Hi guys,
So I have a pretty tricky one that I'm not sure how to handle, and I can really do with some advice. In fact, I'm not even sure where to fit it in this forum!
I have this 'situation' going on at work with this scandinavian girl. The top-level summary is: she has a boyfriend and I have a pretty strict 'don't shit where you eat' rule, so I tried to stay away from her despite she being super attractive and fun and interesting and totally 'my type' (we have like one million things in common). Also, I'm pretty happy living a single life, I've been dating quite a lot of women lately, been having lots of sex, and I'm not really after the complications that would come with messing around with someone at work. However, despite my best efforts, we became closer and closer, we have a lot of banter going, which became more and more flirtatious. We often take coffee breaks together, we get lunch together (not every day, but quite often). Every time we go out for drinks also with other colleagues she gives me lots of hints and she escalates with me, finding excuses to get physically close to me, giving me massages, grabbing my hands, sitting on my laps. She's totally fine with me reciprocating this, however the other night we were both quite drunk and we were walking towards the tube and in a moment of loosing control I tried to kiss her and she basically dodged me. Again we were super intoxicated so luckily I don't remember much, however this was quite annoying since a) she's the one who usually triggers flirty behaviours, b) I'm the one with the strict don't shit where you eat rule and c) now I feel like an ass since I basically feel like I got rejected.
After that episode I was totally up for letting that go, but she keeps dropping me hints, like she texts me ambiguous things like "you foreigners are not to be trusted... you steal all the girls (eventually)" (yepp I'm foreigner), and tomorrow **we decided to ditch work together so she can come and hang out at my place**. She seems to have totally forgotten about me trying to kiss her, or at least she's pretending to. She sometimes even gives me little jealous fits when other female colleagues get too close to me.
The other problem is that I'm fancying her more and more... she's totally growing on me, I'm developing some sort of one-itis over her. I'm really confused by her behaviour, I don't know whether I'm over-reading things and she actually simply friendzoned me really hard, or if she's playing some mind-fuck games with me, or if she fancies me too but she's confused too since she has a boyfriend and we are colleagues so she basically also doesn't know what tha fuck she's doing.
I feel like the best thing I should do is to live this be. Again, I'm seeing quite a lot of other women, I have lots of my plate, and I don't really need this. But she's quite special, one of those that I know I'd regret in the years to come if I don't at least try to pursue. Also she's super popular in the office and lots of other guys have their eyes set on her and it would totally piss me off if she'd end up fucking someone else...
I guess I'm after a double advice: do you guys reckon I should forget about her and move on or pursue her? And if you reckon I should do the second, how would you guys suggest I'd make my next moves?
Thanks a lot in advance for your help!
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