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...Make it seem like if she treats you wrong, there's plenty of other girls waiting for you!!
This I definitely agree with. Make her have to work to keep your attention. Not so much that it's undoable or offensive to her...just enough to for her to realize that she has to put some work into your relationship too.
I believe that jealousy is mainly caused by our own insecurities. You got your girlfriend...if she leaves you, you can get another one. Just remember that. Just because you are dating, in an LTR, or even married simply does not mean that neither you nor your SO will ever feel sexually attracted to anyone else. You both will. Realize that as a reality, and it should help with your jealousy. What you both choose to do with your other sexual attractions is what matters. You can deny it, put distance between yourselves and the object of attraction, you can cheat, you can swing with others...there's a few choices. But just realize that those attractions will always be there and there's nothing wrong with feeling those attractions...what you decide to DO with those attractions are what matters. Don't let the green-eyed monster rule you...take control of your emotions and act like the self-confident and secure guy who snagged your girlfriend in the first place.
My wife is very emotionally attached to her young boy-toy right now, and she's feeling some hurt over that. I really don't feel any jealousy over that...I'm trying to comfort her, actually, but I'm also quite irritated at all the drama she's creating over it, but I don't feel any jealousy over it. If she were to decide to leave me for an unemployed 22 yr old who doesn't like kids, I'm not going to stop her. If she's stupid enough to make a decision like that, I don't need her anyway.
My inflation-adjusted $0.02.
Gruuve