This week's been solid!
Wednesday I played softball with AG girl, met her whole team (she invited me to fill in for someone). They obviously love me, and wanted me to play with them for the fall. Boom, 12 new friends just like that.
In social circle situations, you've got acquaintances that graduate into friends that graduate into BFF yolo hang out awesome friends. AG girl would be the latter. We gossip about our love lives together, we always have fun and laugh when we're together, and we've got crazy rapport because we've shared everything there is to share about our love lives together. And honestly guys, AG girl is an attractive girl, but I don't even think of her in that way because I LOVE having her as a BFF friend.
Once someone graduates into becoming your BFF friend from being just a normal friend, you basically absorb their entire social circle into your own.
It didn't hurt that baseball was my first sport and I kicked ass on the diamond
Golly, I'm so modest too.
Thursday AE girl and I went on a romantic sunset hike, and things are at an unprecedented level of comfort and rapport. We took some cutesy pics, laughed and shared stories the whole time. At the top, I slow things down, turn her face towards me, and start kissing her slowly and sensually. She reacts strongly to every kiss. I pull back and tell her she's very distracting. She says, "Look who's talking."
Afterwards, we went to Wendy's and she told me her past relationship story while I shared the EPIC HS girl love story.
HS girl had wanted to visit me in September. She knew about AE girl because I had been updating her on the situation, and as soon as I told her that I actually liked AE girl, she reacted with jealousy. Her plans to come visit from NY became more and more real, and before she was buying the ticket she was asking me what I thought. It's obviously a weird situation for AE girl, and I gave HS girl an ultimatum:
If she wanted to fly out and visit me in September and things with AE girl were still good (which it was looking like right now), she could only come strictly as friends. That meant:
1. She couldn't stay at my house. She tried to compromise into "camping in my backyard" but I said no to that as well.
2. No physical stuff, no couple-y stuff whatsoever.
3. And I wouldn't ditch AE girl that weekend, that we would have to hang out the three of us together.
It was a take it or leave it. After a lot of hemming, hawing, and trying to compromise, HS girl decides not to come, which is a decision I completely respect. I tell AE girl all of this in addition to the rest of the saga, and she tells me she thinks HS girl is kind of a crazy bitch and is glad she's not coming to visit (as expected).
Sharing the love stories builds massive rapport, and AE girl and I feel closer than ever. It's only been 5 weeks in, and I think the girl's falling in love with me. Which is great, because I actually like her! Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!
Late thursday night KF girl drunk texts me, asking me if I wanted to run at 6:30 the next morning. Here's the text interaction:
Her: Run horse tooth at 630??
Me: Tomorrow morning?
Her: Yeah!
Me: Oh man, too early for me, enjoy though, thanks for the invite!
Her: It's not too early! And you'll have a nice start to the day!
Me: Oh man... I might regret this mightily
Her: No you won't! Come on! It'll be fun! We can even grab a burrito or something!
Me: Hahahaha okay okay fine I'll go
Her: Yeee! I can drive!
Me: Hahahahahaha ok, I'll be ready at 6:30
We go running the next morning, but I keep things casual. Despite KF girl being awesome and fun and gorgeous, I ACTUALLY like AE girl. It's crazy. KF girl tells me if I'm out in old town that night to shoot her a text. I do go to old town, and dance and sing my ass off with MS girl, MC bro, AG girl, AG girl's Maryland friend, AG girl's tennis bro romantic interest, and Z bro. Completely forget to text KF girl (too busy having fun). AE girl was in Denver going to an Eli Young band concert with her best friend. She blows up my phone with pics and texts about her concert, I respond accordingly. A great night!
Tonight MS girl and I are having people over for a potluck into a campfire party. Here's the event description on Facebook:
Potluck Pandemonium
Haven't had one of these in awhile, time for another. Bring a mouth watering dish, alcohol if you are going to drink, and chairs for sitting around the fireplace after. I LOVE SUMMER!
Between MS girl and I, we invited 74 people. Absolutely insane.
The only thing I want to change for next week is that I've been slacking slightly on my productivity. I think it's because I've gotten complacent, and having AE girl around is so nice and comfortable. I WILL turn this around this week.
I HAVE been getting back into shape. Leadville 100 ultramarathon is going to happen in a year, and I can feel my body getting stronger with every run.
One of the more important things that I learned this week involving girls this week... and disclaimer, it's for high level guys only:
Honesty is honestly almost always the best policy. Have standards for yourself that you hold highly. Stick to them. Then unapologetically let girls know that this is who you are and how you do things. If they can't deal with that, then that's okay. Your standards are more important than hers. If you stick to YOUR standards, you're basically telling your own brain that you love yourself. Incredibly sexy to women. If you bend and lie or sneak information around to achieve a certain result with a women, not only is it unfair to her, but it's unfair to YOU. You're basically telling yourself that you care about a certain result, you care about this girl more than you care about yourself or your standards. AKA you hate yourself. Not badass behavior.
Being completely open to HS girl about AE girl, being open to AE girl about HS girl, and being stalwart about not doing anything in terms of escalation with KF girl, are all examples of this. Funny thing is, it's so counter-intuitive, but being so open makes each girl chase me and want me even harder.
It's just another example of how at high levels of "game", it's way more about embracing who you are as a man, stripping away the layers, and personal development than it is about what lines to say or how I get this girl to drop her panties. It's more about BECOMING a man of value and integrity rather than IMITATING one. For example:
Do you go to the gym so you can get muscles and sleep with women? Or do you go because you love your body and want to treat it well?
Do you dress well to impress girls? Or do you dress well because it makes you feel like a badass?
Do you deliver that funny line because you want to make girls laugh and make them like you? Or do you do it because you LOVE making girls laugh and you LOVE making yourself laugh?
All food for thought.
I saw MC bro running around being all pick-up-artist-y last night at the bars, and talked about it with MS girl. She told me that when he was hitting on her, it didn't make her feel special or good, that it felt like she was expendable, and that she could've really just been any set of boobs and vagina.
It's another example of honesty and not imitation. Girls respond to perceived sub-communicated STATUS signals. Being successful at pick-up involves being able to replicate all these status signals in a short amount of time, but cold-approaching girls is (almost always) an inherently a low-status behavior. She's not qualified to meet you other than being physically appealing. She hasn't done anything other than spend time on her hair, makeup, and wardrobe. Why does she get all your attention when you should be out having fun with friends?
Honestly guys, think of cold approach as practice. Don't go into every situation trying to stick your dick into something you don't even like (low status). Think of it as practice, as getting your body language down, your eye contact down, your vocal tonality down, and your state control immaculate (high status).
Instead of trying to replicate and imitate all the signals of a high status male, why not actually work towards BECOMING a high status male?
This is why I love social circle game. Basically everyone in town knows me. I talk with everyone, I don't have to "manufacture" preselection or social value. I already AM high status because I know so many people and so many people know me. I don't go meet and cold approach girls, girls get introduced to me.
Work on your social skills. Work on your physical / emotional / mental health. Work on your career. DO IT EVERY DAY.
Ning out