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An indecisive and/or procrastinating pot smoker? Who knew!
Why not broach the subject with her staying with yourself (e.g., how you have your concerns around building security in a relationship with her drug use)?
Don't come out of a blaming energy, moreso be inquisitive and create an air of collaboration "can you help me meet this need so i can feel safe in this relationship?" sort of thing. Otherwise things continue and resentment takes hold at which point the relationship will suffer.
thanks for the advice, but lately we were working on fixing things in our relationship and we're fresh out of a long talk and i didn't really think about it during the talk, but rather after, and i don't think it's appropriate to bring this up right now..
what are your thoughts about this?
A relationship is a partnership of sorts, a 'collaborative' narrative the two of you are co-authoring.
If you're fearful of speaking your needs in a relationship, what type of a narrative are you creating moving forward with this other person?
If you've already had a long talk, by all means give things some space to cool down if you need to do so in order to come out of the 'right' energy. The only caveat to this is if you go silent on your needs indefinitely awaiting that 'perfect moment' to bring it up.
On a separate note, I am curious as to what does "fixing things" look like to the two of you?