would have sooner too!

I have a list of books just depends on what you want, you know me I'm always expanding my knowledge.

The One Thing, The Power of Habit, MiniHabits, Grit, I can go on for a minute.

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If every guy struggling to approach would implement this, and then modify their approach as they go, their lives would be completely changed for the better in a couple months' time.

Me, I like to linger just a little before I open but as long as you do actually open that's what matters, and adhering to this rule "forces" a guy to open.

For implementing a similar technique in a business networking situation, again, big changes will quickly occur for the better. What's the worst thing the other person is going to do? Excuse themselves after a minute or two. And that probably won't happen in the majority of situations.


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Haha, lately this is what I've been doing- it also helps with focusing on the moment since you don't have time to imagine scenarios that haven't even happened yet. Thanks man.

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Mr. Assertive wrote:
it also helps with focusing on the moment since you don't have time to imagine scenarios that haven't even happened yet.

So true. When i do this i'm not thinking "ok 4 second rule". What is going through my head is nothing - I just engage. That voice in the head is literally a cock blocker!!!!!


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I am halfway through the book, the audio version... This is one of the books i have read that will make a direct impact in your life RIGHT AWAY... Thanks poetic!

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You know you've come a long way and stand out from the rest when you can do that count down and approach. It can be very hard to do for a lot of guys, including myself.

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I think it's a good principle in all honesty.

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skills360 wrote:
I am halfway through the book, the audio version... This is one of the books i have read that will make a direct impact in your life RIGHT AWAY... Thanks poetic!



Yup send some books my way brotha, I gotta get back to shit. My game is still in need of a bit more improvement but it's a little better right now. Not quite at it's strongest but I'm dating 2-3 girls a week so it's coming around.

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You know you've come a long way and stand out from the rest when you can do that count down and approach. It can be very hard to do for a lot of guys, including myself.



Actually, in all honesty I wish I would have learned before I learned anything else. This gets you out of your own way by eliminating thoughts.... like what can I say, what should I say, etc.

This is more about getting out of your own way and just saying fuck it I'm going to do something... anything even if it's the wrong thing. You learn more from mistakes than you do from success. Mistakes are essential to your growth as long as you know.

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I failed this the other day. This girl I'd been waiting to find sitting alone I finally saw. Rather than go right in, I surveilled from a distance and hesitated. Then I saw she had earbuds in and was eating voraciously and I convinced myself that it would be a bad moment to cold approach her.

The reality is that if I went up to her she would've pulled the earbuds out and stopped eating. Who knows what would've happened from there, but the point is that my brain found reasons to convince me to bitch out because I hesitated. :?

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poeticlyskuac wrote:
skills360 wrote:
I am halfway through the book, the audio version... This is one of the books i have read that will make a direct impact in your life RIGHT AWAY... Thanks poetic!



Yup send some books my way brotha, I gotta get back to shit. My game is still in need of a bit more improvement but it's a little better right now. Not quite at it's strongest but I'm dating 2-3 girls a week so it's coming around.



This is normal after long break, i am seeing 2 girls but are girls i have already been with (don't really count)...


Night gamein my city has really declined (it has gotten really bad with clubs closing left and right)... i am experimenting in a new city but clubs close at 2 am...

things are a bit tougher now a days than back in the days, i would say about 50% harder (for club game)...

how are you meeting this girls, day game, tinder, clubs????

Mark Manson second book is extremely good, and i recommend it...

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