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I'm a long time lurker, just recently became a member. Just wanted to sincerely thank you for your posts. Great insights, interesting writing in general.
Two things that recently stood out, you mentioned the idea of limiting beliefs. I understand, society in general is programmed to have some type of expectations -sort of like schemas (it helps us kind of be able to organize and predict outcomes and behavior). And while in our mind, we have a governor put the brakes on what's possible, it reality there are no brakes and everything is possible. Your insight really helped my game, because it really shined the light on the idea that the possibilities are endless and people (both me and girls) are capable of doing much more than they ever expected of themselves when gently pushed the right way.
I also liked your last paragraph about girls wanting you to succeed. I agree 100%. I believe this fact is one of main sources of positive energy. I'm going to keep this idea in the back of my head on every approach I do going forward. Both guys and girls are at the clubs and bars to meet people, have a good time and make connections. On a deep level it's all positive energy.
Don't mind my rambling. I look forward to your posts and there's an open invitation to Prague (where I am based) if you travel to Europe.
Hey man, I would love to go out in Prague! Best beer I ever had in Europe was there, it's a wicked cool city. I plan on being in Europe sometime next year, I'll let you know.
I'm glad you like the writing, I try to keep it engaging. Limiting beliefs suck man! They hold us back so much and they're also very difficult to see. A certain part of game is pushing the envelope as far as possible to see what's really possible. It's difficult because we don't like to change but it's absolutely necessary to get good.
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I've talked before about these brief glimpses of game at the next level. It's these moments where I'm talking to the girl but I'm no longer chasing. I'm not trying to lead it towards sex. I'm just there, talking, being myself. The funniest thing is that when it happens it feels scary. It's so different from the way I've spent 99.998% of my life interacting with girls. I first started noticing this last month but it seems to be happening a bit more now. All I can say is cool, I'm looking forward to the shift. It might take another year to fully get there and that's OK. Once I do my options with women will blow up.
I'm really interested in talking to the most attractive women. I want to be consistently approaching them, reapproaching them, staying in set under pressure and in general doing whatever possible to speak with them as long as possible. In a way I think that going after hotter women may actually be easier. I'm more attracted and more willing to endure bullshit, fight through pressure, reapproach multiple times, etc. As opposed to another average girl who I might blow off as soon as things get tricky.
A theory, women respond well to good looking guys not just because of the physical looks, but because she associates good looking guys with game. That is, the two usually go together. She may give a good looking guy the benefit of the doubt, whereas a less unattractive guy has to do more to prove himself because she isn't inclined to believe he's got attractive qualities.
I'm still really interested in the idea of entitlement. Yesterday at work an exceptionally tall, skinny blonde girl sat down close to me. I'm about 84% sure she sat there because she wanted me to talk to her. We had exchanged glances earlier. I never talked to her. My thought process is something like, there's no way it will happen. I've never slept with a girl I met in the day. I can't make this happen. Contrast that to Ukraine, where we rolled up on stunning women all the time and it was easy and fun. Of course I would have opened her there, I felt entitled!
In Ukraine, as an American, you're wealthy, you can afford to eat anywhere and do anything, you have great status. My game in Ukraine was the same, the only thing that changed was entitlement. However, that simple change allowed me to thoughtlessly roll up on great looking women all day. Whereas in NYC I feel like a small, broke fish and I don't feel entitled. Interesting. However, I know this can be overcome.
Distant Light was fucking 20, broke, living with his parents and he still made it happen with models all the time. It's possible.
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Ended up with three different wingman, we opened some chicks. It was fun. I've reached the point where I have a group of really fucking solid wingman who go out a lot, approach a lot and are effective with women. It's great, especially compared to some of the bozos I went out with when I started. And they want to hang out with me, we all offer value to each other. Don't try to attract the people you want in your life. Instead, become the type of person you want to attract and then they'll come to you.