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We instantly had very strong chemistry – our dates always lasted at least 7-8 hours. We kissed on the first date, and it seemed it was naturally transitioning into relationship territory…
So the chemistry was so awesome, you yapped for 8 fucking hours?
Sounds boring.
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talking everyday on the phone, holding hands, etc. You know, the lame stuff haha. At one point she asked me if I “wanted to move forward with this”, to which I replied “yes”.
Translation:
"Do you have a dick, Portugal? I'm getting bored, and want to party/fuck. You're not leading like a dominant male."
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Last time we were together in my house, she gave me a handjob and I fingered her, as she was a bit reluctant to go into full-fledged sex. I just assumed she wanted to take things slow as her last relationship ended somewhat recently (2 months or something ago).
I doubt it.
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So last night, we went out and me and her each brought some friends.
Why?
Why do men do this? Are you a grown man, or a frat boy bro?
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She went home early because she was tired from working all day.
Translation: "I don't want to get physical with you. Something you're doing is turning me off."
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As soon as she got home, she texts me “I’m home. We need to have a talk”. At this time, I was already at home too and so I called her.
Here’s what she had to say: “I like being with you, but I feel like I need to be honest with you. I don’t feel very comfortable with the physical things we do. When we kiss, I don’t feel the way you do because I’m in a fragile state right now.”
She doesn't like what you're doing physically.
Early on, pay attention less to what women say, and more to what they do.
After you kissed, she went home early. She won't let you have sex with her.
Why? IMHO, she doesn't feel safe with you, because you're not acting masculine.
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When I asked her if it had to do with her last ex, she said “no”, that she is completely over him (although I know her ex plays a part in this situation). I also asked her if she needed time, to which she replied “I don’t know”. She came off as very confused to be honest…
Yes. She's confused because something you are doing is turning her off.
You need to completely stop being her psychiatrist, and not ever worry about her "fragile state". What you need to worry about is showing up and being the best you can be in terms of a potential lover. That means being chill, indifferent, and setting up meets at your home, not going on fucking group dates.
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After this “talk”, we talked a bit more like we normally do. She even said next week she had more free time and that we should do something.
Cool. What's wrong with that? don't contact her for a week, then invite her over for Netflix.
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So here’s my question: what can I do right now to make things go smoothly? On one hand, I really like this girl, she’s exactly my type and we have a lot in common (especially moral values, which is very rare with me)
Who gives a fuck about the moral values right now. Does she make you smile? Does she turn you on? Does she make you laugh?
A rigid agenda early on makes you look needy, not casual and fun.
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and I’m willing to take it easy and fight for her. But on the other hand, I can see this going downhill very fast and eventually ending badly… What do you guys think of her behavior?
Cheers!
I think you're acting needy, and it's pushing her away. Get "relationship" and "moral values" out of your head, because you're projecting that shit onto her.
She pulled back because you aren't acting like an indifferent, chill, fun dominant male. Focus on the moment. Only be fun. Make sure you're a good kisser, lol. Women will pull away or dump you if you're not.
I've got some news for you: Women are not fragile flowers and princesses. They like it dirty. They want fun. They want to catch a buzz, have great sex with lots of orgasms, then lay next to you and have you spill you secrets.
That's it, man. Then we die.
Can you handle the simplicity of science?