Hey man.. i read tru your post and I thought to myself " ive been there "..
and yes we've all been there, waiting anxiously for our bodys to naturally react... waiting for our mind to betray our fears and our mouth opens and ... waiting for the perfect conversation to magically start, or just waiting for something to happen tha will make them talk to you.
But the truth is NO, that doesnt happen, you make it happen, and if you dont, some one else will. But no sweat because ive got great news for you.
THis happens, its very common.
Some practical excercises:
(THE RULES OF THE GAME, Neil Strauss)(with variation)
1 week, each day aproach at least 10 total strangers and start a conversation. might be about anything, the wheather, sports, traffic, new products, politics, fashion, animals.. whatever you like it.. you dont even have to keep the conversation going, just start it.
Even if the answer is a monosilable YES or NO, you won the test; You started a conversation or at least aproached a stranger.
This is only for you to calibrate the different responses you might get when talking or aproaching a stranger, might be a man, a woman, a kid, and old man, a homeless person, a waiter, waitress, policeman.
Get the calibration in the field, talk to as many stranges as possible. Plus, if youre totally new into this "new social skillset" you will feel a rush of emotions when you star aproaching people.
This is very effective and helpful, please do it.
Another thing you can do is:
1 week, each day, every time you see a pretty girl, compliement her on something shes wearing, might be her dress, her neclkace, her bracelet, shoes, pants.. whatever... on the street, on the bus, at work, at school. anywhere is a good place to recieve a compliement, right? Wouldnt you like to be compliemented by a young lady on your way to work while youre walking?.. wouldnt you feel nice?
Even if the girl isnt that pretty, you aproach her anyways and compliement her on something and most important of all, dont expect any response. Most commonly a girl will say "thanks" "thank you" "nice to hear that" "you look nice too"... etc etc..
just compliement. then get out. ( if get into a conversation over that, dont expect any results of the convo, if possible get her number. then get out )
Theres a phrase that says ... caring too much about the outcome of any given pick up, wether its good or bad outcome can be insidious to your game, if you get rejected or treated rudely, move on. people that give bad things recieve bad things.
on the other hand if she gives you her number and everything. dont get too excited, go out if possible but please dont fall in love or get the one-itis.
PLus its better for you not to expect any particular outcome of a pick up.
The idea is to get your brain working on talking. talking on anything you can, aproaching strangers and calibrating on their responses. lets say during a week you aproached 15 girls each day ( remember, total strangers you can find em anywhere ) and its 7 days a week, so its 15 X 7 =..... 105
lets say you aproach an average per week of 100 girls. what do you think is the percetage of those 100 girls that will engage a conversation with you
must be at least a minimum 20 %
so you say that during a week you might have a 100 % chance getting into a conversation with 20 girls
just 20 out of 100
and even if you dont make it to 100 you could say that minimum you aproach 10 girls per day meaning per week 70
average 20 % from 70 = 14 girls per week
and just by starting a conversation on anything you want, or if you like it, a compliement. are you following me?
(NOTE: if you aproach some1 on the street remember to speak out loud and looking at her, so you get her attention at least for a sec. and also remember to go out well groomed and smiling =D
NOW come on, dont be shy, the world is out there and you dont want to miss it. REmember, to read theory, but most of all, practice, and go out a lot !!! and I MEAN A LOT !!!...
GAme on !!
Good LUCK. _________________ ".. I will learn all that I've forgotten, I will succeed where I'd previously failed, and even if I don't I wont stop, cuz this is not just about girls, this is about Life "
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