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I signed up like a month ago but I was too busy procrastinating get started with this, I didn't have the balls to commit myself to this, until now, I have to, I want to do it.
Some background I am virgin, a 21 old virgin, though I have had some chances to get laid (3 chances), I didn't take any of them because I was expecting my first time to with some kind or angel, which, honestly, was never going to happen. So I hit the bottom, and when you hit bottom it fucking hurts, but the good thing about hitting bottom is, once you hit it, there's only one way to go. I've spent most of my years like in a car, just watching trough the window the world, how in the outside world everything that's fun was going on while I was just there, in my comfort bubble being too nice with myself, telling me that someday the bubble will break naturally spontaneously, and I would be some kind of super confident guy, and.... !No shit! the world doesn't work that way. But now I'm ready, finally ready to do this, I'm writing this with more confidence than I've ever had.
!lets get this shit done!
Goals:
*Being able to approach any girl or set while feeling comfortable, also being capable to close at my will.
*get at least one date with one of the girls I approached/ date to accomplish it:firsts days of April
* have number closed at least 15 / date to accomplish it:first days of may
* get laid with at least one girl(not necessarily an angel)/ date to accomplish it:firsts days of July
keys:
Constancy: I must keep going out as often as possible to improve as fast as I can. So the plan for now is to go out at least 4 times a week.
Self analysis: I must analyze my outcomes to improve. To know what I'm doing wrong and what not, and if something is not working, why is not working?
Dicipline: If I want this to workout I need first that all the above thing to get done and the only way to do this is to get more auto disciplined with myself. Time to get militar.
I think that that's enough for now, I'll add things if I think of more.
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Day 1
I went out yesterday, for first time in my life alone. I'd read that mystery does it, but I didn't had the balls to do it until yesterday.
I called my friends to go out and none of them were free or wanted to, but by the time I realized that I was already dressed, groomed, and ready to go out, so I thought -!Fuck it!, I don't need them to have fun-
I went to this popular nightclub in which if you get there after eleven you are going to wait at least half hour. I get there after eleven so I knew I was going to be queuing for while, When I just get there I started to talk to the guys(two guys) who where waiting besides me. With some work I made them my friends, which for that moment was already a success cause I got a group to enter with to the club so I don't look like a creep(they even paid my beers). After like forty minutes we got in, we bought beers and move to a place where we would be more comfortable, and after like 15 minutes I got the balls to open a group of 2 girls(hb6, hb8) and one guy, that were behind me.
I used the love spell opener, after I ended the routine I ran out of conversation but somehow I hold their attention until a group of like 5 people joined the group and I simply didn't know how to handle that, so I left the group and went to talk to my friends.
Then there was this hb8 who had been looking at me for some time so I Figured out it would be good to talk to her, she was with this guy, and I improvised something like,
-!No shit! George it's you? it's been so much time.
He was like,- no, I'm not george-. And of course he wasn't but that was enough to open the set, this set was going a lot better, until I found out that they were a couple, so I just say thanks guys, but my friends are waiting for me, and left them to meet my friends.
I didn't really open any other set yesterday.
Sticking points.
Approach anxiety
After the opener I ran out of conversation.
What worked?
I was able to go out alone and made friends.
I actually opened sets
What do I need to work more .
Body language, I know I didn't say anything about it, but I caught my self some times leaning towards the person I was talking to, which as far as I is not alpha body language.
Approach anxiety; with this Today I'm gonna go out and open as much sets as I can(at least 8 ) and and try to hold their attention for as much time possible.
You deserve a round of applause for going out on your own. Society tells us that we shouldn't, that this is strange behavior. Well fuck society. They ain't never paid me and they won't do so now.
Making friends was a great idea. Majority of guys are actually willing to meet new people and will take a single guy into their group. I usually enter new groups while in the queue waiting for entry as well.
I didn't hear about how much fun you're having. How much you were enjoying yourself. That you OWNED the place. Positive energy is attractive and infectious - if you're having a good time other people will notice and want that same feeling.
Talk to more women. Notice I didn't say "open" - be genuine. Use situational openers. You see a girl with a cool bag, shoes, earrings? Tell them you LOVE it...but that you can't believe she stole them from your closet!
A girl wearing the same colors as you? Tell her that you're matching, but she's going to have to stop looking through your window and taking dress ideas from you.
Make it fun. Make it light. Get them to laugh. TEASE them. Then lead them to do what you want.