Scene 10 - The x-factor
Quote:
Women are like cats. You try to rally them up like dogs and they just jump up on the top bookshelf and fall asleep. So you sit there . . . pretend that you don't even notice her. Take a bowl of warm milk, put it right next to your foot. Go grab a paper and just read. . . and wait..
So, persistence is good for when you are face to face with her to plough through some resistance. But don't persist too much in other situations or you look needy (follow up game). You throw the ball in her camp and wait if she responds, is that the way I should interpret it?
The party
Me and my friends went to a party. We decided to first go crazy and after the best performers were gone. We went wild, but still sober (I'm always sober when going out btw).
Friends friend
While we were partying I came across a girl who is a friend of a friend of mine, we have talked before, but nothing special happened. She doesn't date alot of guys, she's hard people have told me. I start talking with her and the girls in the group, introduce one of my friends. I clawed the girl and talked to her like that. After some time we start dancing, I go into some grinding and I felt she followed well. After some grinding we stop and she goes to her friend and asks her to go to the front more.She went off with her friend and looked back at me.
I gave her the 'frowned eyebrow, smile -are you leaving me here- look'.
Later that night, after the next story, when I went to her again with a friend and talked with the group, made some fun. Bumped with my ass against that girl, but she wasn't so receptive anymore. Even my wingmen told me her bodylanguage showed that she's not interested. (Did she see I was a slut?..).
three dancing girls
I noticed a group of girls dancing a bit further from where we were standing. I told one of my friends that the girl in the black dress was hot. I love this guy, he is a great wing. He goes first to the group and starts talking to one of them. I did as if I was following him and stood still next to the black dressed girl. I look at her, then looked at my friend talking to her friend and said with a smile on my face "What is happening here?". I don't know anymore how she reacted, but we talked a bit. After a minute or so I grab her hand, do some hip swinging and spin her. As if one spin wasn't enough I kept making her spin, bout 5 times I think. I noticed she saw her friends looking at us. I clawed her and said "It's ok, we'll tell them that you're my ex-girlfriend. We broke up but we're still pretty good friends".
I pull her closer to me and start grinding, she was following real good. I start grinding her and says she'll need to let me lead, thats her job. We grind and I ask her if she knows the basic salsa steps. she doesn't so I tell her I'll teach her. I push the front of her thigh to the back and lead her like this into the salsa step . She didn't seem to mind I was touching her thighs on the back and front. I grind some more, go back into normal dancing, grind again and start walking away with her while grinding. She asks me where I'm going and I tell her "just over there ..." which was no response since I didn't point at anything.
I grind with her, push her against the wall, put my back to her and start like going down like a stripper on her. I turn her around so I'm against the wall now and let her grind some more on my leg. I push her against the wall again, I am right against her now with my face very close. I kiss her forehead, tilted my head and went for the kiss, no routines this time. we make out for a while and I start stroking her ass and grab it. I remembered what spread said if she isn't down with touching her boobs she isn't down to finger.
So I go with my hands up from her hips along the sides of her body till I am next to her boobs and then slide on her boobs. She takes my hand away and pushes me away a bit says "you can't do that". I tell her "Sure I can, you've touched mine already", grab her hands and put it on my chest. She laughs and I pull her close again and start making out again. She was with her eyes closed almost all the time or looking at the ground, while making out (which is normal), but even while dancing. I don't think it was because she was shy, she didn't behaved like she was shy.
Somewhat like this puppet does, but not with the head held up.
After a while she says she has to go to the toilet. I say to her "Ohhh no, that's THE excuse to get away from me! while smiling ". I kept it cool, waited a bit for her to come back, she didn't come and then I decided to go bck to my friends.
she was standing there with her friends, and she was hiding a bit behind her friends, hugged with them. She was a bit embarrassed (her friends didn't see us make out tho. Later on I heard from one of my friends that her friends told him that nothing would probably happen, because she just broke up with her bf). I found it funny how she was playing the embarrassed I can't believe what happened girl. So I walk up to them and introduce myself, start talking to her friends. When I started talking to her again she asked how old I was. I tell her my age and she said I was too young for her, she was one year older.
I say to her, age doesn't mean a thing, we chat a bit and she told me to prove that I wasn't much younger and to show my ID. I don't like following up commands without getting anything back, so I told her: "sure, but show me yours too so I am sure I'm not making out with a 16 year old girl". We cross ID's and she's still in the 'you're too young vibe'. We chat a bit and I tell her to put her phone number in my cell. She didn't want to, I grab my heart and say "oooooh, you're breaking my heart here girl" in a fun way. I talk with her friends a bit about how she broke my heart and I back off to my friends again.
A while later I go to her, start dancing with her again and say this while guiding her:
"now go 5 steps backwards"
"3 to the right side"
"5 steps back again"
I said there is an X on the floor there and we should go to it. She complied as I took her through these steps. This was a fun way to isolate her again. We stand still and I slowly push her against a wall again and start making out with her again with my body right against her, breathing deeply and rubbing my leg between her 2 legs. She was shaking her head often as if she shouldn't be doing this. It was alot more passionate this time. I start stroking her thighs (oh god they were so soft) on the side and go up with my hands and suddenly felt her underwear. She looked suprised and said 'no!'. She backs off again and I laugh like nothing special happened, pulled her close again and make out again. I was making out heavily and 3 fucking douchebags, form a circle around us and look and joke about it. This freaked her out and she wanted to go to her friends again.
She does the same embarrassed girl thing again. I go stand in front of her with my arms on my back and go close to her as if I secretly was giving her my cellphone to put her number in. She still didn't want to lol. Her group kept dancing close to my friends group, so I stayed inactive for a long while, but I didn't want to seem like a pussy but also not as needy. I kept it cool and just stroked her arm now and then when I am dancing near her, and then pretend I know of nothing. When I did that she went standing a bit further from me
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I was fed up and said to a friend, let's go talk to other people. So I went to the front, Friends friend was standing there and you've already read what happened there. It was getting late, so I said goodbye to everyone. I was looking for the black dressed girl to say goodbye, but she already left.
So I go outside, start walking some streets and guess who's standing there with her friends... yep black dressed girl. I walk up to them but put my sweater on my head so that they can't see my face, but still make it obvious that it was me. They went "oh no" and laughed. "It's the young guy". I laugh and told them I wasn't too young to be friends with them. We talked a bit about going out. I asked all of their names and repeated my full name. I go closer to black dressed girl and say, you should add me on facebook. I let her repeat my name and laugh how she won't remember it anyway. I say to her "Put in your number here, I'll text you my name so you won't forget.". She agrees and starts saying numbers.
I show her what i typed, but it was wrong she said and gave me some resistance when I asked her to tell me the right number again. Eventually she did gave the numbers. I text her my name. Her friends start going away and she has to follow, so she starts leaving and I say to her "bye my girlfr.. no.. my friend.. no my secret friend!" And walked off. I don't know if she will add me.
I threw the ball in her camp, now let's see if she does anything with it.
lessons learned
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I should have made her feel safer when those douchebags came
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I should let girls cool off a bit when I escalate alot on them, switch it more up with just talking and laughing, that could be why both girls left me at a point
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Switch making out more often with other types of touching, making out alone got boring after a while for me, I don't know about her.
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I might have to look up some ways to build a deeper connection[/i]
Leading her made me look confident. With the presistance I took the responsability on me. If the girl is losing interest or avoiding me a bit, doing nothing will result to nothing, so persistence is my best shot.[/i]