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Everyone has their days and their times when they're not going to be in the greatest mood and may accidentally let those feelings out on the people around them. However, if your girl is not staying with you because of one slip up it has little to do with the slip up. She simply just doesn't respect you, or is just not taking you as serious as you're taking her. Im sure you do your best every other day, and thus you think its reasonable that you're not afforded one mistake? How long have you guys been together?
Thanks for the response.
Yeah I get what you're saying but I should've mentioned that this kind of thing isn't really just one slip-up/mistake. One of the reasons our relationship went downhill was because she thought I was acting distant, and similarly acted moody to her, often when she's annoyed me. I guess I'm a little bitch sometimes, and end up just not being a joy to be around sometimes, which then has led her to feeling upset. I know I probably sound a bit pathetic pinning all the blame on myself but tbh, I do keep fucking up hard and making it look like I'm taking her for granted.
She felt it was a really big thing us meeting up after a while, and then when she saw I was acting all aloof and indifferent it just basically reminded her of bad times I guess.
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You should have also included what made her lose trust for you in the first place so we could have a greater understanding of the dynamic of the relationship.
I was meant to meet up with her one day, and ended up getting into a state the night before and I woke up with no phone. She has disapproved of aspects of my lifestyle, when going out with friends, occasional drug use etc.
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My advice to you though is to not bring it up. When you go hang out with her on whatever day that is, just don't bring it up. Do NOT try to appeal to her sympathetic nature again with the whole "I understand how I made you feel". You played that card already. Its done. Just go hang out, and be yourself, and treat the way you always have. If she misses the old you, stop being this apologetic lapdog and be the old you without apology. Don't ask " Are we still together" or none of that. Just be the old you, hang out, and when its time to go you go, and leave the ball in her court from there.
But I agree with this, this is what I've intended on doing. It's what I should've done the last time we met, but she suddenly sprung the suggestion on me that we meet up after a long weekend, and I wasn't feeling it so I should've just said no. So hopefully when we do see each other this time, it'll be different, but I just feel like it's too late for that now and the damage has been done.