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My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months. I thought things have been going very well until this week. During one of our conversations, she was trying to go back on one of her promises that she has made me without a legit reason. I found that extremely disrespectful. I immediately let her know that I really hate people going back on their words and haven't been talking to her much since and have become more distant.
But because of this incident, it made me realize that I am always the one leading and putting in efforts in the relationship and she would just follow and receive. I can't even think of a single time that she planned something or go out of her ways to do something nice for me. And on top of that, she even tried to go back on her words. Quite frankly, it's making me have doubts in this relationship.
But ever since I haven't been talking to her much, I could tell that she really cares about me and she has been trying really hard to initiate conversations with me. My question is: Should I tell her the root issue about how I feel like the relationship is one sided? Or just don't say anything since she's already trying to change.
A couple of things. First, it is your job as the man to take the lead in the relationship. Relationships generally go better when you're the one setting the tone and making most of the important decisions. Feminine women generally respond really well to that and hopefully she's reciprocating in other ways if not taking the initiative in most situations.
As for the lingerie promise, well, why are you so caught up in that? Why do you feel so disrespected because she's not into it or changing her mind? Have an open conversation with her about it. Don't make her wrong for backing out. Relationships aren't about being right all the time. There are far more important things you could be holding her accountable for than that. Plus, you don't want to pressure her to be a certain way sexually. That's only going to shut her down if she's not into it.