5-12-2016
Recovering from an onslaught of professional obligations, I have made my way back into the pimpin' community. Granted, I have had a solid rotation of girls throughout my off-season. My rotation is great, but I know that I need to get back out there and sharpen my skills to reach even higher levels of success.
So tonight I was rusty. I had approach anxiety at first. It was my first night trying to do cold approach for about 3 weeks. While I was waiting for my wingman to arrive at the bar, I ordered a strong drink to turn off my logical mind. I was chatting on the phone with one of my rotation girls, and I didn't do any approaches. When my wing arrived, he brought two decent looking 30 year old women. I'd rate them about 6.5/10, even though I usually don't like older women. I had social hook with my target, but she wasn't quite sexually hooked. My overall vibe was very indifferent, and I tried to throw in some jokes. Eventually, the girls said they were going to walk around the bar, and they would see us at the next club (we were both going to the same spot).
On the way out, my wingman opened some other girls. He got blown out twice, and then he opened a petite 5/10 while I was standing there with my dick in my hand. I saw a decent looking 6/10 who I should have approached, but I got approach anxiety and bitched out.
We left the bar to go to the next club, and skipped the entire line (I have connections) to walk right in. I was throwing out pre-openers to the girls waiting for the elevator- "this blacklight shows all the dirt on your shirt." When we got up to the club, we went to the rooftop. I immediately saw a sexy girl and I opened her without any hesitation. "Hey that dress is hot." She hooked, I assumed compliance, and sat down next to her. A few minutes in, some guy walks over and she says "this is my boyfriend." Aw fuck. I wish them well and move on.
My wingman was in set with two girls, and he told me that "they're OK." I came into the set with him, got the social hook, and realized that these girls had very low buying temperature- they weren't even really in the mood to talk. We moved onto the next set.
I opened a very sexy girl who was walking around looking for her friends. She socially hooked, but I choked up and didn't swing through. She said she was going downstairs to her friend's table, and I said "cool I am too, let's go." She didn't take the bait, and she said "no I can't bring anyone to the table." I should have persisted here, and said something like "just tell them that I'm your co-worker. I can't stay long anyway, I have to get back to my friends soon, I just wanted to meet you." However, i didn't do this, I opted to ask her for a number to see her again. This was a dumb move because I didn't build any investment from her. Even if she had given me the number, it would have been flakey. I may have fucked up with this one because she was at least an 8/10, and I was experiencing some nerves. This will dissipate once I get back into gaming consistently.
We opened two girls sitting down, and this one went pretty well. My wingman was talking to the hotter girl, and I think that my target was feeling self-conscious, because she knew that her friend was hotter. I threw in some sexual jokes with mine: "I'm a male stripper" etc. Some DHV stories about the places that I will be traveling to. Seeded the pull by saying "we're having an awesome afterparty tonight downtown, we're going to go rip some shots, you girls should come." My girl was down to come, but her friend was not really feeling my wingman. NEXT
We walked around the venue and saw a cute blonde with two guys. My wingman opened her, and it turned out that the guys were gay. The cute brunette friend came over and thought that we were friends with the gay guys. I fucked with her by saying that we're high school friends. Got physical with her by spinning her and using side hugs. I actually picked her up in a cradle position at one point. One of the gay dudes wanted to talk to her so she engaged with him. There was an opportunity for me to reengage, but I decided not to because I didn't want to overly telegraph interest in her. She sat down, making it harder for me to reopen because I was standing and there were no seats next to her. I went downstairs.
Downstairs, I found the two set from the first bar. I opened them by putting my arms around both of them, and they remembered me. I pulled them upstairs so that my wingman could take one of them. We were snapping pics, and I was saying BS in spanish to demonstrate familiarity with their culture. the girls sat down, and there was no space next to my target, so i took her hands, had her stand up, and moved her somewhere that I could sit down next to her. We had some BS chat for a minute, and she was letting me escalate by putting my hand on her leg. Then, when I escalated by putting her arm around my shoulder, she straight up said: "I don't think you're the right guy for me tonight, I want a German guy." I thought this was weird as fuck, and offensive in some ways. I wasn't willing to lie about my nationality to get laid, even though I could have. This might have been a result of following my ego- I didn't want to believe that I had to lie about myself to get laid.
After this set, I walked around the club for a minute, and experienced approach anxiety again. there were a few girls who I could have opened nonverbally, but I was experiencing mental resistance.
Analysis
1. The approach anxiety will fade with time. It's more pronounced now, because I have taken time off from practicing game. If I keep going out, it will be gone in a few days. Just remember that nothing bad will happen if you approach- the worst you'll get is "nice to meet you" or the occasional "fuck off." But these reactions won't actually hurt you.
2. It might be useful to come into the night with a theme that you want to talk about. For example, "do I look like a drug dealer? People have been asking me for drugs all night." Then use this type of theme to riff and make jokes.
3. Remember that you're looking for chemistry with a girl. Chemistry tends to be slightly rare, it's common to find at least one girl on a Friday or Saturday who you have chemistry with because of the high volume, but on a weeknight, there is less volume and less potential for finding chemistry. I didn't feel any particularly strong feelings of attraction for any of the girls who I met tonight, and they probably didn't feel any for me. But after practicing game for over a year and a half, I realize that if I consistently go out, I will find at least a few girls every week who I do have chemistry with. You just have to sift through the mud to find the jewels.
4. I could have number closed the set that was most on, but I opted not to, because the girl was only a 7/10, and I wouldn't have wasted time going on a date with her. Generally the practice I have been following is to not set day two plans unless the girl is at least as good as my rotation girls currently.
5. the number one takeaway from tonight was GAME MORE. I fully understand the process of picking up girls, but I'm out of practice and very rusty. I need to practice nightgame, daygame, and online game to get back to my former skill level. _________________ My #1 MONEY line to pull sets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkHjnZgCP18 (0:25)
Stop being "perfect." It's time to evolve.
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