Yes it was aggressive, however, I feel like I was completely congruent and I was getting IOIs. Perhaps I didn't provide enough details. While being aggressive sexually, I was leaning back, smiling (which I have a great smile and get lots of compliments on), and using a playful tone the entire time. I wasn't needy or pushy although for a lot of guys it may appear that this was super aggressive. Like someone posted in another post, (and now that I can recognize it), I feel like we were doing a dance. She was accepting my challenges and I gave it right back. She did accept my kino when I touched her on the elbow and on the arm, just when I went for more. So maybe she needed more comfort.
Also, how could you say she isn't attracted to me? I got a shit load of IOIs. Maybe you focused too much on the sexual aggression and not on her responses. She kept eye contact the entire time, she said, "I don't think my fiance would like you [to my friend] but I do think he would like you [to me]." What girl says my fiance would like you if she doesn't like you and thinks you're too aggressive? Third, she responded with sexual comebacks. Fourth, when I said you can leave anytime you want and I literally backed up and put my hands out like there you go, like I don't give a fuck, she stayed talking to me. Tons of women have walked off when they aren't attracted even when I'm nice and not aggressive, so for her to willingly stay says that she must have been interested somewhat. Lastly, I was the one that ended the conversation, not her. When I was leaving, she said, "You are definitely interesting and memorable." What girl says that that isn't attracted or at least a little interested. Remember, I did all of this very playfully, smiling the entire time.
Furthermore, this is my natural personality. I like saying fucked up shit, that is why I mimicked Julien, because I relate with that personality. That same night, I used the exact same obnoxious, aggressive game (but with a playful tone, completely confident, and congruent) on another HB7 and got tons of kino from her. I even called her a dirty little whore and she loved it. I've also run game on stripper where I've called them pieces of shit and they've loved it. Now I realize that sounds fucked up, but it works because I come across congruent and playful when I do it. The other girl and I were hand holding, face inches apart (I should have went for the kissclose, but I chickened), and I got her number, which she replied to my texts the next day. So, while you say that was weak game, it works on some girls.
Also, I'm a pretty good looking guy, and because I went in with a total frame of I don't give a fuck, I came across confident and congruent. Even my wing was like fuck, you totally upped your game on that one. Now, I realize this isn't MM or whatever, but I feel like I came from the right frame - I get fuck tons of girls, this is who I am, and I'm awesome, and you love it. And she responded well.
So back to my original question, for guys who have used this kind of game successfully, what could I have done next? Should I have moved or bounced her? Did I need to move into comfort, so that she could feel like I'm also a normal person?
(I realize that this girl has a fiance and for some people that goes against their values. I frankly don't care if the girl does. I may get the karma back one day, but those are currently my values. I apologize if you feel offended by my style.)
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