Hi!
I need some advice from the brains trust of the PUA forum
Sorry this is kind of long, but I'll try to keep it as short as possible.
Firstly, I live in Australia and this girl I really like lives in Singapore. We are both well off, both are 29yo, and are from the same ethnicity. We met through Tinder, I changed the location to Singapore for fun and we matched and started talking.
She eventually gave me her number and then we started chatting on SPAM. She told me that she's actually visiting her girlfriends in a few months in my city and wants me to come along. I obliged to book a hotel room for us two.
Basically for the first week it was just casual 'get to know you.' We talked about family, jobs, living locations, places to visit when she's here, favourite music/movies, talking about places we've visited etc. We've added each other on fb. We've done SPAM and SPAM phone/video calls.
Anyway she's seen my gym videos etc on facebook
and things started getting sexier from that point on wards.
She started asking me what my favourite position is, what I would do to her in my hotel room when she comes down etc. She mentioned that she's out of practice and really does not have much experience and she joked that we can practice in the gym, outside or in our hotel room.
We then started talking about the relationships we've been in. She mentioned that her first relationship was when she was 28, she's been in 4 since. Apparently the first guy couldn't move his jaw and could not kiss, the other two were abusive and non vegetarians and she didn't want to kiss. She didn't kiss the fourth one but she lost her virginity to him. She says she never hooked up with anyone and that when she's with someone she would never cheat on him. She hates cheaters.
Anyway I had a work trip and ended up meeting her in person. I found her to be caring, smart and sweet. She seemed genuine and took me around the city the whole time. We made out, she said that I was the first guy she's ever kissed and I showed her how to french kiss. She had tears in her eyes and apparently because she's never felt that type of feeling of being kissed before. The feeling I got was that she actually doesn't have experience in kissing. She started crying when it was my last day and called me up before my flight to tell me that she loves me (at this point it's been almost 2 months).
In our recent conversations she's basically been saying the two things she likes most is sleeping and sex. Okay fair enough, me too...
She told me that she was meeting her first ex for lunch after 1 year and reassured me that I have nothing to worry about, she said they were meeting for 2 hours. Apparently she meets him once a year because she feels obligated to check-in with him as she dumped him when he was going through an emotionally hard time and she feels sorry for him. Apparently he wanted her to come to a place where they used to hang out, near his hotel room. But she told me that she didn't want to travel far so she told him to come to a closer place. Anyway 1.5 hours later she calls me and freaks out that her ex is a different person now and how she hates him, he's become the type of guy she would swipe left on Tinder. She left early and she mentioned she'll ignore him from now on - but she won't remove him from fb.
A day after we spoke, and she repeated how she can't believe how much her ex has changed, apparently her ex bragged to her about the no. of girls he's shagged etc which made her disgusted. I asked her if he touched her, and she said in a panicked way "No! No! I would never let him touch me.' In the same conversation she told me if I ever had sex without condoms...and that she's had sex without condoms with the only guy she's ever had sex with (4th ex). Apparently they only had sex whenever she had periods so that she wouldn't become pregnant. She also admitted after I asked her that she gave a blowjob to her third or fourth ex but didn't like it.
At that point I asked her up front on the phone, 'Why are you telling me all of this?' Her response was so that she can get it out of the way.
I can't believe how sexual the conversations turned within past 2 months. I mean, we still talk a lot of stuff that's not sex related but she does mention quite a bit that my voice makes her horny and she always messages me that she's about to masturbate to relieve herself. She also mentioned once that she was about to 'change her diaper' as she's in her period. On this other occasion, she told me over phone how the 'shower spray' at her work place gave her an orgasm etc. And...she also mentioned that she's sick of masturbating and looking forward to seeing me again to get the real thing.
Now! My question is this, can I really trust this girl? I really like her but all my friends are saying that she's hiding something and that she actually has a lot more experience with guys than she is letting on, aka...she's likely a loose cannon.
But thinking back to when I met her in real life, what we shared over the long weekend seemed very genuine. I want to trust her about her past history, but man, can't get over the fact of how horny this girl is over SPAM and phone call.
I mean, if she's talking like this, is it likely that she is hiding something??
Thanks
PS: We haven't had a 'exclusivity' talk yet but she refers to herself as my girlfriend and that she doesn't want me trying to pickup other girls.
CHAT
