FR: three dates with a sour end
We kissed before she left my house. It was 2 am. As she was going up the stairs I called her back. She came. She always did. Whatever I asked her to do she complied. Soon after she left for good. I felt terrible…
It all started with many shy-teenager smiles that we exchanged over months. We worked at the same place. And those smiles always came with a sparkle. She liked me I could tell. She had a very good body plus there was something devilish about her. After months of exchanging smiles and polite phrases I got her number. It was no textbook game, in fact it was absolutely lame but
we both wanted each other.
Same day date and I run most of my game arsenal on her. Suprisingly she was not impressed nor did she hate it. Now I know why –
she wanted to fuck not play games. I was not getting many usual IOIs so I carried on with DHVs and comfort building but failed to escalate.
She eagerly confirmed another date. My aim was to escalate but all I managed was to hug her couple of times and get her to sit on my lap. She went out of her way to walk me almost home.
I thought this was going nowhere. What would a needy looser with no other options do in this situation? Yes, take her out again. So I did and once again she was keen. It took me another two hours to finally kiss her. She complied but did not turn into a face-licking dog. The only topic she really enjoyed was talking about sexual fantasies and sex-locations. Yes, I know… I need a bright red flashing banner on her forehead screaming
BANG ME to realize she was horny all the way.
Fast forward one hour of general talk, she is about to go home. I knew that was the last time we could make something happen. I started hinting going to my place, pulling her every minute or two to make out and generally acting as a needy AFC. Her attraction had a downward spiralling toboggan ride. Still she almost coldly
suggested a quick bathroom sex. I denied (facepalm) and dragged her into a taxi. It felt like a kidnap.
I felt terrible when we arrived at my house and I went on to act as a good guy with no nasty intentions. However I was hoping for her to give me a permission to seduce her. Something along the lines: ‘Awww, you are so considerate that you do not rape me when I am no longer so keen. I forgive you pulling me to your bedroom despite me wanting to go home. Here, have my pussy.’. I truly embraced this
good-guy-with-no-nasty-intentions frame to the extent of giving her LMR when she finally made a move on me! Guess what, we laid in bed as a sweet romantic couple and talked. Suddenly she jumped out and left. I never saw her again.
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So what the fuck happened? This is my after-sarge breakdown: Mind-blowing coitus was on her mind since the first date. So all my openers, games and DHV routines were just as good as any other general talk to her. She wanted ME to make it happen. She would never take initiative to escalate.
Her IOIs were different to the usual – sticking around FOR AGES, complying with ANYTHING I asked her to do (note to my self – how about ‘let’s have sex in that bush over there’?!!). This was the first time I experienced it so I thought that she was not giving me enough IOIs.
Lessons learned:
• Not sure if it is on? Assume it is and ESCALATE!!!
• Different girls give different IOIs. Even absence of IODs is an IOI.
• Be more sexual. Too much comfort building without escalation turns boring!
• Compliment girls more, show interest. You are too much of a nice guy.
• Think about the bigger picture. A girl with you in bed, does what you ask her to,… Does she not want sex?!
Beast