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Have you looked for a wing in your area? Are you willing to visit other cities to find wings? Working with other people who are better than you with pickup will be sure to improve your game MASSIVELY and pick out sticking points that you otherwise wouldn't notice. I strongly advise you to find some wings OR go on a recommended course from the forum where an instructor can give you in person advice about your mindset and game.
These aren't necessary. The only issues I have are inner game issues. The system I follow places little emphasis on outer game as the outer game process is remarkably simple:
All I need to do is approach, have a bit of a conversation, be mindful of shit tests, re-approach if necessary, push for f-close and it's done. Simple.
It's my inner game issues that cause me to not follow correct outer game procedure.
New hard and fast rule I'm implementing as of today is the following:
No more consumption of alcohol.
Last night I consumed more alcohol than I have in the past and it didn't help me get into the zone at all. I DON'T NEED ALCOHOL. No more. It also lessens my discipline in regards to abstaining from prostitutes.
Last night I managed to do only one approach:
Me: Would you like to have sex?
Her: You're very direct.
Me: Yeah, I've learnt from very direct pickup artists. That's my style.
Her: Well, I'm right.
Me: Oh okay. So you're not horny?
Her: No.
Me: Oh, so you had a good night?
Her: Yeah, I had fun. You?
Me: Yeah alright. I just come here to look for pussy basically. I usually don't get anywhere though. I've drunken more than I usually do which is why I just asked you straight up if you wanted to have sex.
Her: Oh okay, well sorry, I'm right.
Me: That's okay.
I went to a brothel later in the night and just as the prostitute I booked was about to give me a blowjob I for some reason said "I understand everyone needs to make a living and I respect what you do". To this she said something along the lines that no one has said anything like this to her and that I made her feel comfortable. Rather than giving me a blowjob she started talking a lot and I asked her questions like I do when trying to pick up (i.e. what's your favorite color, favorite fruit, do you have any brothers and sisters etc.). We also talked about what we value in relationships. She told me she just got divorced from a guy who didn't give her enough of his time to spend with her. She also told me that she recently went to a bar alone and wanted guys to come up and talk to her but no one did!
Anyway, we eventually got to having sex which I kind of regretted as I was having more fun with the conversing and the thought that I should ask this beautiful lady out on a date. It kind of felt like I met someone who I had been looking for to finally have a relationship with. She gave me compliments but I know this could have just been the money talking so to speak.
The sex was boring. I think I'm over sex, especially at 4:00 AM on a Sunday morning. She seemed to get off though and I asked her what she liked and we did what she wanted - which is how I want to approach sex. But still it was boring.
When it was over the feeling of asking her out on a date had gone (it went away as soon as we started having sex) but I did it anyway and she said to come back to the brothel in a month's time and ask her then as she was too busy now. I said I was disappointed and only gave a 'maybe' as reassurance that I would come back in a month.
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I think this low libido is an issue. My sex drive isn't motivating me enough to do pick up. At the club I just stood there feeling like I was above everyone else as I have conquered my sexual addictions. I don't masturbate. Porn isn't entertaining anymore and I don't like to watch it as I prefer to just wait to get the real thing.
When I'm work I often realize that I am happy and normal being single. But I know I can be a great partner to someone I may eventually hook up with as I like to live by honesty, trust and respect.