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thats the whole idea of looking for multiple ioi's and not just a few. the more you have the more you know.
yes sometimes ioi's may not mean she wants to sleep with you
but thats what compliance tests are for . thats why there are compliance tests to make sure you can continue. they are not routines to continue conversation they are to help you non verbally be sure if the girl is interested without having to ask straight out
Well said. IOIs are a signal to you to begin screening her out by first testing to see if the indicators are real. Also understand that attraction is subconcious so they may be authentic IOIs but she is not yet consciously aware that she likes you. It took me a long time to realize this. We continue to talk about attraction as it is this voluntary fucking choice that women make. The signals need to be involuntary.
** Things to Remember About IOIs**
1) Real IOIs come in body language clusters. This means that if she is holding eye contact while brushing her hair and licking her lips all at the same time and not in long intervals then she is most likely attracted to you. Give her a compliance/congruence test to find out.
2) Fake IOIs will have an essence of incongruence to them. She is lying to you. Watch out to see if she is touching any hot spots or manipulators (indicators of deception). Find a body language of liars book for more info but touching nose, wrist, or ear and covering the mouth are all bad signs. She is lying.
3) Some women who are attracted to you don't give clear IOIs. Not everyone speaks fluent body language my friends. Some timid and shy girls won't give strong IOIs but will be attracted to you. Some IOIs are more subtle so if you aren't sure just test the IOIs with compliance tests.
4) Escalate to kino tests when testing compliance. A big mistake I used to make was compliance testing with kino when I though a girl was attracted to me. The thing is that she probably was. She was dancing with me and giving positive body language. This changed when I applied the kino test in which you lock palms. This telegraphs too much interest. I now start with more subtle tests like takeaways (done right can get her to chase... if she chases she is interested), proximity tests (she must work to close the gap between you and not too keep the distance), and small qualification hoops. Women who are not interested won't engage in conversation with you if they know you are interested as well. Women are clear in their intentions or lack there of. Men (including PUAs) need to start recognizing when she is giving a valid signals.
5) Attraction is not like being on or off. There are levels. Some women who are more attracted to you are very compliant and touchy feely with you because they have a high interest. Women with a medium interest (usually the ones on first dates and in pickups) will give less blatant signals but if you pay attention they are there. One major clue that men overlook that reveals a woman's interest level in him is her voice tonality. Women actually give IOIs in their voice you know. I can't get into detail over a post but maybe I'll do a video one day. Anyway, women with low interest are more indifferent. They may seem to give mixed signals. They may IOI at one point and IOD at another. Her language patterns will tell you how interested she really is (again for another day). This is all advanced stuff but the easier solution is by gauging her level of attraction through her compliance. Since compliance requires that the woman invests then you can use compliance to get a feel for where you stand with the girl. Because the nature of attraction is investment then you can ultimately get a feel for her interest by gauging her investment which is monitored through her compliance. Qualification will reveal this. Understand that this is not 100% accurate way to gauge her interest since, if done right, the very act of testing her and screening her can have a positive effect on her interest. It also never occurs to a man that proximity tests and what not are PUSHES. They create more intrigue while seeing how interested she is in the moment. Lastly, if the woman is not interested she is less likely to tell you. She will give fake IOIs to validate you but will fail compliance tests. She will say things such as "You're a really cool guy, but..." This is all bullshit girl talk for "You aren't that cool of a guy. Otherwise I'd be sleeping with you." The male ego won't allow a lot of guys to see a woman's true interest level. Kill your ego and start paying attention to things on a logical and an emotional level.