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Author:  Simon21 [ Sun Mar 05, 2017 9:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Questions from the beginner

Hello there everybody.

I'm 19 year old guy who tries to get good with woman. I've never had any sex in my life. I used to be interested in ways of the community since i was younger, but i never gotten into it seriously, however thanks to some lifestyle lessons i was able to develop certain amount of confidence and have decent circle of friends and acquittances. I've done some cold approaching throughout my life but i've never been consistent in doing that. I actually convinced myslef it will be better to stick to meeting woman through my social circle. I was able to actually get some hot girls from aroung me on dates and even home. But i never was able to f*ck any of them or have any relationship, at the moment i believe i suck at closing. Honestly i was to paralized with fear to make a move in key moments.
I recently was able to win a battle with severe depression and decided to get my dating life sorted. I live in a city of 44 thousand people next to a lot bigger city of 1.5 milion people. All right here are my questions:

I want to ask you guys if i should approach woman in my hometown, developing a habbit of approaching woman everywhere or should i go to bigger cities on weekend and practice then? Is 44 thousand people enough to not have fear of judgment hanging over my head?

And also how do i get better at closing? Will i get better as i will start to date more woman or are there any other tips that you can give me?

Thank you in advance i appreciate every single bit of help and feedback. I'm sorry if my english isn't perfect, it's not my first language though

Author:  Stoliar [ Mon Mar 06, 2017 12:17 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Questions from the beginner

Quote:
I want to ask you guys if i should approach woman in my hometown, developing a habbit of approaching woman everywhere or should i go to bigger cities on weekend and practice then? Is 44 thousand people enough to not have fear of judgment hanging over my head?

And also how do i get better at closing? Will i get better as i will start to date more woman or are there any other tips that you can give me?
Yes 44.000 is big enough. I've approached at a university with a population of less than half that number, never got a bad reputation out of it (if anything I was the social guy). Just don't approach creepily.

As for closing, check out DiCarlo's escalation ladder.

Author:  Simon21 [ Mon Mar 06, 2017 9:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Questions from the beginner

Thank You very much. Would You mind me asking what do You mean by "creepily"? I only want to do direct, will that country as being creepy?

Author:  iggz80 [ Tue Mar 07, 2017 11:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Questions from the beginner

Means don't get her scared in any way by your approach. Don't sneak to her (means: don't approach her that way she notices you only when you're there near her). Don't walk to her as if going to beat her etc. etc. You know what it means. Do not make her feel bad in any way by your approach.
It should be easy... :wink:

Author:  Archibald [ Fri Apr 07, 2017 4:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Questions from the beginner

I know it boosts my confidence knowing I'm in a place where nobody knows me so maybe it isn't such a bad idea to go to the big city

Author:  TheLoveDr [ Fri Jun 02, 2017 10:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Questions from the beginner

Hey man,

Good to hear that you're taking action against your depression and what not. I deal with that myself and it's a fucking bitch. Fortunately I was able to learn game and all this before my depression started. I can only imagine having to deal with being depressed and NOT being able to get laid at the same time... because sometimes getting laid is the best anti-depressant there is. You might still want to kill yourself, but at least, you'll want to kill yourself a lot less after some pussy.

So, I think the best way to do this is to not try to do it yourself. Find a coach, or some guys who are better then you and hang around them. This skillset is no different then trying to get in shape for example. You don't just wake up when you're 300lbs overweight and say, 'I'm going to get healthy now' and expect to do be able to do it all on your own. Because just like losing weight, learning game and attraction isn't a overnight thing. If it was, there would be no dating coaches because no one would need it. It's a process but it's learnable and learnable quickly if you're doing it the right way. PM me and we can talk.

But I will give you something. One of my major themes that I always bring up to guys is that of being the 'man'. See, our we are going through such a crazy time in the world. Never has it been harder for men to be 'men'. Our society emasculates men and tells us it's wrong to be a man. On top of that, there is this 'gender neutrality' bullshit stemming in America that attempts to take out the biology in men and women, and make us into neutral robots. This strips men and women of their natural masculinity and femininity. It effects women for sure as well, but it's hit men way, way harder. This is why so many men these days struggle with game, and life in general. Unfortunately instead of trying to figure it out, they re-treat into video games, porn, drugs, etc, anything to take reality away and instill a false reality instead. You have to learn to find your masculinity and be a man with women. Take the lead, take charge, lead the interaction, go for the kiss, for the close, etc. These things are what is required to get laid and have a great dating life. Shoot me a pm and we can talk more.

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