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Author:  Tr@veler [ Sat Dec 13, 2014 6:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

I'm going out tonight. I'll be posting all the gritty details of both my adventures plus all the gritty details of my Bavarian girl from now on. It's time to learn, day-to-day, again.

At the moment I am focusing my energy on withholding my sexual urges with Bavarian girl so she doesn't have sexual power over me. It was a real issue in our relationship. I wanted sex all the time because she was the only one that I had. And she sure loves sexual power. She's a fucking player. We're going head-to-head. It's all a game from now on; I'm watching my investment, and yet my biggest asset is other girls. Getting rid of or lowering one-itis is a must for a healthy "relationship" with her from now on, and other girls will keep my mind focused on other areas. Vagina is not a prize. Vagina is not a prize. Vagina is not a prize.

One mindset you really get in to when you bang a lot of girls or are on a roll is that your dick really is the prize, because, well, it is. Many girls are getting it, but not all the time, and the ones that give you more attention get it. Whereas when you are monogamous, it's difficult to maintain that frame, since she is now the only one who's getting it, and thus knows she can, because it's happened so many times before. I have had my successes in past sexual adventures with Bavarian girl, withholding sex, which only makes her want it more and even makes her feel bad (which is not the intention!) but it shows her that she does not have complete sexual power over me. Also withholding cumming is a great asset in the monogamy game as well. She will think, "Why is he not cumming?! Does he still like me?"

Therefore, you have to switch roles. You are the prize, and how can you ever be the prize in a monogamous relationship? Sure it's 50-50. But girls play games. And Bavarian girl sure loves to play games as well.

She's with her former female fuck buddy/best friend watching porn in the cinema right now, having watched two showings in the past few days, however I know she hasn't done anything with her friend (but she could! She's allowed) since she SPAM me right after the showings and even got off with me on SPAM. Ah, what a show it was. #Perv.

SPAM sex is awesome, just to mention it. When done right you can get your true perv on and masturbate with each other. It took a while to get her there (and a little alcohol at times!) but totally worth it. Wish I would've recorded it for future use.

I scramble and ramble.

Let me be clear here that sexual power is something real, and that it can severely affect you and your self-esteem. Firstly you may not be getting as much sex as you want, in which case you dig for more, allowing yourself to become needy, which is a turn off for her, and thus you won't get anymore. As soon as you remove the neediness, (and we will discuss how to do that later on, both in a relationship and out of one), good things happen. Yet this requires extreme trust in both your abilities, and trust that she will fuck your brains out if you are and remain what we in the community like to call, "the man".

We will also discuss how to keep a woman. Bavarian girl was a real slut before I met her. She turned needy. Why? Firstly she has an affinity for men in general, and is highly highly sexual (she's watching porn in the cinema right now, remember?) which is awesome, but she was also a player, managing emotions, having emotionless sex for the sake of having sex. Going out, playing guys, using her sexuality to get what she wants. And now she wants my D and that's it. Hopefully that will change, as I want her to be awesome, too, not just me. So how did I do it? Long story, but we will go through the nitty gritty soon. Watch the upcoming posts.

Right now the days of pimping have begun yet again. Let's get to it.

Author:  Tr@veler [ Sat Dec 13, 2014 7:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

Our next topics will include:

Giving without expecting: your number one asset to getting everything you want without actually wanting it is emotional stimulation without wanting anything in return.
Giving yet watching investment: Giving is all well and good, but watching investment comes close second in terms of importance.
Laying back and relaxing: the importance of stopping to give and just receive every once in a while. Taking care of your own mental health and not just hers is just as important.
Staying together with her, only as long as she deserves it: if her behavior is consistently draining you or she "poison drips" you, she does not deserve to be your only one.

More to come.

Author:  Tr@veler [ Sun Dec 14, 2014 5:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

Just got back home from a night out.

I head to Camden Town to meet a new wing that I contacted over some forum. I run 10 minutes late. We spot each other, say hi, and start heading down Camden Road to a bar.

We aren't sure where to go, decide to check out Koko, get out cash since we think it's only going to be 5 pounds, but turns out to be 20 pounds without an invite. We decide to leave and go to another place.

We spot a bar that's slowly picking up its pace. We go inside, I order a water, my wing, whom I shall call Kay, heads to the toilet. After a while he comes back and we start chatting. We talk about game and about our experiences. He's cool, in his thirties. I spot a two set next to us, and to warm up I go up, wave, introduce myself, and say, "Hey, I wanted to come say hi." She's a little dumbfounded. "It's the beginning of the night and I want to unstifle myself. I haven't been social yet, I'm not drinking now, so I'm just opening myself up to socializing." She nods and asks my name. I give it to her. She gives me hers. She's got red hair and I ask her about it. She answers something, then keeps turning to her friend. At one point she stops giving a fuck and turns away. So do I. Oh well.

There's a 4-set by a table, and I tell my wing to approach. He's nervous. I keep urging him to do it. In the end he does. I stand there for a few minutes, head to the toilet, come back and walk up to him by the table, chatting away with a girl. He introduces me, then keeps talking. I tap one of the girls on the shoulder and say hi. She's very shy. I ask whether she is english. She says yes but she clearly isn't. She turns back to her friends, who aren't talking. I stand there, plowing through, just standing. I decide this is awkward, but in a funny way. Kay finishes his conversation with the girl and says we should go. We go back to the bar. He gets a fucking coffee with 8 bloody sugars. The fuck? Anyway. I look over at the table, and sure enough the girls keep looking at us. Or at him. Or at me. Or at us. I tell Kay this, and tell him he can reapproach. The girl he talked to walks to the bar. He makes the move. Leaving me in the blank, not knowing what to do, haha. There's not much going on. I decide to go to the table of three girls now and sit down in the other girl's seat.

"My friend is talking to your friend" I say.

The blonde one responds.

"Yeah where is she?"

"Somewhere over there by the bar. They're just having fun."

I turn the conversation on them. It turns out she is Slovakian. Points in my league. She's a little too old for me, but still cool. She introduces herself, then I ask who her friends are. They introduce each other. Blondie is feisty, a little bitchy but in a funny way. I tell her to teach me some Slovakian. Ftoschke Dairepsha. Happy Birthday. She's astounded by my god-like language skills. We keep talking about languages, and how she doesn't like Italian.

At this point Kay and the girl come back. The girl wants her seat.

"I stole your seat."
"I know I want it back!" she says playfully.

I turn back to blondie, thinking the other girl is occupied with Kay.

At one point the two silent girls decide they will leave. We all say goodbye to them, so now it's just Kay, his girl, blondie and me at the table. We are in.

I notice Kay and his girl aren't talking much. Blondie tells me how much her friend loves Italian. I ask whether she knows any.

"Cazo!" we all laugh. Haha. Anyway. I tell her to keep listing words in Italian. I say she has a natural Italian in her. Now this girl is fucking pretty. A downright 9 or something, fucking cute and sexy as hell. I'm jealous.

However it turns out we have chemistry in that moment. I hold eye contact deeply as we talk across the table about languages. Blondie gets up to go somewhere. Kay leaves for a while. It's just us two now. We talk and talk and talk. She's a little tipsy. I've got a beer. We talk and talk and talk, just chatting shit. I then move to blondie's chair to get better positioning. Let the touching games begin. We start to slowly feel each other out over the conversation, getting to a point of real physical comfort.

And then we vibe like crazy. She begins to respond more slowly. I notice, and so do I. At times we're sitting there for a good 20 - 30 seconds not saying anything, not even looking at each other, but feeling the vibe. We play. We play who is more desperate? I can play this game. Sometimes I take ages to respond to her questions, and when I do respond it's with a smirk and it's half serious. She cracks up several times, and so do I. I become vulnerable and so does she. Damn fuck. At one point our hands touch, and I size her hand up against mine. We interlock. We talk closely into each other's ears, when we do talk that is. I keep asking her silly questions like what her favorite animal is. A monkey. Mine a snow leopard. Cute.

We keep vibing for the next half an hour or so. Not much happening, but everything happening. Blondie notices our chemistry from her chair. She's returned a while ago. As has Kay, who's now taking care of blondie. In the beginning my girl still wanted Kay, but he messed up somehow. I was a little afraid to go for his girl, since it's the approacher's choice. But he seemed cool with it. Now my girl was in love with me. We started talking about deeper things. What I do. I talk about directing, acting, wanting to do motivational speaking, etc. She wants to travel and work with kids. She needs to travel at least once a month. I love this girl. She asks my age and I say that if I tell her she won't like me as much anymore. I tell her to guess. She guesses 29. I shake my head with a smirk. She guesses 34 playfully. I say 22. She doesn't believe me. I say that she doesn't like me now. The opposite happened. Her attraction went up. She starts telling me how I don't act like a 22 year old, and that usually one can tell if someone is 22 by their behavior. Not with me. She's 28. I'm flabbergasted inside. She looks 21, truly.

I see some candles behind me and put one of them on a table. She says I have changed the SPAM. It's romantic. I put it back and grab another one. I say this candle has more character. I tell her to teach me the word romantic in Slovak, she says there are many variations, and that it depends on the noun that follows. I say romantic SPAM. She says Romantic in Slovak. I repeat it, adding a guess for the word SPAM. She's surprised. I am right. I, too, am surprised.

We keep talking. We move onto logistics. She lives close-by. 20 Minutes by bus. But we all want to bounce to another bar. I tell her about a bar I know and that they should come. She seems eager.

We stay in this location for a while longer. Her friend gets more and more drunk, and Kay seems a little bored. But I'm enjoying it all. In the end we decide to leave the bar and bounce.

Outside she and I walk as a pair, I tell her to hook her arm into mine. She does. At one point I grab her hand and just shove it into my jacket pocket, holding her hand in there. She's so interested and invested, it's nuts. We're a fucking couple, who haven't even kissed yet. Amazing.

We cross the road, wait for the other two, and keep walking. My bar is closed. She takes us to another. At this point our physicality subsides, as we look for bars that are open. Not a lot are. We take a good 20 minutes to find another bar, which isn't really our style, but has alcohol so we go in. It's overcrowded, but oh well. We order drinks, and she buys me a drink together with hers and her friend's. I told her I would get the next round.

Anyway we move to a spot where we can actually stand and she becomes distant. She begins to dance with her friend, who's even drunker now. Kay's just standing there. I'm thinking stay in set, stay in set. We don't talk much, it's as if we've run out and lost interest. Our vibe is very much friend-to-friend now. I go to the bathroom to give everyone a breather, taking my attention away from them. I return and don't really know how to restart. But I've done this before. It's time for the close. I go up to her and ask her what her schedule is like next week. She gives me a list of shit she's doing next week, as if telling me she is super busy. I say Wednesday evening let's go for a drink. She says she's working late, and offers no alternate date. I ask her if she has an English number, she says yes. I say we should exchange contact details. She agrees and I get out my phone. She punches in her number and I call it. She opens up the number on her phone and types in my name. She asks if I have a nickname. I say Snow Leopard. Cute. I punch in stupid shit into the contact details, and now she wants to be called Monkey in my phone. I agree and get it out, she punches in some stupid Monkey shit and some Uuuuaaaa shit. Funny. After this we keep chatting. We laugh at times, but our physicality has subsided. Her friend is quite wasted, rubbing herself on Kay at times. Kay seems to be enjoying pushing her buttons, which I find funny.

My girl goes to the toilet. The bar is almost closing. We want another drink. When she comes back I say we are gonna leave as well, but she doesn't want to yet. She wants another drink. She and I go to the bar, but the bar rings and it closes. Disappointed we return to her friend, who's now chatting up some other dude in a funny red costume. We wait for her friend by the door, then we all leave, Kay included. We walk to her bus, Kay and I in front, them behind. We reach their bus after a little while. We say goodbye and that it was nice to meet them, hugging and cheek kissing and shit. OK cool. They get in the bus, and we walk back. I'm disappointed in myself. I could've made the move for the kiss at some point there. I was just too afraid to lose her. I allowed myself to fall in love immediately. Damn it was so fucking nice. Maybe this was all I needed for the night. Just an amazing flirt. Anyway, I know I could've escalated it further, especially when we were walking hand in hand, when she was eating straight out of my palm. Sllovakian girls are so fucking beautiful, it's insane.

We hang around the bar a bit longer. Kay talks to a girl he talked to inside the bar. He chats her up. I enter the conversation after they stare at me staring into the distance, thinking about Slovakian girl. Turns out the chick is Spanish, and we speak Spanish with each other. I tell her I lived in Spain. She teases me, I tease her. Chicks are just attracted to me now. It's hard to explain. I'm not even doing anything. I'm quite boring in my vibe actually, or just extremely chilled. I'm tired. I tell Kay that I'm going to go home. Apparently he got cock-blocked by some friend of the Spanish girl's, and he's a little thrown off. He asks for the number very incongruently. She doesn't live in London, but comes down often. He tries to convince her of meeting up, telling her she comes down often anyway, it's only 30 minutes away by train. She ends up giving him a card. Damn.

We end up walking back to the center of Camden Town, where we talk for a little, and then part ways. I walk to my bus and that's the end of my night apart from a few more people drunkenly coming up to me and asking me dumb questions.


Notes: I should've made the move at one point. It's so important to do game for game, not for the girl. I should've stopped her in her tracks, looked her deep in the eyes, and just kissed her. No bullshit. If she would've turned away, who cares. Move on. But I felt scarcity. And I felt importance with this girl. I wanted to go home with her and just chill with her, maybe have sexy time with her. But at the same time I didn't. I just wanted to chill here right now. Anyway, I was extremely chilled, at one point it felt like I was in a constant trance, not putting in too much effort, and her neither, but the spark was still there. Then it went away. But she bought me a drink...and stuck around...Anyway, I will most likely never hear from her ever again. I am calling either tomorrow late afternoon/evening, or in two days. Fuck knows. I need to go out more. Bavarian girl wasn't even once on my mind when I was with Slovakian girl. In fact Slovakian girl beat Bavarian girl on so many levels. Bavarian girl is pretty and hot, but Slovakian girl is just a beautiful girl. Amazing face, body, etc. Amazing vibe. Anyway, need to game more now. Fuck it. Game to game again. Do crazy shit again. Stop giving a fuck again.

My mind is so much clearer now after this, especially concerning Bavarian girl. Game really puts everything back into perspective. I feel so much better, my mind is relieved. I love game.

Author:  Tr@veler [ Mon Dec 15, 2014 10:57 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

A few things happened yesterday. As I said, I will be posting about everything now.

I had a SPAM chat with Bavarian girl. Over the past few days she went to see porn in the cinema with a friend of hers. Her friend brought a bunch of other friend (whom she has probably fucked most of) and apparently a really hot girl came with them.

Over SPAM Bavarian girl said that she found her really hot, and asked me if that made me feel uncomfortable. I said no, I find that quite hot actually (which I do, but still takes getting used to), and then I thought this is the time to move the conversation into new territory. I told her how I want new experiences. The other day I told her I had a dream about her that we were in a threesome together and I that I thought that I found that really hot and it turned me on. I didn't really have the dream, but it was to move the vibe into that direction. Anyway, I told her yesterday that I sometimes lie in bed thinking about how amazing it would be to have new experiences with other people with her, and she said we can do that. I said both guys and girls, because it turns me on to think about her having sex with someone else. She said that's nice and that she likes it. I asked her if she really means it and she said yes. I told her I never found someone that I can be so free with. One part of me loves her and wants her, and then another part of me craves and desires new experiences, but I want them with her. She said she likes the idea, and after some more talking about how she told me so much about her past experiences and that she regrets telling me some of them, and that these new experiences with her would appeal to me SO much, she asked if we should have a new arrangement. I told her to propose something, but she said I am the one to propose, and I proposed whether we should have an open relationship with each other. She said ok lets. She asked whether we have sex with other people outside of our relationship or only together, I said let's start with doing it together and take it easy and see how we feel. She said ok lets.

And then we continued to talk about the subject. She voiced that she might feel like I find someone hotter than her, that I find someone else in the process, and I told her no one turns me on as much as her, that her sex appeal runs deep within me, she turns me on on so many levels.

So now I am in an open relationship with her. It took a while to get to this place, but this is the way forward. I am back into Pickup and also have a girlfriend whom I can go out with and pickup people with. I need to get my social skills back up to what they were.

I went out last night with a few of my friends. We went to a place called Bar One in Central London. I had a couple of drinks and appraoched a girl sat down on a stool. I told her I find her cute, and had a small stupid chat with her. Her friend returned and then she said it was nice to meet me. I told her we should go for a coffee, she declined, then I said OK lets go for a cigar. She laughed and then I pushed the cigar offer, but she declined. I said OK nice to meet you and high fived her.

I went back to my friends and just started to party. There was a large group next to us, and a blonde girl who was definitely the hottest girl in the bar, and even though the bar wasn't exactly blooming with the hottest girls, this one was quite alright, a 7-8.

My friend encouraged me to approach. Everyone knows I do pickup. I go up to her and tell her I find her cute and that I had to come and say hi. Her friends stare, but then just leave blondie to chat with me. She's french, so I say something in french, and then we keep talking about stupid shit. I realized I am more self-conscious than I used to be, but I am still able to hold a conversation confidently, and make chicks laugh. I do an R2D2 impression as my friends and I were talking about star wars. I can hear my friends cracking up behind me. Anyway, I tell her I have to leave and say we should go for a coffee, she hesitates, then says she's working. Blabla same ordeal as slovakian girl yesterday, I say give me your number and I'll text you and you can say whatever you want over text. She gets out her phone. She can't remember her own number. I punch mine into hers, then click dial even though she said she doesn't have credit. It rings on my phone. I catch her name for the first time as she punches it into my phone, and I ask her if she remembers mine. I tell her my name, high five her and say goodbye. I leave the bar with one of my friends and we wait outside for our other two friends. That's the end of the night and we decide to go home.

Notes: Firstly, say and do whatever the fuck you want with the girl you love. Who cares whether she'll like it or not. If you want something in the relationship just say it. My chick is cool with all this stuff apparently, so now it's time to put it to the test. Maybe I am not cool with it, who knows. I will push myself and her to go through with it.

Secondly, the art of rambling is the art of saying whatever comes to mind. It is the greatest asset in pickup. The first 1-5 minutes should be all about rambling, and then the vibing phase begins. Once the vibing phase begins then the close is near.

I noticed yesterday that I got that spark back, I was energetic and playful, and at times really not giving a shit what the girl thinks of me. It took me a while to get there, but I got that energy back. I need to slip out of my depression now and get back into being fun and playful and goofy, and then having sex with these girls! :twisted: Muah

Author:  Tr@veler [ Tue Dec 16, 2014 12:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

Back to basics, because basics are important.

I said in one of my previous field reports that I don't really feel like I have to do anything to make something happen between a girl and me. That is partly true, but it is part of a bigger truth.

Let's get back to the basics of men and women attraction just for a second, just so we're all on the same page and that any field report from now on is read under this framework.

The I am Enough truth set forth by RSD Alexander is the most important truth of all. It states that you yourself are enough as you are, are ATTRACTIVE as you are without having to actually do anything. This truth has been confirmed for me so many times. I have had several chicks and it isn't really anything I said or did that got them attracted, it was just my vibe, my essence, my masculinity. It was there in the background all along without me having to do anything. When a woman meets a man she will without a doubt want to have sex with him, it's just that there are other factors hindering her if she isn't. When Bavarian girl and I met we both had attraction (like any person would), and we chose to act upon it. The other day when I met the slovakian girl I didn't really DO anything, I just had a normal conversation with her, a playful one, but a normal one. It wasn't anything special. But she was so into me, why? Because any girl would be. And that is a truth.

The structure for the game goes like this:

Open
Vibe
Close

It's literally that simple. You go up to a girl, you talk and do stupid things together, whatever you feel, and then you close. Depending on the type of close it can happen sooner or later, but that is the structure nonetheless. I am Enough is the main belief behind all of this. You are truly not building attraction, you are building something else. Comfort.

She is already attracted to you, but she's got limitations, hindrances, friend who might judge her (but most won't if she's out with her girlfriends), her own inner beliefs, her own judgments, etc. You need to show her you are a cool dude who is not only trying to get into her pants. You must build comfort with her. And how do you build that comfort with her? You spend time with her. You have to without a doubt spend time with her. Some girls require more time being spent with them, some require less time being spent with them. But be prepared to spend at least 2 hours before you lay her.

If a girl rejects you, it's not because she doesn't like you. It's because she's afraid, she's confused, she has shit going on in her head. Basically she is not COMFORTABLE enough with you yet to have a normal conversation with you. Alex from RSD has a great fix for this issue, and it's that you just reapproach. Your only goal is to spend time with her. That's it. You want to spend as much time as possible with her, so that she can sense your awesomeness, she can sense your masculinity, your essence, and let the sexuality build from there. You have to believe this because it is true. This is no more than apes mating.

So your main goal is to spend time with her, and how do you do that?

You talk. You talk and talk and talk and talk. It is the easiest way to spend time with her. What you talk about is completely irrelevant, because that is not what builds comfort. What does build comfort is you being in her presence, her feeling you, her seeing you, her touching you. Now all you have to do is waste time with her. You have to waste time to build that comfort by talking shit. Talking bullshit. This is all non-serious stuff. You must spend as much time with her so that she feels comfortable enough with you to sleep with you. And comfort has nothing to do with your attractiveness. You are already attractive. You are a man with a penis. You have probably had several girls already. You know you are enough. You don't have to do anything special. Just fucking spend time with her.

The first 1-5 minutes are the most crucial to build comfort with her. She does not know you at all when you walk up to her, therefore what should she expect? She's got loads of guys coming up to her douching around, choding around, getting nowhere. They all expect her to respond because they don't know this one truth. She is not comfortable enough yet to talk to them, to open up to them. but you, you know that she isn't comfortable, therefore don't expect ANYTHING from her in the first 5 minutes. This is where YOU ramble, and you ramble in order to make her feel comfortable. Remember that is your only goal, to stay there, talking, distracting her logical mind in order to let her feel your essence. Once she feels your essence she allows herself to feel the attraction she already has for you. She begins to open up sexually. This is when you reach the HOOK point, or rather the SEXUAL HOOK POINT. At this point the girl allows herself to feel sexual attraction towards you, which she had all along. EVERY girl has to go through this process, whether it is fast or slow. She MUST allow herself to feel comfortable doing it. Rarely the girl is already completely comfortable before you walk up and will start making out with you from the get go. But the other 100% of the time she will not be comfortable doing it. Therefore YOU must comfort her by spending silly time with her. Goofing around is the best way to do this. Talking stupid shit is the best way to do this.

Remember, this comfort building is BUILDING up to a later closeness. Throughout the interaction you and her will get closer and closer. The Sexual Hook Point is a MOMENT. It isn't a big thing, it's just the moment when the girl allows herself to feel that sexuality that she already had for you with you. She opens up, invests more, touches back, allows herself to compliment you openly. She allows herself to feel you. This can happen anywhere, around her friends, or alone. It doesn't matter. It happens within the first three to five minutes. After this point you are now VIBING.

Vibing is the part of the interaction where you two invest the same amount, play around, and get to know each other. This part is where you spend a LOT of time with her fooling around. You know she is allowing herself to be into you, and you are allowing yourself to be into her.

This part of the interaction also has a purpose. On the surface level you are keeping her mind distracted to continue to get more and more comfortable with you, but you are also finding out crucial information about her, and also testing for compliance.

The crucial information you find out about her in the vibing phase is mainly LOGISTICS. Where does she live? Whom is she here with? What are her plans for later in the night? In my other field report with slovakian girl you will have noticed that I did ask these questions, and that the girl had no real plans for later. Where I messed up was that I didn't take initiative. I didn't think ahead, I didn't think this is the point where I begin to direct the interaction to a place of isolation. This is the point where you decide where the interaction will go. And sex is always the ultimate goal, so you have to push it in the most efficient direction possible.

As said, in the vibing phase you also push compliance. Try and get her to move from one place to another, and then ultimately try to get her OUT OF THE FRONT DOOR. Again, the FRONT DOOR RULE by Alex is the most important rule. If you can take the girls out of the bar, you've already achieved most of the pickup. Again, in my previous field report with Slovakian girl, we took the girls OUT of the bar, and where we messed up is we didn't push to a place of isolation. We pushed to another bar. This was our biggest mistake. Everything was going smoothly, all we had to do was PULL.

Once you guys are out of the front door, it is time to close. Of course, if the girl wishes to stay in the bar for a while and you notice it is early in the night then just get the number and reapproach later. This is also a CLOSE. And a makeout is NOT a close. It is part of the vibing phase. A lot of guys call a makeout a close because they think it is an achievement. It is NOT. It is a step in the COMFORT ladder. The girl is now comfortable enough with you to kiss you. Remember she is already attracted to you and is now allowing herself to kiss you, however fast or slow the kiss may come. She is COMFORTABLE with you to kiss you. It also indicates her compliance level.

Once out of the bar you PULL to a place of isolation where you two can spend MORE time together in order to get comfortable SEXUALLY with one another. This entire game is built on comfort. You are already enough, and all you have to do is make the girl comfortable by taking the pressure off of her in the beginning, and then distracting her logical mind by talking shit and doing silly things and vibing with her. Then you push her compliance and find out what her logistics are. Then you get her the FUCK out of the bar in order to PULL. Once you pull, you spend more time with her to get the two of you sexually comfortable with one another. And then you have sex.

Should you at ANY point find token resistance, all you need to do is take a step back and spend more time with her, build more COMFORT with her. Allow her to feel your essence more. And then you go again. This is why when she turns her head away from you when you go for the kiss, all you need to do is SPEND MORE TIME WITH HER until she is comfortable enough to kiss you.

The comforting part of the interaction involves anything, from talking to her friends, to talking to her alone. Mainly you want to talk to her alone, in order to build comfort directly. I basically "stole" slovakian girl from my wing because I simply spent more time with her, had better eye contact, had better body language, and was just much more chilled than he was. He was too pushy and too needy, I was chilled and built comfort with her all along.

Building comfort is the MAIN part of everything in the game. The sex, the tension, all that is a by product that happens naturally. The girls like you sexually, they just need to be comfortable with you, and the way you do that is by spending time with them.


Where am I now? I am able to open, sexually hook, and vibe naturally. I've got it down. I know that I am enough. I had lost motivation because I didn't really know what to do now. But now I know. I need to work on my PULLING. I need to work on getting her out of the bar (which I did the last time) and then pull to a place of isolation to build even more comfort with her.

Pulling is an art form, requiring you to change minds constantly and consciously, in order to get closer and closer to your place or her place. You just lead the interaction. I might ask Bavarian girl how exactly she always pulled. I know with me she just said "Let's take a walk" and we walked to her place. I need to perfect the art of pulling because I am good at everything else. Once I have that down I will be the master of the game.

Author:  Tr@veler [ Wed Dec 17, 2014 6:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

Thoughts on Subtext.

In pickup, but also in ANY aspect of life, it is important to look at the SUBTEXT of an interaction. In fact, the subtext of an interaction is the ONLY relevant mode of communication.

What is subtext? Subtext is the underlying, hidden meaning behind the superficial words. Subtext in pickup is usually referred to as subliminal communication.

On the surface layer a girl may be saying "Go away" but at the same time giving you a smile and staying next to you. In this scenario, if you only read her words, her words are telling you to fuck off, but if you focus solely on her smile, you will see the TRUTH behind her words, she is telling you to stay and fight for her.

This is why Alex's theory that the biggest indicator of interest is that a girl STAYS is so true. As long as the girl hangs out with you, she is INTERESTED, otherwise she would leave herself. As long as she stays with you in your presence, she wants you to fuck her.

There we go. Now all you have to do is look at the words behind the words. The truth behind the facade. This goes for EVERY interaction. This is also why "banter" is so common. It is a playful way of saying something outrageous but not really meaning it.

You are able to say ANYTHING to a girl, as long as you don't really mean it.

Author:  Tr@veler [ Wed Dec 17, 2014 8:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

The basis of pickup.

The basis of pickup is repetition, knowing what to repeat, and having fun doing so. Repetition builds confidence, since repetition builds competence. Once competent, a pickup artist or player can trust in his abilities and let loose. However, letting loose is precisely part of the repetition process. A pickup artist or player must learn to let loose over and over, and at the same time repeat the outer structure of the game. How, then, can one let loose without having the experience needed to let loose?

One can let loose by trusting in the fact that getting good at pickup is done through repetition, and that if done enough, competence will be built over time. Why bother putting serious strains on oneself in the process of the pickup in order to "get good fast" when progress is not fastened by how hard you try that very night, but by simply repeating the process and reflection after every night, looking at successes and mistakes?

Progress happens at home, just like muscles are rebuilt at home and not in the gym. In the gym they are broken down. You will be broken down in the club. You will be rebuilt, or rather, your mind, your competence will be rebuilt at home, upon reflection. Go out and mess up. Go home and reflect. Going out and messing up allows you to let loose, the homework is done precisely there, at home.

The fastest way to get good, then, is to go out, having a routine of things to do, or a structure to follow, then going home and reflecting upon that structure.

In the meantime, fear is a factor. Fear happens because the pickup artist or player is afraid of judgment by others. This, too, must be overcome. It is overcome by the same tactic: repetition. At first fear is a hindrance, however later on fear becomes an aid, since fear at first stifles the artist or player, and later on motivates him.

Core confidence is built through repetition and reflection. You must be able to go out with a structure, have fun doing so and messing up, then going home and reflecting upon the night, then go out again the following night, trusting that your mind is slowly but surely changing itself according to your homework. This all happens automatically. You, however, have to take action.

Author:  Greggomatik [ Fri Dec 19, 2014 5:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

So I've been binge reading your journal on and off for a week and am kinda dissapointed I've reached the end, nonetheless some good stuff.

I really hope more guys take the time to read through your development ad they'll realize having game is not about being "gamey", its litreally all about being relaxed and spouting shit you find funny and entertaining. You don't need games, routines, weird openers, palm reading etc etc. All you gave to do is have a fun conversation with a chick AS A HUMAN. From there it's all about filtering. The particular girls you vibe with the best will gravitate toward you, the ones that don't will fade. But never underestimate the innate ability of a girl to snoff out fakeness and bullshit. I think most of the community is guilty at times of waaaay overthinking things and thus making it much harder than it needs to be. Hats off for detailing that thinking for all of us.

Side note: I know you're working on a PUA/self help type of book however you should really consider writing an actual novel. Think of a cross between "The Game" and "I hope they serve beer I hell". You're a fantastic writer; funny and articulate and hugely entertaining.

Keep us posted brother!

Author:  Tr@veler [ Mon Dec 22, 2014 1:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

Quote:
So I've been binge reading your journal on and off for a week and am kinda dissapointed I've reached the end, nonetheless some good stuff.

I really hope more guys take the time to read through your development ad they'll realize having game is not about being "gamey", its litreally all about being relaxed and spouting shit you find funny and entertaining. You don't need games, routines, weird openers, palm reading etc etc. All you gave to do is have a fun conversation with a chick AS A HUMAN. From there it's all about filtering. The particular girls you vibe with the best will gravitate toward you, the ones that don't will fade. But never underestimate the innate ability of a girl to snoff out fakeness and bullshit. I think most of the community is guilty at times of waaaay overthinking things and thus making it much harder than it needs to be. Hats off for detailing that thinking for all of us.

Side note: I know you're working on a PUA/self help type of book however you should really consider writing an actual novel. Think of a cross between "The Game" and "I hope they serve beer I hell". You're a fantastic writer; funny and articulate and hugely entertaining.

Keep us posted brother!
Thanks for the kind words man. I'll be sure to keep readers up to date. I can feel adventures beginning again.

I'm back in Vienna and stayed at the gfs place last night and will again tonight. I bought her a silk scarf and vibrator for Christmas, which I'll be giving her tonight. Should be fun times.

I'm also urging to go out again and work on my pickup skills again.

Author:  Tr@veler [ Fri Dec 26, 2014 5:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

Just did a little bit of daygame after I met a former PUA friend of mine.

Approach 1 was a 2 set in which I opened with "Hey do you guys know where a good place to go out tonight is?" One of them was receptive. I stuck on the topic of clubbing a little too long, but it was my first open to unstifle. We had a nice chit chat and then I gave her a goodbye calling her awesome and then took off.

Approach 2 was a hot half South Korean half Austrian girl. She was "powerwalking" and had her earphones in. Fuck it. I approached direct, then backed off as she was caught in the moment. We chit chatted. She guessed my age, I told her I'm 22. She's 23. Blablabla, she stayed in set even though she was beginning to give me a little shit. She told me she only dates guys 30+ and that I should feel the pressure. I responded with why should I feel the pressure and that I have qualities in progress. Guess I fucking qualified myself but it's what came up in the moment and in the flow. Anyway she made a remark about whiskey and I told her I find it nice that she associates me with drinking whiskey. I asked her if she does. She says yes. I asked her if she smokes cigars. She says yes. Well actually cigarettes. But cigars sometimes. I told her I love her a little bit more now. The word love is way too strong, I guess I've been using it too much with Bavarian girl. Like is the word. Like.

Anyway I tell her we should go smoke a cigar sometimes. She's in a slight hurry and we begin to walk slowly. She asks whether I'm a rapist. I try and think of something funny to say, but end up saying that any remark I would've made now would come across as creepy. I told her my rape track record was clean, and she asked about my murder track record. I can't remember what I said. I knew better than to fuck it up and stayed on the safer side though. I told her to give me her number. She says she doesn't like giving out her number because she likes to have control. I push for her to give it to me, for us to do a 50/50, for me to text her and then she can choose to text me back. Anyway, I end up getting the number, telling her I'll call her. As she punches in the number I talk about cigars and shit, fuck it. She doesn't really listen and only responds half heartedly as she puts it in. I save it and then we say goodbye and part ways.

Approach 3 was a little blonde girl. I approach directly, telling her she's cute. She told me this is the second time this has happened to her in the past half an hour. I play it off calmly, saying there may be a flashmob going on or something, but I genuinely find her cute. We talk a lot, and I begin to win her comfort slowly, talking slower as her vibe is slower. I realize she's chilled and I chill a little. I begin to truly not give a fuck anymore and just talk shit. Cinema, hobbit, interstellar, etc. I tell her I don't want to creep her out or anything. I tell her I'm half Austrian and we can speak german but change it back to english, then speak some Denglish (German and English) which I find hilarious. Anyway, we keep talking, and I tell her we should go for a coffee sometime. She says she's actually into girls. I say I am as well and high five her. I then ask her if she wants to be my wing woman. She laughs. We keep talking. Bring the conversation back to whether she wants to be my wingwoman, I'm half serious. She declines. Anyway I realize this is giong nowhere, but I tell her I find her really cool. She tells me she finds me really cool. I tell her to hug me and we hug and I wish her great enjoyment in the cinema since she's heading there.

Those were my three sets for the day.

Lessons: Momentum builds after the first set. I felt that free flow again. Bam I've still got it. Approach to approach. The first approach is always the hardest. The following approaches, after some momentum, are easier.

Author:  oceanx [ Sat Dec 27, 2014 10:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

Quote:
Lessons: Momentum builds after the first set. I felt that free flow again. Bam I've still got it. Approach to approach. The first approach is always the hardest. The following approaches, after some momentum, are easier.
So true, spoken like only a guy who is actually in the game can. THIS is the key to successful "pua." That first or second approach of the day/night can be tough as hell. The great thing is, it's all so much easier after that point.

Author:  Tr@veler [ Sun Dec 28, 2014 6:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

Went out yesterday and did another 3 approaches during the day.

I remember it took me quite a while (around 10-15 minutes or so) to actually approach. I was walking up a busy Viennese street, and tried to find single sets. It was fucking cold. I kept missing some opportunities. Whatever.

Approach #1 I then saw a cute girl walk by and turned around and tapped her on the shoulder. I told her I asked if she spoke English, she said yes, and I told her I thought she was cute and I had to come and say hi. I was still unstifling at that point. I chit chatted with her for a little bit. I then asked if she was Austrian, she said yes, and I started to speak German, saying I am Austrian as well. Relief came over her as she didn't ahve to speak English anymore. Anyway, I just chatted with her, unstifling myself, and I noticed she was in a rush, so I told her I would let her go. She was giving me VERY little eye contact, and seemed quite fucking nervous. I shook her hand and walked away, knowing I just made a girl's day probably, even if she didn't realize it then.

Approach #2 I was in a flow again, however it took me another while to actually approach. None of the sets were "appropriate" enough, and I began to lose my momentum a bit. I turned around on the street to walk it back down since I was coming up to the end. At this point I was worried about my momentum, and was worried about my game being "bad". However, it was then that I thought to myself, you know what? Fuck it. Let's make this approach really bad. Let's make it fucking horrible. Let's make it really really bad. Who cares. Let's be the worst pua in Vienna, in the world, today, now. A hottie approached. Fucking blonde 9. Damn. Turned around, thought fuck it let's make it bad, and approached. I asked if she spoke English. Yes. I told her she was cute. She was receptive. I then had an awesome conversation with her. It went smoothly. I was calibrated. I noticed she was going somewhere, so I told her I'll walk with her for a little bit. My nervousness was gone for the most part. It was excitement now. Chit chat more bullshit, blablabla. We stopped in front of a shop. I remembered about subcommunications. I amped up the eye contact and looked deeper into her soul, if only for a few seconds at a time. I then asked if this was where she was meeting her friend. Yes. I said ok cool. She said it was nice to meet me. I told her we should go for a coffee. She hesitated, but then said ok why not. I pulled out my phone for her to punch in her number. She said I could give her mine. I fought for her number, saying I'll text her and she can decide to text me back or not. She fought for mine, but eventually she gave in. This whole thing about texting them and then giving them the freedom to text back seems to work quite well so far. She punched in her number...in the Name slot. I teased her on it, she laughed. I copy pasted her number into the number slot, then gave her the phone to punch in her name. She did. We said our goodbyes. Boom done.

Approach #3 Really to just get the approach in now. I kept walking, feeling pretty good. I saw a girl walk past and I thought hmmm, looks like a difficult set for some reason. She was walking fast paced, and had a face that expressed "Get the fuck away." I thought, nice, let's go. I turned around and ran up, thinking fuck it, and approached. She didn't even stop, maybe because my approach was half assed. Anyway it was a short set. I told her she was cute and I had to say hi. She said cool. I asked where she's going. She said work. I asked her where she works. She said some wine company name. I said cool, so you taste wine? She said no, she just works there. She wasn't having the amusement, I was. I told her ok nice to meet you, and she said bye. I told her I loved her and walked away. End of set.


OK so what can we learn from this now? We can learn that momentum isn't really that big of a deal. REALLY. The first approach is important, sure. But after that, you don't have to approach in a certain time-frame in order to be "good" or whatever. Here's the real nutcracker.

SOCIAL AWARENESS. Being socially aware of yourself is good, but also bad. I was socially aware that I was probably gonna look creepy approaching girls and shit, and thought my game would be bad because of the lack of momentum. Wrong. If you are TOO socially aware that's OK. You can turn it around. If you feel like you are going to be the creep on the street, you are aware of that, good. Say fuck it, I'm going to be the fucking creep on the street now. I'm going to be really bad at game now. You have a goal of approaching girls, of pushing the set. You have to acknowledge and accept the fact that you are doing something out of the ordinary, and you have to embody it fully. If you feel like people will watch you, then say, fuck it, let's give these fucker a creepy performance. If your fear is you will go to jail of "harrassment" (which you will not! It's a stupid fear), then say fuck it, let's go to jail. I have a goal, this is what I'm willing to do for it. The words fuck it are amazing. Use them. Fuck these approaches. Just get to your goal. My goal was to do 3-5 approaches. I did 3. Good. I achieved my goal. I got one number on the side. It was a bonus. In order to achieve my goal I had to say fuck it and accept every possible perception of me that I feared.

Author:  Tr@veler [ Fri Jan 02, 2015 11:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

Graphic content below. If you don't want to hear about 17 inch dildos, me being fingered, how to take porn pics with your girlfriend, or cumming in a bus, gtfo now.

Had a sick time in Prague with Bavarian girl. Spent the last 4 days alone with her at my dad's apartment, ready to slip into 2015.


30th December 2014
The 30th saw us arrive at the crib, her getting off on me on a chair, and then head out for dinner, and later on in the night head to a club with a massive queue, only to decide to go to another one instead. I got a little drunk and it turned out the club didn't play our type of music so we went home with a really cheap ride, 250 koruna from the club to our place. For those who can't calculate that, that's around 8 euros from the club to the crib. For those who still can't convert, that's around $9.60.


31st December 2014
The 31st saw us go into the city during the day to go to a sex shop and buy ourselves a 17 inch dildo, and then go to the Palladium, a known mall in the city centre for some window and specialty soap shopping. The evening had us take a bath together, sip on champagne and me almost fisting her, making her cum. The night had our perverted selves stay in the house to take some dirty pictures of ourselves. We had taken a DSLR with us from Vienna in order for us to take nude pictures, and we took turns in directing each other to pose. She had brought all her gear; sexy outfits, stockings, lingerie, the handcuffs that I had bought for her, and she put on some makeup. We decided to use the table as our setpiece, and I had her sit on it and sip on champagne whilst I took pictures of her in her lingerie. Then I let her take pictures of me, and I posed nude for her. We began to get dirtier and dirtier, and finally we were both nude taking pictures of me on top of her and her on top of me on the table.

Midnight hit and we hit the rooftop in celebration, sipping on champagne. Going back inside we decided to continue our photo session. She stripped for me to some music and I picked her up and sat her on the table and took off the last of her clothes. I had her lie on her back and have her legs and pussy face the light and began taking pictures of her pussy, only to have her turn around and be on all fours on the table as lick her from behind making her cum, and finally turn her around and onto her back again and fuck her whilst taking pictures of it all. It ended up with her cumming 4 times altogether and me once, moving from the table to the bed where she rode the shit out of me and I fucked her from beneath. What a great first fuck of 2015.


1st January 2015
The 1st had us stay in during the day and chill. After breakfast at around 1PM we decided to continue our photo session only this time with my macro lens. She wanted to take pictures of her tongue on my dick, so I let her. I had the camera and she began to lick and blow me. This again turned into her giving me a blowjob and masturbating and me taking close-up pictures of her mouth and eyes and my own dick. I took several pictures of her cumming which is truly an a prize worth keeping, since her cum-face makes me hard like hell. I ended up blowing my load inside of her mouth whilst taking pictures yet again. She played around with my cum in her mouth as I took pictures of her. Some of them are in focus and are the hottest shit you might ever see. Later on we decided to use the Sauna that my dad's flat has. It's a home infrared sauna. At first we didn't know if it would work, but it slowly began to heat up.

We sat inside and let the heat do its job. I began to touch her pussy and decided to go down on her in the sauna. I fingered her ass and pussy and made her cum, then went out and rejoined her with the 17 inch dildo and began to fuck her with it as she lay down on the bench. I gave her a lick and dildo fuck for a good 15 minutes or so, making her cum 3 more times. My dad's flat is shared with another family, and at times we could hear people just outside our door as she was being licked and dildoed by me in the sauna. After she had her intense pleasure and me dripping on her with my sweat, she returned the favor and blew me again and stuck her fingers in my ass. Fucking nice. I came in her mouth and she swallowed (she's a swallower and she loves it). That concluded our sauna session.

After that we both took a shower, and then later on in the night went out, having down a can of beer and some wine together. We went to an italian restaurant in the city centre where we had the most of another bottle of wine together, and after went to the same club we went to on the 30th.

There we actively talked about approaching other people, and how we would pick them up. We are getting a lot more comfortable with each other about talking about threesomes, about picking up other people, and about who we find physically attractive. We joke about threesomes all the time now, and sometime talk about it seriously, how we would do it, etc. In the club we decided on some rules, only going in for conversation first, no making out, at the most getting a number for practice. We both got tipsy, in fact I got drunk that night, and we didn't approach anyone seriously. I approached a dude for a cig. Then I told her to approach a guy for a cig as well as I wanted another. She got approach anxiety, saying she couldn't do it anymore, she wouldn't be able to go up a guy and pick him up even though she did it countless times before. I encouraged her to go, as I was really interested in her game. In the end she took a swig of my beer and approached a rather handsome looking fellow, who seemed surprised at her approach, and of course gave her the cig with pleasure. She returned and gave it to me. We ended up just having a fucking awesome time in the club together, chilling, drinking, talking, vibing, laughing, and making out a shitload. I was so happy that we were comfortable talking about approaching other people. She asked me whom I would approach, and I pointed to a girl by the bar next to us all alone as her friend was occupied with a guy. I told her I knew what my opening line would be; "Hey, you looked bored so I came to say hi." She found that cute.

We made another, rule, if we go out again and decide to approach people she would go into a set first, as she wouldn't want to be approached by some random dude whom she didn't like. She likes to have choice and so I will give her that in the future, finding her set first, and then going about my business to find mine. What exactly happens from there is still unsure, however at the moment, as said, we said no making out, only flirtatious conversation and a phone number. Ideally we would have a one night stand with the person, so a phone number is quite useless, but serves as practice.

Anyway, at one point we get tired and call the cheap ass taxi again and head home, this time only having to pay 4 euros, but ended up giving around 7-8 euros out of generosity and feeling guilty about the cheap ride. The driver was a young kid, 17-18 years old.


2nd January 2015
Today saw us pack and then head to the bus in a rush to go back to Vienna. The entire bus was full. At one point the lights in the bus were turned off as it was a night ride and I began to finger her on the outside of her tights underneath her skirt. With her legs over mine and her scarf covering my hand she opened up, but told me to wait as we figure out how to make her cum more easily, as her tights were quite thick. We continue to chit chat about shit, and at one point I slip my hand back onto her pussy and pull her tight down and reach inside, my hand directly on the outside of her panties. I begin to rub her for a good 5-10 minutes and she ends up cumming silently, whilst people next to us play on their smarthphones and people behind us watch a movie on the screen. We laugh and she then returns the favor, rubbing me, however I tell her to wait, slip my hand underneath the scarf covering my crotch, and unbutton my pants. I tell her to slip her hand in, and she begins to rub me. I tell her to go into the pocket of my underpants, and at first try she fails to find it, but I guide her and she eventuall slips her hand onto my bare dick and begins rub me for around 5 minutes. The bus caretaker paces up and down servicing people as she gives me a handjob. I end up cumming in my pants and over her hand and just sit there with her laughing, her hands still in my pants. She slips it out and licks it off. I head to the bus toilet and clean up, but my jeans are fucking wet. Oh well. I sit back down and wait for it to dry over the course of the bus ride.

We end up cumming back to Vienna, and I take her home, have an uber salty Chinese takeaway dinner with her, and then take my stuff and go home.

What a way to begin 2015.

Stay up to date with my stories here. Happy New Year and have an awesome 2015 fellas.

Author:  Tr@veler [ Sat Jan 31, 2015 2:50 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

I went out with a buddy I met on thelss forum tonight. Its been my first night out gaming in a while. I guess the last time was around a week ago, however tonight was actual gaming again.

Last time I net a 33 year old Russian girl, hot for her age. Was supposed to have a date on Wednesday, she moved it to Thursday, turned out dick abd I wasn't up for it, so we postponed. I'm flying to Vienna for 8 days on Sunday so it'll be after that should I hit her up.

Onto tonight. We went to Camden the usual area. We went to a bar I've only been to a few times abd the crowd was too rowdy for me as im still recovering from an illness. Anyway.

Went in and I began approaching a little. Tapped a girl on the shoulder and asked when the club closed. She replied and turned to her friends. My buddy then approached a 2 set abd I left him with that. I walked around and approached a girl, saying hi and that I'm just getting into a social mood since it's the beginning of the night. She smiled abd I high fiber her and one of her friends. I went to get a water but the fucking queue was too long abd people were pushing in. I went back to my buddy who was now alone. We proceed to walk around the club.

We head to the dance floor and approach a 2 set lightly dancing. I say hi, I wanted to say hi and meet you. I stuck this one out longer and began to plough. The talkative mood wasn't coming easily, so I just kept at it. She was a dancer and her initial reaction was high energy, but that soon died. She soon looked at other guys in the dancefloor. My buddy seemed to be doing well Si I just stood there in silence annoying my chick. Then we switched targets and I began talking to his girl and he to mine. His chick was so much more open. Slightly drunk but still much cooler, though less hot.

I open her with the line that she wants to be a musical dancer, and she lights up. We begin to takin chitchat, what we do. Who we are. Then I turn it into where she would like to travel to. She invests a lot. Anyway the other girl is getting bored yet again. They end up leaving to the bar. We continue walking

We get some water. We approach a 2 set, and just say hi. Slightly taken aback they say hi as well. We talk for a bit abd I begin to self amuse. Start talking about pasta abd pesto abd shit since she works in a restaurant office. Their 2 other friends join and we all introduce. I tell them I will leave then alone and we leave. After that we approach a three set and begin conversation. My chick is tired as bell abd probably on her way to a cold, so she's stiff as fuck abd not talkative. Perfect. I can self amuse. Which I do. I begin to ask really repetetive questions, ask her if she ever was a kid, or if she just popped out of her moms vagina at 15 as an angry teenager rebeling. Anyway that set dies and we move on.

I open a girl with "Do you know when this bar closes?" On a threeset. She answefs openly. Her smile indicates interest. I begin to ramble about opening times in london vs opening times in Vienna. She's from Lebanon and I ask her what it's like over there. She says similar to Vienna. We begin rapport but her friends drag her away to dance. I ask her name and she gives it to me and I give her mine whilst we shake hands.

We move on. We approach a final 2 set and stick on it. One girl is really drunk whilst the other is more or less sober. They're sister's, the drunk one is skinny as fuck abd the other is fat. Hmmm. Anyway yheyre cool so we continue chatting. The skinny chick is weird as fuck, her body language is all messed up but in a funny way. She doesn't care. She ends up buying my buddy and me a tequila shit each. Ha. The fat girl and I do accents whilst theyre both gone getting shots. Anyway we end up leaving the club after these two and go to another bar, but end up going home after that.


Notes: once my energy is up again fully I willl treat this like a sport. Repetition makes perfect. Just have to repeat all the key movements. I noticed my endurance wasn't great today. Rejections didn't get to me that much. But it was difficult to approach. Also I should work on the art of rambling again. I need to reach that hook point because s lot of sets weren't hooking today.

Go for the number everytime next time.

Sorry for spelling mistakes. In dead tired and typing on the phone.

Author:  Tr@veler [ Sun Feb 01, 2015 11:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tr@veler's Lodge

Flew from London to Vienna today, with a stop in Zurich.

Saw a real hottie standing by herself, thought whether I should approach. After a while she walked off, and I followed her like a creep. She stood by the screens looking at her flight time, and I opened with "Hey do you know what time it is? I just got here from London and don't know if my phone is telling me the right time." Boom indirect. You know it. She told me the time, I said that's good because otherwise I would have missed my flight. Her gaze for me stays for a second, giving me the green light. I asked her where she's flying to. She said Madrid. I start talking about how I've been there and shit. Start talking about Spain and shit. I start talking in Spanish, ask her if she speaks it. She replies back in Spanish. Turns out she's well travelled and shit. I like that sort of shit. I ask her why she's going there now. She's going there to take a language course in order to better her Spanish as she studies communication. I ask her if she learnt it in school. She said yes and asks where I'm from. I tell her to guess as I always do. She guesses Spain, I say no but that I've lived there. I say I'm from Vienna, and ask her if she's been there. She says she has. I ask her whether she always wanted to study communications since she was a 6 year old kid. She says no, she wanted to be an actress, and that she got inspired by soap operas. I tell her I also used to watch soap operas with my mom, and she says that she too got into them with her mom. She aspired to be a soap opera actress. She said she always used to come running home to catch the latest episode. I say I used to do that with pokemon. She said she hates pokemon. I ask her if she's a digimon girl. She says no. I tell her I used to love pokemon. She asks if I ever played the card game, and I said no, but in Spain we had circular things called Tazos and we used to play to win. I ask her what she played in school, hoolahoops? She says no, and tells me about this rope thing. She shows me a picture of it and demonstrates live how it was played. I asked her if she was good and she says no she used to jump like an elephant. I ask her how an elephant jumps, and she says she always just used to stomp when she landed on the ground. I tease her and say that everyone knew when she played the game because they could all hear her and would go, "Oh there goes M again". She laughs.

She looks at the screen and I ask when her flight is. She says at 5, and I say mine is as well. I ask her if she wants to go grab a coffee, and she says yeah, why not. She knows her way around since she worked at the airport for the past two months and asks whether I want to sit down. I say yes, and she takes me to a cafe nearby. We grab some seats, and she asks if we should go to the bar, I say yes, and then ask a waitress, but the waitress tells us to order by the table. We sit back down and begin to VIBE.

We order a coffee for me and diet coke for her and then talk a lot about travel. I notice I am swaying in and out of comfort, and at some points she's giving straight up IOIs like touching her hair, however the biggest IOI is that she's there with me. She spends time on her phone answering messages. Just a passive test and I just go to my phone and wait til she's done. I feel fucking good just being there and am beginning to really enjoy myself. My body language is leaning forward, my eye contact strong and my vocal tonality breaking rapport most of the time. Generally though, I'm just having a normal conversation. I say it's nice that there's snow here in Zurich, and she says she saw snow just yesterday on the mountains and shows me a picture. I ask her if she skees, she snowboards. We talk about sports and swimming. I tell her I love swimming and that I learnt swimming for a girl when I was 7. I still used the inflatable wings, and one day a girl came over to my house to go swimming, and so I learned how to swim without wings in around 2 hours or so just for her. She says thats sweet. I say it was cute. We sit there for around 20 minutes chatting. I talk about Budapest and ruin bars and show her some pictures of it. She says she likes that sort of thing. At one point I ask her if she has facebook. She says yes. I tell her to give it to me. She does, but my airport 60 minute wifi has run out, so I just save her name in my notes.

She begins to look around and I ask her when her gate opens, I need to check when mine opens. She said she was thinking the same thing. We agree to get up and pay and leave. We ask the waitress where to pay and she says with her, and then I just buy her the diet coke because fuck it. But it was €11,30 combined. Fucking Zurich. Anyway. We go to the screens and we mistakenly see another earlier flight to Vienna. She mistakenly says I have to catch it now. I don't realize and say yes, and we cheek kiss goodbye, and she goes for a third, but I've already moved away. She says they do 3 in Switzerland. Anyway, I wish her a good flight and we say bye. End of pickup.


NOTES: Indirect still is a great way to open, just ramble after the opener and reach the sexual hook point. After that it becomes a lot easier. More importantly, that was awesome. Fucking hottie. At some points I really felt strong IOIs during the vibing phase, and wish I could've invited her out that night. Even though she seemed a strong independent businessgirl, inside they're all just girls. Strong eye contact is fucking important to break that formal to sexual barrier.

The art of rambling is just free association.

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