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Yes you did lost power by giving her the dessert at the other side of the town, a confident strong man who is the boss in the relationship would tell her its ridiculous to go all the way back for a fucking desert and she would understand if she respects you, clearly you made mistakes before the desert incident as otherwise she would not go cold like that.
I'm sorry, but this is stupid. It's just as stupid as you having a favorite beer served at the other side of town and having your confident strong girlfriend tell you it's ridiculous to go there for a fucking beer. Go drink the piss water we have at the local pub.
What the hell man? You're talking about a girlfriend. Stop treating your women like competition. You're supposed to be a team.
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What ive learned, in the beginning of the relationship is you set the boundaries early on. I have a friend of mine who has a girlfriend who really really likes sushi, he is the typical nice guy and don't have a lot of money now because of car problems and rent to pay, however she will get mad/frustrated with him if they don't order sushi 3 times a week ( he always need to pay... although he refuses a bit always ends up paying) confident men who are in control laugh about this but its a reality for many men and i am sure your one of them, the guy who let the girl take control so she is not mad/frustrated.
You know what she does when we go out, flirt with guys, tell him his dick is small as a joke but still, in short completely walks all over him but this is not her fault, its his for letting a person treating him this way.
That has nothing to do with setting boundaries. A boundary is "I hate dating insecure women who feel the need to go through my phone". And if she's the type, you don't date her.
However when a woman walks all over you that's not an issue of setting boundaries, it's an issue of you being willing to endure just about anything for an occasional piece of ass.
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When a person, friend or gf or anyone wants something and you don't for obvious reasons (no money, long drive for a desert) you tell them and if they go grumpy or whatever stand your ground and not give in because when you do they will keep pushing you until you fall and lose all your self respect. Become the guy with options so people give you respect and will treat you with respect.
Just found this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/do ... nd.184662/ Read it through a couple of times and LEARN from it, this is exactly what happens to relationships ending!
Lesson learned i hope
IT'S A DESERT. Jesus Christ, be normal. If you don't feel like it then tell her to go alone or that you'll go some other time, but this does not need to become a matter of standing your ground. You make it sound as if you're trying so hard to be the "man" of the relationship simply because you're not particularly in the mood for something.
And it's fine to not be, but that doesn't mean your girl needs to blindly obey your every command because it makes you feel more of a man.
Balance. Use it.