I'm thinking a lot to these issues lately, especially since I'm overcoming my AA but I need to project my confidence so to create attractiviness with chicks.
What's the highest degree of confidence? I think it equates to knowledge
. You know you're good, period. That's it. However, what if you're not so good in reality (and of course you are not if you're still learning and are asking questions here)?. It seems to me that many self-confidence programs teach people to suggestion themselves that they are good, but that sounds a bit close to self-deception and delusion. I explain: you can suggestion yourself that you are awesome with beeatches, I mean chicks
, by keeping on repeating it 1000 times a day or using other techniques. But, if you're not awesome (and you're not, because you're stil learning, right?), when you approach the beeatch and crash, you risk to destroy that inner reality that you have artificially created. Perhaps one solution to this dilemma is to become good at something that enhances your masculinity, for example doing a lot of sports, getting a lot of male friends that respect and like you etc. So your confidence can build on reality and not just on auto-suggestion. Comments?