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Author:  Portugal.Thy.Man [ Wed May 11, 2016 5:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Weird night - a mixed bag

Background: 23 yo virgin. One month away from finishing college and still haven’t been able to deal with it.

The story: Last week I meet this girl in a festival. We hit it off. Nothing happened there, but I added her on facebook and later got her number. We text back and forth, and I suggest a date on Thursday (which would be tomorrow). She agrees.

Last night (Tuesday) she sends me a text asking if I want to hang out. I play a bit hard to get: I tell her I’m not going too far away because of the rain, and she agrees to meet at a bar near my place.
At the bar, I made sure to escalate and kino. All good. When we get out at about 1 am, she starts asking me if I know the bus schedules (so that she could go home). I tell her we could go see a movie at my place (which was nearby). She agrees.

We start seeing the movie, cuddle for a bit and about 15 minutes we’re making out on my bed. We start getting more physical. When I try to get her pants off the first time, there is resistance. “No. Stop”. I go back to exploring the other parts of her body. When I go back for the pants the second time, same response. This time, she sees my frustration and says that she broke up with her sex just a few days go. I tell her it’s ok, that we should do what we’re both comfortable with and stop if need be. But we do continue with the action.

And now comes the weird part: after a third failed attempt to get her pants off, she just starts moving like we’re actually fucking. I go with it. She only has her pants on. I try to get my hand under there, but again, no dice. So we’re basically dry humping heavily. I can feel she’s wet down south, so I try to create more friction on that area.

She cums and lays on top of me. It’s dark but I can feel she’s crying. She asks if I think she’s a slut. I reply “no”. We go on talking a bit more. And then we start dry humping again.
During the next 5 or 6 hours, it was basically talking – dry humping – talking. She came 9 more times, and I actually came once. For the last 2 times, she asked me if she could trust me if she just stayed on her panties. I said “yeah”. So last 2 times she was with her panties only, and I'm pretty sure all my neighbours heard her cum at that point haha

Sometimes, I would just kind of drift off (because I was obviously frustrated). When that happened, she would ask me if everything is ok. We talk a bit more. I tell her I’m interested in knowing her better. She says that she “doesn’t know” (her answer to pretty much any question).

In the morning, she thanks me, apologizes and we keep a light make out session. I take to the bus station and she leaves (she had an exam an hour later).

Phew, I think that’s all! Obviously, I would like you guys to point what might have gone wrong and what could I have done better (which is a lot, I believe). I could come up with a ton of excuses for not kicking her out (it was raining, no bus at night, etc etc) but the truth is: I did it for the experience. This is definitely the closest I’ve come to true sex – only thing that was missing was my D inside her V.

As for her, it became clear that this was a one-night thing, she herself said she didn’t want to be seeing anyone for the time being. I not hoping to get another date with her. BUT I’m still on the fence about sending her a text – I’m just not sure what, I don’t want her to feel worse than she already is. I mean, for fuck’s sake, at the beginning she would keep on babbling about how “men are all dicks”.

Still… It doesn’t hide the fact that I’m still a virgin (of course she didn’t know this). Like I said, I have about 1 month to get this dealt with. If not, I’m seriously considering hiring an escort and just get it out of the way so it doesn’t become a bigger problem as time goes on.
So guys, I would like to hear your feedback if you had the patience to read through the whole thing haha

Cheers!

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed May 11, 2016 6:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

Of course text her and tell her you had a wonderful time.
Of course see her again.
Of course she'll fuck you next time.
Patience and coolness young gun.

Author:  Portugal.Thy.Man [ Wed May 11, 2016 6:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

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Of course text her and tell her you had a wonderful time.
Of course see her again.
Of course she'll fuck you next time.
Patience and coolness young gun.
Hey Heywood, good to hear from you again!

In this particular case, what would you text her? (Sorry, it's just that I have only 2 hours of sleep in me and I'm afraid that if I just write whatever comes to my mind it might just be pure shite haha)

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed May 11, 2016 6:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

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Of course text her and tell her you had a wonderful time.
Of course see her again.
Of course she'll fuck you next time.
Patience and coolness young gun.
Hey Heywood, good to hear from you again!

In this particular case, what would you text her? (Sorry, it's just that I have only 2 hours of sleep in me and I'm afraid that if I just write whatever comes to my mind it might just be pure shite haha)

"I really had a great night!! Everything about you turns me on…I just cant get the thought of you out of my head! ....I love feeling your soft silky skin against me."

As a suggestion.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu May 12, 2016 4:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

And?

Author:  Portugal.Thy.Man [ Thu May 12, 2016 6:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

Hey, sorry for that long, internet went to shit.

Yeah I tweaked that a little mixing a bit of humor and apparently it worked. I invited her tonight for the theater thing, but she says she has a lot to study for some test and needs to get serious sleep. Sounds like an legit excuse.

I guess I'll have to wait for next week and invite her to something to see how it goes.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu May 12, 2016 6:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

Next time Netflix and chill.

Author:  paxis [ Fri May 13, 2016 7:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

Nice to see there's somebody else from Portugal here.
You did good, golden considering that you don't have that much experience.
Just one doubt: you had an orgasm without her vagina hugging your dick? So she masturbated you, great for you.

Anyway, after you two have sex (which will happen if you play your cards right), act in the same way as you did until today, as in, not becoming needy, desperate, thinking you love her, whatever.

Author:  Portugal.Thy.Man [ Fri May 20, 2016 10:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

I've been with her a couple more times, and last night we repeated movie night.

Pretty much the same as my original post. This time I got further, I managed to get my fingers inside her, but after a bit she asked me to stop, said "you gotta take it slow with me". Dry humped a couple more times.

Then she starts crying and talking about her recent ex-boyfriend. I just let her calm down and after a while she was normal again. She did exactly the same on the first date (original post).

I was able to mantain my cool after not getting real sex. But the fact is we've been behaving kinda like a couple (holding hands, texting everyday about our day, etc) and I feel like her thoughts about her ex are preventing me from having sex with her (even when he's not present he's fucking my life lol)

It might just be that she really wants to take things slow, but if someone could tell me if there's a way of preventing the ex-bf thoughts from reappearing when we're together, it would be of great help...

Cheers!

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Mon May 23, 2016 1:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

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I've been with her a couple more times, and last night we repeated movie night.
wash rinse repeat.
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Then she starts crying and talking about her recent ex-boyfriend.
Dismiss with "I'm not him."

Author:  Portugal.Thy.Man [ Mon May 23, 2016 2:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

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Dismiss with "I'm not him."
Good one, hadn't thought of that. Might as well act uninterested when she starts telling stories about things they did together too.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Mon May 23, 2016 4:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

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Dismiss with "I'm not him."
Good one, hadn't thought of that. Might as well act uninterested when she starts telling stories about things they did together too.
Bust her balls when she does this with a mock snore "ZZZZzzz!"

Author:  GFRESH2DEF [ Sun Aug 07, 2016 12:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Weird night - a mixed bag

You did everything right. You physically escalated when the opportunity warranted it. You showed empathy and took a step back and went back to rapport when she got tensed-up. The hard part was getting her facebook, the number, and then the follow-up day 2. I would just tell you to mark this down as a reference experience and plow through this particular plateau as it comes up again in the future.


I remember that i recently had 3 near misses in a 2 week period (3 almost lays with 3 separate girls). Needless to say, that was brutal and was messing with my head for a while. But through perseverance not too long after that, i had a few makeouts, and i managed to rack up a few lays. One of them was an HB9 which i will write about in my upcoming first ever lay report.


And by the way..sex with girls will temporarily boost your confidence, but the novelty of this will eventually fade. And you will come to the conclusion that you will have to draw confidence from your core..which is more sustainable, and not from the validation of women. Yeah being a virgin sucks, but being someone who only feels confident whenever he gets laid sucks even more. Trust me!


-G

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