This is not about pick up or approach.Instead it is about a getting a girl you already know into a relationship or just maybe to sleep to you. This will take a little work though.

often we hear girls love a good listener or we need no listen more or be a better listener. The problem with this is often guys like that end up in the friend zone or don't understand what that will do for them or think they come off as too passive. This will be a more cynical way to explain how to do it.

the best way to a girls heart is through her emotions. I cant stress this enough emotion = path to attraction. when you invoke her emotions you will win her. too many people think about how they can make themselves more attractive and confident with out thinking of why this impacts the girl. lots of times when she talks it will be 90% bull shit we don't care about but fight through the BS and learn to listen for the golden nuggets of information in the pile of shit. men who are good listeners and end up in the friend zone dont find and use the golden nuggets of info.

what we look for is when she gets emotional in the conversation and note what it is that brings out her emotion. Desire love anger ect. once you find what it is ( subject person what she is missing in life) and how she feels bring those things up in conversation at the right time and make her feel the emotion you want her to feel at that time then we is emotional she is more likely to drop her guard and let you swindle her and you can make an emotion like desire be attributed to you because she fells desire when around you or you can help her with her desires or bring out love and desire and add to it. invoke anger over a situation or person she feels she is allowed do pour out her anger and have you can be there to comfort her and she will attribute a calming mood to you. find this she is embarrassed to talk about and be open to talk to her about it and she will feel safe to open up to you.

use her emotions the right way listen and find out what invokes her emotion and she will feel close to you and then you can make your move.